Overweight boyfriend, need advice?!
Question: Overweight boyfriend, need advice!?
I don't care how he looks!. I fell in love with him when he was chubby and fell in love with him for who he is, not what he looks like!. I'm still attracted to him!. It's all in the face for me, I could care less about body!. He put on about 40 pounds once he got his license about two years ago!. He weighs almost 250 pounds and is just under 6 feet tall!.
He has diabetes in his family as well as a history of heart disease!. I'm concerned about his health!.
He wants to lose weight and frequently makes comments about how he hates the way he looks, he's too fat, I'm too good looking for him, etc!.
I've tried dieting with him and keeping track of our weight!. He insists on eating fast food though!. I've tried educating him about picking healthier foods if he insists on eating out, but to no avail!. I've even tried to get him to just get a small soda and then refill it with water after its gone!. He's so against exercise because it doesn't give immediate results, makes him tired and seems pointless!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
He has diabetes in his family as well as a history of heart disease!. I'm concerned about his health!.
He wants to lose weight and frequently makes comments about how he hates the way he looks, he's too fat, I'm too good looking for him, etc!.
I've tried dieting with him and keeping track of our weight!. He insists on eating fast food though!. I've tried educating him about picking healthier foods if he insists on eating out, but to no avail!. I've even tried to get him to just get a small soda and then refill it with water after its gone!. He's so against exercise because it doesn't give immediate results, makes him tired and seems pointless!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
Well, about three years ago, I was totally out of shape, and couldn't even do 5 real push ups!. I weighed about 228 pounds at 6'0!.
Now I'm in pretty decent shape, taking gymnastics and conditioning for that and tricking(see sources)!. I weigh 185 pounds and I'm 6'1 and much thinner now!. And it feels great, I'm probably in the best shape I've been in since I did soccer camp at age 11!. And it feels GREAT!.
What started me going was wrestling, I decided to take wrestling classes, and oh man was it painful!. I actually was kept going until I run out of the room and throw up in a trash can once!. (Bit of don't eat within three hours of a really hardcore workout)!.
Anyway, I'm going to cut my self off before i write another ten pages of nonsense!.
The point is that although losing weight isn't really that easy, it is completely worth it, I lose 18 pounds of fat doing wrestling, and probably gained a few pounds of muscle, but it was really hard!.
If your BF really doesn't want to diet or workout, there isn't really much you can do!. Other then try to get him inspired to change his life!. Because, its quite hard to do so, if you don't really care about getting in shape, and go about it half-assed your going to give up in the middle and never get anywhere!.
If you don't want to give up on trying to get him to get in shape, try and find him a reason to really go for it, and stick it out!.
If he comes around, get him to drop all junk foods, sleep 8 hours, and drink only water(like a gallon a day) for at least a week!. You start feeling really great after going that long without any garbage in your system!. You have a ton more energy!.
For exercises, I would suggest swimming, that is a full body work out that is also cardio, and burns a TON of calories, and its easy to do when your overweight!.
Also, working out regularly is a lot harder when you start, once you have been doing it for a while, 'the burn' so to speak, feels good, sort of the way eating really really spicy food tastes great once your used to it!. Or coffee/tea starts tasting good after a few cups, even though its quite bitter!.
Heres another thing, does your BF like any kind of sports!? I!.E something that he likes a lot and would love to do but thinks is impossible!? I'm currently training to do this http://www!.youtube!.com/watch!?v=kwjo3Oiy-!.!.!.
Its what made me decide to get my lazy *** out of the chair and into the gym!. Motivation is key!
Lets see, is there anything else I can say that isn't just repeating myself!.!.!. hmm!.
Point out to him that being in great shape makes every too short second of your life much more fun and fulfilling!. I think people who aren't healthy and in good shape are missing out on a really great and important part of life that you only get to experience while your young!. And if you don't get in shape now, your going to regret it!.
There is more to life then just living~
I hate to ruin my awesome ending there, but i went i re-read what you wrote!.
1)Why on earth does he insist on eating fast food!? I mean, you have to try pretty hard to make food at home which doesn't taste better then a big mac and fries from McD's!.
2)Exercise can give pretty fast results, maybe he would be more into bodybuilding, it would lose him weight more slowly, but you can bench press 5 lbs more then the last time you went to the gym for the first two months!. If you eat right and go 3 times a week!.
3)I don't agree with all the people saying "give up! break up with him, bla bla bla!." But if he isn't patent enough to stick with a diet for a month or two, and he is insistent on keeping his fast food and soda!. It seems like it would be nigh impossible to get him to change is self destructive ways, unless he just up and decided to do it himself!. If he doesn't, it sounds like he will be forever in the camp of people who would rather have there protruding belly surgically removed rather then put some actual effort into it!.
Edit: on the pure weight loss side if things if he just drops the damn soda and fast food, and all other junk foods, stuff with HFCS in it, etc!. And does like 10-20 minutes of crunches and push upd and what not, he should drop weight pretty quickly!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Now I'm in pretty decent shape, taking gymnastics and conditioning for that and tricking(see sources)!. I weigh 185 pounds and I'm 6'1 and much thinner now!. And it feels great, I'm probably in the best shape I've been in since I did soccer camp at age 11!. And it feels GREAT!.
What started me going was wrestling, I decided to take wrestling classes, and oh man was it painful!. I actually was kept going until I run out of the room and throw up in a trash can once!. (Bit of don't eat within three hours of a really hardcore workout)!.
Anyway, I'm going to cut my self off before i write another ten pages of nonsense!.
The point is that although losing weight isn't really that easy, it is completely worth it, I lose 18 pounds of fat doing wrestling, and probably gained a few pounds of muscle, but it was really hard!.
If your BF really doesn't want to diet or workout, there isn't really much you can do!. Other then try to get him inspired to change his life!. Because, its quite hard to do so, if you don't really care about getting in shape, and go about it half-assed your going to give up in the middle and never get anywhere!.
If you don't want to give up on trying to get him to get in shape, try and find him a reason to really go for it, and stick it out!.
If he comes around, get him to drop all junk foods, sleep 8 hours, and drink only water(like a gallon a day) for at least a week!. You start feeling really great after going that long without any garbage in your system!. You have a ton more energy!.
For exercises, I would suggest swimming, that is a full body work out that is also cardio, and burns a TON of calories, and its easy to do when your overweight!.
Also, working out regularly is a lot harder when you start, once you have been doing it for a while, 'the burn' so to speak, feels good, sort of the way eating really really spicy food tastes great once your used to it!. Or coffee/tea starts tasting good after a few cups, even though its quite bitter!.
Heres another thing, does your BF like any kind of sports!? I!.E something that he likes a lot and would love to do but thinks is impossible!? I'm currently training to do this http://www!.youtube!.com/watch!?v=kwjo3Oiy-!.!.!.
Its what made me decide to get my lazy *** out of the chair and into the gym!. Motivation is key!
Lets see, is there anything else I can say that isn't just repeating myself!.!.!. hmm!.
Point out to him that being in great shape makes every too short second of your life much more fun and fulfilling!. I think people who aren't healthy and in good shape are missing out on a really great and important part of life that you only get to experience while your young!. And if you don't get in shape now, your going to regret it!.
There is more to life then just living~
I hate to ruin my awesome ending there, but i went i re-read what you wrote!.
1)Why on earth does he insist on eating fast food!? I mean, you have to try pretty hard to make food at home which doesn't taste better then a big mac and fries from McD's!.
2)Exercise can give pretty fast results, maybe he would be more into bodybuilding, it would lose him weight more slowly, but you can bench press 5 lbs more then the last time you went to the gym for the first two months!. If you eat right and go 3 times a week!.
3)I don't agree with all the people saying "give up! break up with him, bla bla bla!." But if he isn't patent enough to stick with a diet for a month or two, and he is insistent on keeping his fast food and soda!. It seems like it would be nigh impossible to get him to change is self destructive ways, unless he just up and decided to do it himself!. If he doesn't, it sounds like he will be forever in the camp of people who would rather have there protruding belly surgically removed rather then put some actual effort into it!.
Edit: on the pure weight loss side if things if he just drops the damn soda and fast food, and all other junk foods, stuff with HFCS in it, etc!. And does like 10-20 minutes of crunches and push upd and what not, he should drop weight pretty quickly!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
you need to break up with him!. Your struggle with him will be a life long thing, esp if he doesn't want to change!. you will get tired of it! it's not fair to you and he may die at a younge age, or either have major medical problems!. i know beauty is only skin deep, but you need not carry his burdens!. stay friends though and support his weight loss, if that happens!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I am concerned that you have a very challenging situation on hand!. I think your boyfriend needs to find his own way!. Dun nag too much on this or your good intentions might backfire!. He just needs your care and support to a healthier lifestyle!. Be a good role model to him!. He can motivate himself if he can find a sport or game that is fun and challenging for him!. If there isn't, maybe he can be 'reminded and coerced' into the fact that he is in the high risk group that will suffer, sooner or later, a lot of ill-effects from the extra weight!. This can be done from a professional like the family doctor or a gym/personal trainer!. Let another person be the bad guy to remind and 'scare' him!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Move on!. You can't change people who don't want to change!. He's a big baby, and will stay that way for the rest of his life unless HE decides to grow up!.
It's not likely going to happen!.
I'm not just talking about the weight here, either!. That's just one symptom of a person who isn't ever going to grow up!.
Unless you want to continue being his mommy, move on!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
It's not likely going to happen!.
I'm not just talking about the weight here, either!. That's just one symptom of a person who isn't ever going to grow up!.
Unless you want to continue being his mommy, move on!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
^^ unfortunately that method of thinking never works!. i use to think like that when i was younger but the brain is a lot more complex than that!. just help him cut out fast food and soda and you will see pounds (and cholesterol) melt away!. Replace the soda with water!. make sure he eats 5 small meals a day, rather than 3 big ones!. 5 meals keeps his metabolism working all day and keeps him full!. Keep encouraging him to lose weight as stay healthy!. always be there for him and dont lose hope for him!. Good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I have little sympathy for overweight people (except those with medical problems which prohibit them from losing weight) Most people can lose weight if they make an effort to do so!. I could eat a whole pizza if I wanted to but I control myself because I know that would be wreckless of me!. Tell him to stop feeling sorry for himself and get his *** off the couch and start performing some physical activities!.Www@Answer-Health@Com