14, 5'3" and 97 Pounds?!


Question: I've always had a bad self image. I hate having to wear a bikini, because I have to wear a bikini, because i have to have the padded top pieces because I'm literally really flat chested. I've always been a bit chubby, especially round my middle. I want to know if I am fat, but don't send me the whole BMI thing because, I already do that about 4 times a day. I want to be thinner, so badly. SO badly. I'm not the kind of person who has a lot of friends. I find it hard to trust people, and I'm scared they read me all over. I have a sister, but we have never been and will never be close to her. I don't get on with my mum at all. I had an aunt, but she committed suicide. I need to loose weight, because i can't, i cannot die when I'm still fat. Please help me, everything is going wrong. Don't tell me to see anyone, i have to do this by myself.


Answers: I've always had a bad self image. I hate having to wear a bikini, because I have to wear a bikini, because i have to have the padded top pieces because I'm literally really flat chested. I've always been a bit chubby, especially round my middle. I want to know if I am fat, but don't send me the whole BMI thing because, I already do that about 4 times a day. I want to be thinner, so badly. SO badly. I'm not the kind of person who has a lot of friends. I find it hard to trust people, and I'm scared they read me all over. I have a sister, but we have never been and will never be close to her. I don't get on with my mum at all. I had an aunt, but she committed suicide. I need to loose weight, because i can't, i cannot die when I'm still fat. Please help me, everything is going wrong. Don't tell me to see anyone, i have to do this by myself.

I'm so so so sorry you feel this way.

You need to talk to someone. 5'3" and 97 lbs is not fat. You have a negative self image and need to seek help from a professional, not just people on the a forum. I hope you find what you are looking for.

your a good weight for your age so stop worrying about your self image, you have plenty time for that lol!!!!

You are super super skinny!! I wouldn't be suprised if you have a body dysmorphic disorder (BDD) (also known as "Thje Ugly Duckling Syndrome") or anorexia. Seriously, talk to your doctor. I suffer from BDD which is essentially obsessive compulsive negative thinking about your self image specifially about a certain "flawed" body part. It has bothered me for many years, I'm also obsessive compulsive. Since you are constantly checking your BMI Im sure you have some sort of OCD. Also, since you have had a family member who has committed suicide, there is a good chance depression runs in your family. Like I said previously, talk to your doctor or to a school counselor. You can't do this by yourself. Trust me, I've tried for years. I posted a link about BDD in the source section.

Umm, if you lose anymore weight, you'll become anorexic.
Maybe it's just you that think you are fat, when really you're not
5ft 3 = 97 pounds is really thin
Try toning yor self by doing crunches or situps instead of losing weight
If you still think you're fat, post a picture of you and ask others

You'll never get boobs if you keep trying to get scrawny. The Ethiopian look is NOT hot. You are only 14, you won't get much in the way of boobs unless you eat healthy and until you're around 16. So eat good and take care of yourself. Or you'll be doomed to be flat.

your definately not fat at that height and weight. but let me tell you honey, being skinny doesnt give you more friends or make you a better person. you need to work on your feelings about yourself not on losing weight .

Hey, don't worry, you're not fat. I'm sorry to hear that your aunt passed away. I can see that things are going a little rough on you. But having a negative self image isn't going to change any of those. If you start looking at things differently, starting off from your body image, it'd be great. Your body is real nice by the way.

I'm your age, 5'2 or 5'3 and about your weight. I don't consider myself fat. So don't worry about it. And as for your flat chested thing, you dun have to try to make it bigger or anything. You still have so many years to bloom into a beautiful girl.

No one has to go through anything by themself. If you need any help, just e-mail me kay? All the best in life. =)





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