Please give me your advice...my younger sister is very overweight.?!
Question: My mom and my sister just moved back to Georgia from Alabama. My sister had a traumatic experience when she was 6 and from then gained alot of weight. She is now 15, is 5'8" and weighs approx 260-270 lbs. I have a local gym that I want her to attend with me. I cant really monitor what she eats because she doesn't live with me. My mom never has eaten healthy either but she isnt over weight.
Can anyone help me figure out a routine for her that wont be to difficult but benefit her the most. I am thinking a realistic weight for her would be 150-170. I mostly do cardio, running.
Please no rude comments. I am truely concerned for her health or I wouldnt bother asking. Thank you for your help.
Answers: My mom and my sister just moved back to Georgia from Alabama. My sister had a traumatic experience when she was 6 and from then gained alot of weight. She is now 15, is 5'8" and weighs approx 260-270 lbs. I have a local gym that I want her to attend with me. I cant really monitor what she eats because she doesn't live with me. My mom never has eaten healthy either but she isnt over weight.
Can anyone help me figure out a routine for her that wont be to difficult but benefit her the most. I am thinking a realistic weight for her would be 150-170. I mostly do cardio, running.
Please no rude comments. I am truely concerned for her health or I wouldnt bother asking. Thank you for your help.
The best way to help her fight weight gain: Become her workout buddy. And try not to preach; set an example instead: Once a week, you can hit the gym together. Each week, change it up and try two or three new workout moves to challenge her mind and body (and yours!). On the Women's Health magazine website, there are two tools I've tried that can be modified for ease: The Ultimate Fitness Guide '08 (http://www.womenshealthmag.com/extras/ap... and the Build Your Own Workout tool (http://www.womenshealthmag.com/files/cus...
Mix it up! Add some new workouts moves you two can try together and you might find your relationship growing--not her waistline. She could use some motivation, pure and simple, and you could be the best one to do it.
You can also suggest she check out a WH article called "Mind Over Fatter"; after reading it, she might find that her friends' and mom's attitude toward food and exercise are rubbing off on her, making it harder to get in shape. A great workout can start with a great workout buddy (like you) and a good state of mind.
First of all, you need to support her and encourage her. Secondly, I would ask her if she would join me for a daily walk, because this would give me (you) a chance to bond and talk and just spend some quality time together. After she loses some weight, you may want to encourage her to speed up the pace and eventually run together.
If she doesn't want to do it, you're not going to get anywhere. Unfortunately, it takes a lot of effort from the person to get themselves to lose weight. You can't just do it for her, she has to want to do it.
That's a VERY dangerous weight for her height. I would plead with her to lose weight. She may get her feelings hurt but a little tough love may keep her around longer.
try talking to your mom about cutting down on sugerary foods, just keeping them out of the house
going to a gym is a great idea, if you do about 20 minutes of cardio and then 1/2 hour of toning/muscle building you will build the most muscle and muscle is what burns fat, also destressing my taking a yoga or pilates is good, stress can cause weight gainif she enjoys dancing try adn get her to take a dance class like hip-hop its cardio and its fun, also just dancing around the house is good excercise, most gyms also have a "boocamp" or fatburning program which would be beneficial
she needs therapy to work out the tragic event issue
then work on her physical health from there
mental health is also important
it all starts with your mind over matter
do you really have other sister ?!
anyways better take a godo diet and do workout , speak with a good DR and ask for some Supplements. good luck
I guess the best thing to do is just get her active with you. Maybe take walks with her a couple times a week, or something else along those lines. Start her slowly so she doesn't get overwhelmed. She has to want this too though.... Keep her motivated and let her know that you care about her health. Good luck!
cardio and your normal calesthenics. she needs to eat right too. first and foremost she needs to be self motivated as well. unless she has a drill instructor yelling at her, she won't want to work out if her heart isn't in it.
Your poor sister... how awful to be that heavy. And good for you for trying to help her. I'd try to get her to do some type of fun activity at first - even if it's just bowling. Something to get her out of her home enviornment and moving. And if she's expressed interest in losing weight, encourage her to give up drinking soda pop. Just by doing that she'll start to lose weight and maybe if she sees improvement, it will lead to a more healthier life style for her.
Thanks for caring for your sister!!
Poor thing!! Obesity is such a sad thing. I think a healthy diet, cardio, and some weight training will help. Try taking her to a dietician. (SP?)
I hope your mom isn't shoving unhealthy foods in her mouth... that is just WRONG!!
does her being overweight make you love her less ,i get so tired of the fat police
Try to encourage her to keep a Food-Diary which is basically a book filled with exactly what you eat everyday. Then after about a wekk or so you could sit down with her and go ovr what she is eating and why it is bad for her and what she could eat instead. E.g: a snack could be changed to an apple or something. Get her to keep writing the diary so you can see her progress. Also get her to do some exercise.
I hav ea sister that is the same way. There was a book called 'The Big Fat ***** Book', seriously, it changed my sisters life. She is now eating healthy and has lost 57 pounds.
She used to weigh 224. Also, be very supportive. Do not put down or ridicule, just support and and lend an open ear.
talk to your mom on helping her eat more healthy. Maybe you could go grocery shopping with her and buy lots more healthy things. and yes she should come to the gym with you but mostly try to upgrade her eating habbits.
First she needs to see a health care provider before doing any exercises. I can see you care a great deal about her, she has to want it herself as well. You can't force your habits onto someone else even if you think and it probably is the best thing for them. Get her to a health care provider, he or she will figure out the correct weight goal for your sister and probably give her some tips on the foods to eat and stay away from. Then you can figure out what exercise would be best for her. Sometimes just starting with walking is the best thing.
i'm 5'8" and i weigh 145, and am not stick thin.....i'd try to get her to eat healthier, and go to the gym w/ you. I 'm not trying to be mean...just help
I sorta went through the same thing
whatever you do DONT be blunt, it may make her worse
Id just suggest if she wanted to go to the gym with you every now and then 'because you want someone to come with you'
tell her its fun
and remember = weight is not a permenant thing, so if you are to tell her she needs to loose weight tell her nicely and remind her theres no need to get upset over being overweight as it can be solved
Well at least walk 30minutes a day with her if not at least by the end of the week make 3hrs of excersice. When she is with you have her drink a lot of water it help the fat loosen and helps you wieght faster.
The thing i hate about diets is that they ristrict you but they dont have to she can eat what she wants but the proportions of what she eats is what really counts so help her reduce the quantity of what she is eating.
I would say that when you approach her on the subject do NOT make her feel uncomfortable about it or like you are trying to "help her". Why not ask her to do fun excercise activities with you first? My sister and i take a water aerobics class together and we laugh and have so much fun we barely even realize it's excercise. What about a fun dance class? Try Zumba! Starting right in on having her join a gym is probably NOT what she wants to do because it doesn't seem like she would like to actually feel like she's "working out". Start small with things that are fun, and then when she realizes excercise can actually be fun and make her feel good maybe you can bring up her going to the gym with you one day. I hope this helps out and good luck!
get her to do some of the biggest muscle strengthening exercises you can do to increase her metabolism, like squats, deadlifts, push ups, chin ups, stomach crunches, and eat spicy food.
all this will increase the rate at which your body breaks down fat to use for fuel. higher metabolism = more fat burned
step 2
cardio everyday
if she want its bad anough, she cant be lazy. if youre lazy you just plain wont lose the weight.
get outside and jog for 1 hour every single day while doing the exercises 3-4 times per week, each time working until your muscles are too sore to do more.
you could box or bike instead of job, but when biking you have to always be peddling, not coasting. running up and down stairs is great too. if you have access to a stadium, go there and run up ALL the stairs in the whole place. its called a tour de stade
get your heart rate up, and get sweaty. dont eat fatty junky crap foods that come out of a box.
no KD, mcdonald, chips, chocolate bars, none of that poison. thats what it is, poison. those fats get stuck in your intestines and never come out. some people have 10 pounds of built up crud from eating chips stuck in their colon
take psyllium husk with water daily.
get it at a healthfood store, its godly
eat lots of fruit
id really push the psyllium husk and green tea
get her to do all of that and go hard and dont skip days, and the weight will melt off of you like a snowman in mexico
Take her running with you, either walk or run cause jogging is bad for your heart. And tell he some initiatives to make her work out like if you get any fatter you'll get heart disease and die, or something more suttle so she will stick to her health. *sorry bad example of what to say* And you could take her excercising with you at the gym, take it easy cause most over weight people have problems with excercising. If she wont eat for herself then I dont think you can help. Remember your life is in your own hands.
Be supportive of her, and don't force her to do anything if she does not want to. I have experience with overweight people, and my general conclusion is that they are often very sensitive about their weight. Try finding an activity that she likes and has fun with. I'd also say that the gym wouldn't be the best place to take her, since it's very public, and she might get upset.
If you are truly concerned, speak to an expert and ask them for help. See if your sister wants to come along to talk to someone about her problem.
That's really all you can do. The main problem for overweigh people is that they usually have some sort of habit that they follow, and are reluctant to break that. It is also very mentally harsh on them, and they can be, as said, very sensitive about discussing it.
BE SUPPORTIVE!
Did she ever get any counseling or help for the "traumatic experience"? If she is still having psychological problems with that she may not think it is worth it to her to exercise. If she doesn't want to go to the gym with you maybe you could just walk and talk to her. Maybe it is a self esteem issue. She has to feel good about herself, even at this weight, before she will be motivated to make any changes. Good luck.
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dont make any mention of what her weight SHOULD be.. it could be very discouraging if she has a lot to lose. Its true that you cant really make her do anything but maybe if she starts out with something small -- take her outside for a walk or if its too cold then just walk around a big mall for a while ... she has to start slow as too much exercise too quickly can really damage her knees. Cardio is her best bet to start off -- perhaps make mention to it with your mom and just ask her to monitor a little more what she eats. Its not going to be easy and i'm sure you'll get a lot of resistance from your sisters end of things but that is an unhealthy weight for anyone let alone someone that young. Good luck in helping your sister and do your best to make it sound like you want to spend more time with her rather than wanting to tackle her weight problem. be patient
I understand your concern for your sister but I think it's going to take more than a gym membership to help her lose weight. She will need to change her eating habits for life.
Actually, maybe you are on the right track here.... do whatever you have to to get her to the gym and try to make it a good, fun experience for her and you. Talk to her about health and nutrition and the importance of regular exercise. You could kinda be like her personal trainer so to speak. Just encourage her in every way possible and help her to stay focused on a healthy future and not whatever the bad thing was that happened in her past.
Good luck to the both of you.
Get her on the low carb diet first.... Point out all the good stuff she can eat... which is alot and point out you can eat as much as you want and snack as long as it is low carb or 0-carb... but to your question for routine. You have to get her into a hobby or physical activity that is fun. The ideal thing would be like you said cardio cardio... I think the trick will be to stay with her and push her for a couple weeks or so until she loses a couple lbs and as soon as she sees how easy it is to lose weight then maybe that will motivate her. You have to get her to realize that its not impossible. Entice her with the reward of buying her new cloths. Go look at cloths she would like to fit into and set that goal.
yeah leave her alone
take her to bootcamp or take her out and dont feed her
I suggest you mind your own business, I myself being obese I can't stand when people ride my @ss about losing weight, don't you think I know I need to lose weight. GO DIE!