My fiance wants me to gain weight even though I weigh nearly 200lb!?!
Question: OK, so I've always had problems finding a boyfriend cos Ive always been a bit on the chubby side. But my fiance is delighted and he even wants me to gain more weight for the wedding. He is from Africa and he says that big women are considered beautiful. If it were up to him he would let me go up to 300lb or something. He is always getting me fattening food like fried chicken and stuff like that. He says he loves me but I still need to put on more weight. Im not so sure.
Answers: OK, so I've always had problems finding a boyfriend cos Ive always been a bit on the chubby side. But my fiance is delighted and he even wants me to gain more weight for the wedding. He is from Africa and he says that big women are considered beautiful. If it were up to him he would let me go up to 300lb or something. He is always getting me fattening food like fried chicken and stuff like that. He says he loves me but I still need to put on more weight. Im not so sure.
Okay well r u happy with yourself?
if he loved you he would accept your descion for you to stay how you are.
wow. tough but he should accept your body and so should you
tell him no
Girl, DONT do that.........excess weight is not an overall good thing health wise as you know. HE's from Africa, NOT you, right? He needs to get over himself. Never do anything YOU dont want to do.
You shouldn't gain more weight. It is unhealthy and can cause health problems. Gaining weight will lessen your lifespan and will cause diabetes. I think your fiance would prefer that you live longer over you gaining weight.
tell him about the health implications
Is it worth your health? Tell him that as much as you would like to be big for him, you don't want it to sacrifice the time you will have with him here. At your weight you probably already have some health risks, but if you gain even more you will be in greater danger. Shortening your life is not worth it. Not to mention that later on in life if you try to have children in might be harder to get pregnant. Be sure and tell him how happy you are that he loves you the way you are now, and that you hope that he'll understand your decision. Lots of luck to you!
if you don't want to don't your fiance is also increasing your chance of a heart attack with all those high calorie foods
200lb is unhealthy. You should tell him it's not good for your health to be overweight, as you can get diabetes. If he loves you he'll understand. Now I would not eat any of the fattening food and drink lots of water whenever you're hungry and it's not a meal. For your meals eat veggies, fruits, and low calorie foods. You can use the calculator below to find out how many calories you burn, and you can decide from there how many calories you should eat a day. For example, if you burn 2,000 calories a day you may want to eat 1,000 calories a day. You should drop about 2 pounds a week and you will feel much healthier.
thats pretty much the same thing as if he was telling you were fat and only letting you eat celery.
if you don't want to gain weight, tell him to deal with it because you're already too hot for him :)
some people like more junk in their womens trunk than others. more cushion for the pushin.
Don't do it!, full figured women may well be beautiful in his country, but you are putting yourself at an extreme health risk. The foods he is giving you, are very high fat, and before long you would have clogged arteries, which could result in heart problems, and high cholesterol. Is he really worth these problems??
In western nations like the U.S. thin is attractive. In most of the world, being heavy, has always been a sign of wealth and ability to nurse children. Thin meant you were to poor to have food and to nurse children. This use to also be true in the western world. If you look at the early part of 20th century history and even during the time of Marilyn Monroe (!950's and 60's) the standard for beauty was women who had a little more meat on them. Your fiance is from a part of the world were thin is poor and heavy is wealthy and attractive. Explain to him we have different cultural norms here and that you have to be happy with yourself in order to be a good campanion for him.
You have got yourself a problem man there. Do you realise that you are signing your death warrant by getting so fat? You can get diabetes from being overweight, high blood pressure and eating badly. You can get heart disease, hardening of the arteries and high cholesterol. Is this, plus your planned circumcision and your lip disc, plus showering in cow