I'm 5'4 and weigh 125lbs. why does my husband all of a sudden thinks i&#!
Question: i had a baby 5 months ago. i will agree that i need to tone up, but he says i weigh too much for my height. why the sudden change in the way he views me? any opinions? or anyone else going through this?
Answers: i had a baby 5 months ago. i will agree that i need to tone up, but he says i weigh too much for my height. why the sudden change in the way he views me? any opinions? or anyone else going through this?
I hate to say it, but your husband is being a douche bag. How about if he loves those extra pounds (which aren't very extra) because they came from you sacrificing your body in order to carry his child.
Of course you won't be as toned as you were before you grew a human inside of you. That's reality. But him making comments is hurtful and unnecessary.
You are not overweight by any means!
Because he is an idiot? Or maybe he is jealous of the attention the baby gets and is just trying to be spiteful. I would ignore him, and unless he is skinny himself, make a point about his own weight?
If he's a huge healthnut and body builder, I might be able to see his shrewd behavior towards you, but he's just being a jerk. Maybe he's fearful you may become overweight if obesity tends to run in your family.
You are far from being overweight for your height.
Dang these stupid guys. My husband says the same thing to me.
I am 5'3 and 103 lbs. He thinks I'm fat. WTF. I guess he likes anorexias. I dunno.
ur not fat
Because he's a Dumb ***!!!! You sound Hot to me! Do you want leave him for me.
Sounds like he might have interest somewhere else. Trying to pick a fight with you.
Your best weight is 115 lbs, but he has no right to talk to you like that.
Sounds like he is just concerned you might 'let yourself go' after having the baby. He probably thinks he is being helpful and motivating instead of shallow and vain. Eat well and look after yourself for you and remember it takes time to get back into shape. Your baby, adjusting to being a new mum and your health are the priority.
Is this your first child together? If it is, his comments come from frustration of being a first time dad. If you two have children together already, maybe he has forgotten how long it takes a body to rebound after having a baby. Maybe his friends or co-workers are ribbing him about it. However, I do not see your height and weight being out of proportion.
Check the following link for your weight chart.
http://www.healthchecksystems.com/height...
I don't know where your frame is; small, med. or large.
But from what I see on the chart, you are not overweight by any means. After having a baby, your belly is probably a bit flabby which means you have to work on it if you want to flatten it out, that is if you had a flat one before the baby.
Is this your first?
I'll tell you what........that sorry son of a ..............gun.........is like some men. As long as you don't have a kid, you can be "woman" "lover" etc. After a child, suddenly you are "mother", dumpy, etc. And he looks at you completely different.
Maybe the demands of a new baby has made you somewhat dumpy.....maybe you wear more "sloppy" clothes, you know, tee shirts, baggy pants, etc.
Maybe the clothes you wore before the baby fit you a bit tight now which just accentuate any rolls you now have that you didn't have.
It would seem to me if he loves you, however, he wouldn't say you weigh too much. I was married 35 years to a wonderful man...............however.............th... first 5 years were like a honeymoon. I then had a baby.....suddenly I felt like a wife and mother and not a lover any more. He never said anything. I always weighed less after my children than I did before getting pregnant. I was lucky. I really looked "wow", but it didn't make any difference with him. No matter how hard I tried to look sexy, slim, etc......the lovin' changed. And it never was the same.
I was widowed after 35 years and married another wonderful man (God is good!!!). I am about 30 pounds heavier than I was back then and we have been married 4 years now and the honeymoon still isn't over......
I doubt weight has much to do with anything.
Try to spruce up your looks and see what happens.
Y'all have to "talk" seriously. After all, has he changed any since you were married? I'll bet he's "let his hair down" a bit, eh?
Good luck to you and congrats. on your baby!!!!
I am an RN
Have you checked your BMI, and apropriate age and weight?
From the online government calculators, your BMI is 21.5 and is a good BMI. 24 was the highest BMI for your height to be considered normal.
Also, your weight is only 5 pounds over the ideal weight for your height and age, so if all you have on you is baby fat, it is not that much, and not that big of a deal. What did you weigh before you got pregnant? The website showed a "safe" weight range of 111-146, so you are well within the medically recommened range.
Have your hubby tell you what he thinks you should weigh...and then have him look at some medical information (ie-just show him the "ideal" weight of 120, and he should see that you are on track). If he doesn't, he is a jerk.
Did he gain any "sympathy" weight while you were pregnant? If so, have him lose weight with you.
At 5'4 your ideal weight would be 120 lbs so 125 lbs is fine. Over 140 lbs could be regarded as overweight.