How can I start loving myself, when I hate my body?!
Question: I'm 23, and overweight. I hate the way I look.
Answers: I'm 23, and overweight. I hate the way I look.
First, you need to find out why you "hate" yourself, weight is not the reason, it's a symptom of something else that is going on with you. Have you talked to your Doctor? I used to be severely depressed, and just wanted to eat, and hide, from the world, but, now, because of anti-depressants, my life is different, and weight is not an issue. Many anti-depressants DO cause weight gain, wellbutrin is one that GENERALLY does not, but everyone is different. Please see a Doctor, I promise you, you can get out of this funk. Just because a person looks good on the outside, doesn't mean they like themselves any better than you. we all have problems, work from the inside out.Thyroid problems can cause weight gain, and depression, get this checked.
what part of your body do yoou like? examine your body what you like and what you dont try new ways (clothes/make up) to alter the parts you dont like. take dressing tips from trinny and susannah how do dress for your size.
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First of all, hating yourself because you have a couple extra pounds hanging around is a cop-out. The most attractive people all have tow thigns in common: A smile and self-confidence. That said....
If you just don't like the way you look, do something about it to make yourself more confident. Start with something easy to change, like a new hair style or hair color. It's amazing how something so simple can make you feel better. If you wear glasses, get hip new ones or contacts. Are your clothes getting you down? Pitch out a few of your worst offenders and buy a couple new things that are fashion forward and very different from what you already own. Make sure they fit your body-type and coloring nicely.
Once you change a couple superficial things you'll feel so much better...that's the time to start on the bigger issues, like getting into better shape if that's what you want.
I'm a firm believer in "love the one you're with". You may feel like your body doesn't look the way you want it to, but hey, it's you, so start loving yourself for who you are and get over it. Most people would like to look like a model and let's face it, that's just impossible. Change what you can change, accept what you can't, and forgive yourself for not looking like a supermodel.
I have had some health issues and have some really bad scars on my abdomen. At first, the horror of my perfect body being destroyed was pretty devastating, but I've slowly learned to love the scars too, because they're part of me, and I rock! You do too.
if you hate it then do something about it, diet and exercise, get in shape and become more confident in yourself
I had the same problem. The only thing I could do was do something about it. I made the decision to change my lifestyle (diet, thinking, etc) a year and a half ago.
Now, I am about 60 pounds lighter (from 280 to 220-225). I am giving myself six months to lose about 20 more pounds of fat. I already like what I see, and my self esteem has shot back up.
But I had to make that tough decision.
What did I do:
1. I stopped drinking so much.
2. I dropped fast food
3. I decided to be patient.
Trust me, there are times when I want to go crazy (even now), but I look at how hard I've worked and I tell myself it isn't worth it, because that's the same behavior that caused me to be overweight in the first place.
Ok, I know this isn't going to sound all that appealing at the start...but you really gotta get motivated to exercise. Exercise, doesn't matter what kind, releases endorphins from your body that naturally make you happy! I've been in the exact same situation as you, trust me, I was so grumpy all the time because I felt lazy and didn't want to do anything about my weight, I just wanted to magically lose the weight. Sometimes you gotta force yourself out to the gym for the first time to really get it. Once you do though, you'll thank yourself for pushing so hard. Once you have that feeling of accomplishment, like you're doing something to feel and/or look better, it'll all go up from there darling. Also, there are tons of healthy foods that naturally make you feel relaxed and happy. Try fruit, it really works! especially with bananas - although not everyone likes them. Next time you go grocery shopping, try buying some fruit salads, they're soo good!
Hope this helps :( feel better love.
Change! Change what you can, and accept the rest. Hair color, eye color...all "parts of your body" are unique to you.. can and should be accepted and loved. (Or dye your hair and get colored contact lenses if you hate your hair/eye color)
As far as how you are built and your fat level. That is 100% in your hands. If you're overweight and "hate the way you look", then, by golly..CHANGE it! Start on a diet...get active.
Basically, just focus on what you do like. I'm sure there is something you like about yourself. Also, confidence always makes people ten times more beautiful. So, don't think so much about your body and more about other things such as hobbies or friends or something.
First and foremst, that is step one. You are aware that changes need to be made.
Begin with an easy workout and work your way to harder as you progress. Eat 5 small meals a day starting with breakfast then every 2.5 to 3 hours apart.
Start thinking more positive for one. Be more enthusiastic about life and welcome the challenge of physical fitness goals.
Believe in you, change what need to be changednad be happy with who you are.
The first thing you have to know is that God loves you just the way you are. You are not a mistake. He doesn't make junk. You may have made some bad choices in your life that brought you to the state that you're in, but you don't have to continue on that path. You need to identify what you're doing, or not doing, then try to change one thing at a time. Don't try to go all out with an extreme diet and exercise routine. If you mess up, you're liable to drop the whole thing. Instead, choose one thing to start with. Like, cutting out sodas, or breads, or something like that. Once you can see or feel a difference, and you have that under control, continue to make other changes. Weight Watchers is working for me. The weekly accountability makes a huge difference. Also, you eat real food, not some strange, expensive, packaged foods.
Remember to not beat yourself up if you slip. You're human. This didn't happen over night, it will take some time to take it off. Ask God for help. He's right there waiting.