Soccer good help for my little sister?!
Question: she has not many friends but me and my mum think soccer will be a great way to make new friends instead of moving schools. she doesn't know what to do because she is scared they may make fun of her or something. do you think soccer will help her get new friends and help her have abit more fun in life? i played soccer when i was younger and found it fun but for a girl what do you think? how do i tell her not to worry because they wont treat her like crap and they will be a team?
she hasn't met or known anybody from the team she might end up in and i don't think they'll be mean she is just abit of a scaredy cat to make new friends. also because she has been really sick with things we think this is a good thing for her to try and build up life skills and team work confidence. do you agree what is your thoughts on how to convince her that it will be fun and not horrible?
Answers: she has not many friends but me and my mum think soccer will be a great way to make new friends instead of moving schools. she doesn't know what to do because she is scared they may make fun of her or something. do you think soccer will help her get new friends and help her have abit more fun in life? i played soccer when i was younger and found it fun but for a girl what do you think? how do i tell her not to worry because they wont treat her like crap and they will be a team?
she hasn't met or known anybody from the team she might end up in and i don't think they'll be mean she is just abit of a scaredy cat to make new friends. also because she has been really sick with things we think this is a good thing for her to try and build up life skills and team work confidence. do you agree what is your thoughts on how to convince her that it will be fun and not horrible?
hey i played soccer since i was seven till right now. My best friends were my soccer team mates. We would have soo much fun at games and practices. I never wanted to miss andy games are practices. I made soo many new friends on soccer and i was really close with them. Playing on a team makes you feel special. You are actually part of something.
yes, i think playing soccer is a great thing to do. i made many friends when i played.
First, before I'd send her to soccer, I'd consider why she doesn't have friends. She may be a solitary person who likes to read. But, you mention she is scared. Right away that suggests to me she has had some bad experiences. Girls can be cruel! That said, they can be the most compassionate friends for life.
Your sister's issue may not be so much to be sent into a group of girls while she still has fears, but to get a few counseling sessions to learn new behaviors. In the session she and her counselor would discuss what exactly it is she fears. How likely what she fears would actually happen, and then discuss coping skills or how to address the situation if what she fears were to happen.
It's kind of like being fore-armed if you will. She will have the tools for coping with the situation and these tools could benefit her the rest of her life. Counseling IS a really good investment. Maybe $30 USD per session with health insurance.
Then, I'd say to go over a list of sports or a list of social activities. She may not be a sports bug. She may be a thinker, who would be more geared to a chess club or some environmental group or kids who help kids with cancer. Who knows?
But really, as a big brother, get to the root of her fears. She may have been bullied. Find out how she was bullied. What was said and how were they bullying her. Then you may know where she's coming from. Take it from there. Relate a story from your own life and how you handled it. Even have her practice talking back as if you are the bully. If you can see her fear, rational or irrational, and it is more than you, other family or friends can help with--then seek counsel. Counseling is a real "short-cut" so to speak because counselors see patterns in behavior all the time. They know how to offer strategies for helping. That's what they were trained to do. They don't offer drugs. Only docs can.
So, in so many word it may be about confidence and self-esteem. I don't know, so just tossing this element of situation your direction.
Best of luck. It's wonderful that you care enough to involve yourself in her life in such a caring way.
Now get out there and practice some soccer with her! See if she has fun! Maybe she'll experience that endorphine rush--and confidence. I'm sure you know all about that. You practice alone lots I bet too, eh? Understand she may be a loner!
cheers.