Why does my mom say im fat?????!
Question: Ok so Im new at this but here goes. Im 17 and my mom always keeps telling me Im fat. Since i go to a boarding skl in the states i only see her in Dec for about two months and the first thing she said to me last time was, you've put on weight. and ok, im not your avergae joe skinny girl. I have big bones, i'll admit it. and my arms are flabby, but im a size twelve (UK size) and so i dont think thats too fat really. Plus all my friends always tel me im fine the way I am right now (except some girly friends who tel me im fat as well but nm). It really sucks that my mom keeps labouring on it SHe used to be the skinniest girl in class and her biggest disappointment is that Im not. Im a straight A student and all so im really trying to make her happy but i cant change the way i am built. Recently i stated smoking to stop food cravings and im even thinking of buying pills or making myself throw up. i know its unhealthy but i just dnt know what to do - i already exercise and run daily =(
Answers: Ok so Im new at this but here goes. Im 17 and my mom always keeps telling me Im fat. Since i go to a boarding skl in the states i only see her in Dec for about two months and the first thing she said to me last time was, you've put on weight. and ok, im not your avergae joe skinny girl. I have big bones, i'll admit it. and my arms are flabby, but im a size twelve (UK size) and so i dont think thats too fat really. Plus all my friends always tel me im fine the way I am right now (except some girly friends who tel me im fat as well but nm). It really sucks that my mom keeps labouring on it SHe used to be the skinniest girl in class and her biggest disappointment is that Im not. Im a straight A student and all so im really trying to make her happy but i cant change the way i am built. Recently i stated smoking to stop food cravings and im even thinking of buying pills or making myself throw up. i know its unhealthy but i just dnt know what to do - i already exercise and run daily =(
Never EVER! take pills or thow up!! it should be how YOU FEEL, not what other people say! If you are happy stay that way! dont ruin your health for them! If you are not happy with your weight then you know exercise a bit more and eat healthier, like raw fruit and veg, less meat and fast foods and all. if you do try and not eat or make yourself sick once you lost the weight, you'll start eating healthy again and put all of it back on and twice as fast as it was lost.. Don't ruin your health to lose wiehgt it could shorten your life!..Trust me im the same, im a heavy build but im losing slowly but surely and healthily. good luck! xx
your mom thinks she is fat. she feels bad about herself. dont hurt yourself. you really need to get encouragement from another adult, and stop listening to you mom. tell her would she rather see you dead or the skinnyest girl in the class? you cant please your mom, its impossible. its your choice, your moms "happiness" or your own life. I suggest you choose your life. ok? :)
Well, what's your height and weight?
If you're a skier, it's likely you have a lot of that weight from pure muscle, which will obviously make you weigh more.
I'm willing to bet that your mother is overreacting and is being an irresponsible parent.
u r fine!! ignore ure mom..she puts u down cuz she doesnt love herself...ure perfect!
Ignore what your mother is saying. She obviously has some problems about her own weight which is why she is picking on you. It's very common for people with problems of their own to put others down so they feel better. She isn't doing it to hurt you. She thinks she is helping you by saying it because she doesn't like the way your body looks. As long as you like your body, she's going to have to deal. Tell her that it's your body and that she needs to leave you alone. There is nothing wrong with your weight and your shouldn't hurt yourself just because your mother's not happy with the way you look.
omg i feal for you girl! your mom should not put you down like that! dosn't she know that ruins your self-esteem? she should be proud of you for being a straight A student! drugs is NOT the answer! sure you might get thinner, but you'll still be unhealthy. the only thing you can do is continue excercising and eat healthier.
thanks for sharing
your mom is a BITCHHHHHHH
screw that! dont go messing up your health to please her.
i know you love her but she will probably find some other thing to nag you about if you lose weight.
and this is probably either because she wants what's best for you (throwing up isn't) or she's unhappy with something in her life and is taking it out on you.
it is NOT worth it. be happy with who you are and forget those who aren't. [=
If all your mom sees when she looks at you is fat, than she is no real mom. Tell her how it makes you feel. Dont let it get to you. if she sent you off to boarding school than that makes what you said even worse. Dont make yourself throw up or take any pills. That could kill you. Please just ignore your mom and if you want to lose weight than do it in a healthy way.
Don't smoke anymore & don't take pills. It's not your physique that your mom is troubled with. She has nothing in common to talk to you about & frankly doesn't really know you as a person. So she says something negative which is only a reflection of her negative self esteem & guilt for neglecting you to that school. Just smile & change the subject to something positive. Maybe you two can bond more if you go for a walk together. When she mentions your weight, just immediately say "you wanna go for a walk with me?" If she says no, then just go by yourself. It will help ease your frustrations to walk even alone.
Which one would you choose?
#1 Do drugs to get skinny. Sure, you'll be unhealthy and will probably die later on, if not soon, but hey, your mom will be happy.
#2(pick this one, for your own good!!!) Stay just the way you are. Why should you throw your life away starving yourself and feeding your body the sick poision that is in cigarettes, just to please your mom? Don't make her self esteem issues your issues!!!
NOT A VERY NURTURING PERSON IS SHE? SOME PEOPLE JUST SAY NASTY THINGS FOR THE SAKE OF SAYING THE.M. BE HAPPY WITH WHO YOU ARE.
Size 12 is a perfectly average size in the Uk... I am Uk too. Your mother sounds like a total idiot, no offence and next time she says something, you should remind her that size 12 is one of the most common sizes worn in the Uk and is considered perfectly normal. It is when you get to size 16 + that you need to worry. As long as you eat healthily and keep fit, I see no reason to worry.