Serious Question... how do I start to like "bigger people"?!
Question: Serious Question!.!.!. how do I start to like "bigger people"!?
I have no problem with bigger people!. But ever since I was little!.!.!. my mom always told me how beautiful I was because i was soo skinny, tall and elegant (i'm 5'11, size 0, 105 lbs) and I love my weight and body type!. Now the bad part!. My mom always, always talked bad about fat people!.!. I remember my older sister gaining 20 lbs to 140 and my mom called her every name in the book because she "let" herself get fat!. We would go to the grocery store and my mother would point at all the "big" people and tell us to count the big "bellies" and hope we never get them!. My mother would tell me that models, doctors, lawyers, actors, astronauts, CEOs, presidents,!.!.!.any high job was only for skinny people and that being "big" was a guarantee failure in life!. Now I have grown to sub consciously dislike "big" people because my own mother brainwashed to associate "bigness" with stupidity, laziness, uncleanness, and overall filth!. I hate myself because every time I see a "big" person, I turn into an ugly judgmental person and I shun them!. I don't want to be like this!. I don't know how to go around the problem, I don't even know if I should get a therapist but I do know that its not normal and its not right!. I have to stop myself when I catch myself being soo judgmental and stupid to even measure ones character by their weight!.
Is there anything that I can do!?
I know its a weird question but I really need a solution to this horrible problem!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Is there anything that I can do!?
I know its a weird question but I really need a solution to this horrible problem!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
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omgg, ur just like me, im 5'11" also, but im 110!. more than size 0!.
i mean, big people are like amazing teddy bears!. once you meet some of them, and you become good friends, youll be set!. just learn to talk more to them, and get to know them for who they are!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
i mean, big people are like amazing teddy bears!. once you meet some of them, and you become good friends, youll be set!. just learn to talk more to them, and get to know them for who they are!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I think a therapist is the only person who can help you!. You have been conditioned into believing something and it will take a professional and a lot of time to reverse that belief!. But for now you should just try to say three positive things about a big person before you let your self think anything negative!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Talk to a therapist!. Also, you do know your BMI is waaaaaaaaay too low!? Not to be rude, but I think you might have some body image issues that only a therapist can help you with!. Plus, as you deal with your body issues you might also need to deal with some mom issues!. Try finding a therapist through your insurance (if you have insurance) or at https://www!.find-a-therapist!.com/!. Good luck!Www@Answer-Health@Com
that sounds like a real problem, i think that maybe (not like you could "make" this happen) you should start like an anonymous friendship with a big person and then when you find out that they are big, you would view them all differently, but this isnt a perfect world!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
this is very understandable
i advise you to go seek professional help
it will help you better in the future!. i had a friend just like you who always looked at overweight people very badly!.
turned outt she pointed at one woman who was overweight disgusted and my friend had gotten seriously beaten up!.!.!.
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i advise you to go seek professional help
it will help you better in the future!. i had a friend just like you who always looked at overweight people very badly!.
turned outt she pointed at one woman who was overweight disgusted and my friend had gotten seriously beaten up!.!.!.
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Become friends with a big person then you will see they're not "evil or gross"!. If you catch yourself judging someone, stop and just think something positive about them instead!. And how your mom said all that!.!.!.that's kind of weird!.!.maybe she should be the one going to the therapist!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
no offense but your mom is not cool!. but don't worry i do the same thing, not to fat people but for other reasons!. its called being shallow, there really is no way to stop shunning these people!. just hold yourself back from saying anything and eventually you'll get used to it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
no offense, but thats really mean of your mother to critisize other people by their size!. D:
i think you should got talk to your mom about it!.
maybe if you had a "big" friend, you wouldnt worry much, becuase you would shun a friend out, now would you!? (:Www@Answer-Health@Com
i think you should got talk to your mom about it!.
maybe if you had a "big" friend, you wouldnt worry much, becuase you would shun a friend out, now would you!? (:Www@Answer-Health@Com
You get along and have an acquaintance with big people!. No matter what you are thin or big people, we are all humans and we could be treated equally!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Whenever you start to think like that just think about Oprah!. She has problems with weight but is one of the most successful and loved people ever!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Arrogance is a form of blindness!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
http://www!.youtube!.com/watch!?v=6x3F3n8yt!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
get to know them and understand how they dont enjoy being over weight ethierWww@Answer-Health@Com
that is kinda of mean of your mom to say those thing but all you need to do is become friends with them they are just regular people who weigh a bit more than othersWww@Answer-Health@Com
i know you said no rude answers so I'll try to be nice!. For someone who hates 'big' people so much maybe she should have started by telling you that you are way to skinny, and by how you describe yourself!.!.Un-healthfully skinny too!. Not fair to judge someone else when you arent exactly carying a perfect body yourself!. Just get to know some 'big' people!.
Majority of them are really nice (Jolly)!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Majority of them are really nice (Jolly)!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
i kind of had a similar problem!.!.!.!.except i hated watching "big" people eat! it annoyed the heck out of me!. but i went off to college and met some really awesome people that were "big" so i think that it would really help you to just get to know people for who they are and not for their physical appearance!. ( also i gained my freshmen 15 so that may be why i became more tolerant) but i would advise you to see someone because once something like that is etched into your brain since you were little it will more than likely stay with you forever unless you get help, which looks like you are already starting to do!. good luckWww@Answer-Health@Com
Dont worry sweetie!.!.!. bigger people judge your no brain no body having anorexic *** too!. So no worries!.!.!. you can go on being a stuck up snob like the rest of your family or you can realize that they arent gonna sit on you and break your skinny *** like a twig!. Seriously get a brain, and a life!. I cant wait for your mom to balloon out and die of heart disease and your meth head *** to follow her!. and you can let your ignorant *** mom know!.!.!. that shes nothing special, and if shes not a dr, lawyer, actos, astronaut, ceo or a president!.!.!. ask her why she aint one!? Any big person i know would jump over moons to prove your dumb *** wrong and I could promise you they would get alot further in life than you!. So think about that!.!.!. and go eat a cheeseburger ya scrawny *****!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
when you see a "big" person remember they are just like you!.
and your mother should know some people do not choose to be fat, they could have something wrong with their thyroid!. I think it's rude that she brainwashed you into disliking fat people, but next time she does it point out one of her insecurities and ask her if she would like if someone judged her for it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
and your mother should know some people do not choose to be fat, they could have something wrong with their thyroid!. I think it's rude that she brainwashed you into disliking fat people, but next time she does it point out one of her insecurities and ask her if she would like if someone judged her for it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
i take it she has never seen many presidents!.!.!.alot of "big" men!.!.!.!.ive seen ALOT of "big" doctors, lawers, actors(actresses) and CEOs! I have no clue what world you are living in, but most of it consists of "big" people, or people who are getting bigger!. Take the "its a small world" ride from disney land!. They used to seat alot more people, but then the boats started to bottom up!. Now less people can fit!. just face it this world is becomeing "BIG", and there is nothing we can do to stop it!. Alot of people are big because it can save money!. Not alot of people can afford fresh stuff!. Atleast not from their local stores!. SO they eat out, or they buy snacks!. It isnt what is wrong with the people, but more what is wrong with the economy!. "Big" People are already ridiculed by people such as your mother dearest!. Do you really think that needs to continue on!?
I am 5 ft 2, and weigh 110 pounds!. No I am not a "big" person, but I see, and know how they feel by other experiences!.!.!.!.!.your anorexic!.!.!.!.you probably barely eat ANYTHING! that or you throw it up after your done swallowing it!
Dont think I was being rude!.!.!.but still!.!.!.if someone said that to you how would you feel!? think of others please!Www@Answer-Health@Com
I am 5 ft 2, and weigh 110 pounds!. No I am not a "big" person, but I see, and know how they feel by other experiences!.!.!.!.!.your anorexic!.!.!.!.you probably barely eat ANYTHING! that or you throw it up after your done swallowing it!
Dont think I was being rude!.!.!.but still!.!.!.if someone said that to you how would you feel!? think of others please!Www@Answer-Health@Com
hey sweetie- i think its amazing that you want to fix this problem and not be so judgmental of people anymore!. i am 18 and i'm a bigger girl!.!.!.i'm still in great health, active, strong, and most importantly a nice person!. my mom is plus size and my dad is a big guy so it is in my genes!.
I use to resent my mom so much and blamed her for making me "fat" because she never taught me how to eat properly!. However, I have grown to love my body!. I have dealt with eating disorders and was always left so empty and ended up becoming heavier then before because i messed up my metabolism!. Losing weight is very hard for some people!. Sometimes there are more important things in their life as well!. I just got out of rehab and now I'm focusing on trying to quit smoking!. I am making myself healthy in different ways right now and when I am ready I can focus on my weight!. Just because I am not there yet doesn't mean I am a bad person!.
I saw a very large woman come into the place i work once and i imidietly judged her!. She then proceeded to tell me, once we got to talking, that she had been injured as a child in a factory where she worked since she was little kid!. They said she would never be able to walk again!. The medicine they put her on made her gain a huge amount of weight!.!.!.but she was walking, against all odds!.
You don't know the persons story when you are judging them!.
And of course, the obvious answer, beauty is only skin deep!. Once beauty fades, your face wrinkles, you gain weight as you age, what will you have left!? Everything inside of you that makes you who you are!. Fat or skinny, no one has a reason to be hated by someone they don't even know!. just remember its who you are that counts!.
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I use to resent my mom so much and blamed her for making me "fat" because she never taught me how to eat properly!. However, I have grown to love my body!. I have dealt with eating disorders and was always left so empty and ended up becoming heavier then before because i messed up my metabolism!. Losing weight is very hard for some people!. Sometimes there are more important things in their life as well!. I just got out of rehab and now I'm focusing on trying to quit smoking!. I am making myself healthy in different ways right now and when I am ready I can focus on my weight!. Just because I am not there yet doesn't mean I am a bad person!.
I saw a very large woman come into the place i work once and i imidietly judged her!. She then proceeded to tell me, once we got to talking, that she had been injured as a child in a factory where she worked since she was little kid!. They said she would never be able to walk again!. The medicine they put her on made her gain a huge amount of weight!.!.!.but she was walking, against all odds!.
You don't know the persons story when you are judging them!.
And of course, the obvious answer, beauty is only skin deep!. Once beauty fades, your face wrinkles, you gain weight as you age, what will you have left!? Everything inside of you that makes you who you are!. Fat or skinny, no one has a reason to be hated by someone they don't even know!. just remember its who you are that counts!.
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i don't really know how you can say "no rude answers", because for one, I'm a "big person", and i'm very insulted by your b**ch of a mother!. I don't even think I can put into words how much your mother disgusts me!.
BUT, I think its very good of you to want to look past that!. =)
I think you should start by addressing us "big" people as just "people"!.
Then try making some friends with these people!. Then maybe take a look at yourself, because just like your mom says that "big people" are stupid, lazy, unclean, and overall filth!.!.!. People that happen to be a size 0 aren't exactly the most attractive either!.
Next, tell your mother to stop painting the world black and white!. People are people, and life is hard enough for EVERYBODY without being judged on "appearance!."Www@Answer-Health@Com
BUT, I think its very good of you to want to look past that!. =)
I think you should start by addressing us "big" people as just "people"!.
Then try making some friends with these people!. Then maybe take a look at yourself, because just like your mom says that "big people" are stupid, lazy, unclean, and overall filth!.!.!. People that happen to be a size 0 aren't exactly the most attractive either!.
Next, tell your mother to stop painting the world black and white!. People are people, and life is hard enough for EVERYBODY without being judged on "appearance!."Www@Answer-Health@Com
thats just like my parents teaching me not to like black people just because the color of their skin but as i got older i realized that my parents way of thinking was very stupid and that everybody and i mean everybody should be treated equal no matter what color their skin is or how much someone weighs!. i think being predjudice is stupid and yes you really need to see a therepists!. i'm not being mean but big people have feelings and most big people have a low self-esteem and they don't need negative people like you judging them!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You already realize why you think the way you do and realize that those are your moms opinions and not yours!. You a person who can have your own judments and opinions!.
This might be somethin you may never change!. If it was implanted in your head all your life, it might always b there but by stoping yourself from being judgmental might help a great deal on changing your perceptions
Jus look tho!.!.!.!.!.!.!. opera, whoopi, dr phil!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.successful peopleWww@Answer-Health@Com
This might be somethin you may never change!. If it was implanted in your head all your life, it might always b there but by stoping yourself from being judgmental might help a great deal on changing your perceptions
Jus look tho!.!.!.!.!.!.!. opera, whoopi, dr phil!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.successful peopleWww@Answer-Health@Com
I'm a bit stunned that people like your mother still exist!! That's just honesty!.!.!.I'm not being rude!. I'm sorry that you had such horrible nonsense force fed to you your entire life!. I think you're halfway there in conquering this inner battle in that you can identify that it is wrong to judge someone based solely on their appearance!. I did though think of a way to 'cure' you so that maybe you can move forward even quicker in your 'quest for love-o-fatpeople' Why not volunteer at a fat camp for children!?!? These are children whose parents, like yours, force fed them garbage and are trying to undo the mental (and unfortunately physical) scars inflicted upon them!. Your mother didn't teach you to hate children as well did she!?!? If not, I'll tell you, it is hard to have hate toward a child!. I do hope that this may at least steer you in the right direction!. Much luck!.!.!.try a bit of prayer as well, God will help to clear your mind if you just ask!. ;)Www@Answer-Health@Com
Well i really think you need a therapist!. I dont mean to talk bad about anyone but your mom was a real mean person for telling you that when you were young!. In this day in age 7out of 10 people are big!. Im pretty sure that theres alot of big people who have accomplished great thing!. The size of a person has nothing to do with it!.You have a problem that cant be solved overnight since you willing to change you should seek it from a professional!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I truly hope this is a joke question, you shallow, ignorant, judgmental, horrible people!. And, if it IS a "joke," nice try, but no one is laughing!. Some people look at anorexic people such as yourself (which I doubt your information is true, since this is most likely a joke), and think, "Dear GOD, how does she SURVIVE!? How would ANYONE like to be with a skeleton!?!" You and your mom need to try getting some mental depth and judge people for WHO they are, not WHAT or HOW they are!. Enjoy your night!. (And eat some ice cream every now and then!.!.!.it won't kill you!. Well, never mind!.!.!.in your case, it might)!.
EDIT: I felt I needed to add, for your safety!.!.!.5'11 and 105 lbs is not 'elegant,' it's deathly anorexic and a serious problem!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
EDIT: I felt I needed to add, for your safety!.!.!.5'11 and 105 lbs is not 'elegant,' it's deathly anorexic and a serious problem!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You are doing fine, don't stress so much!. If you know you have issues you are ahead of most people!. Try to remember not to judge people by physical characteristics!. Sure, we can use them to help get a feel for the person, but you only find the real person inside by talking to them!. Maybe they are 300lbs and used to be 105lbs and hate themselves every day!. That affects how they view the world around them!. Maybe they are happy being big!. I'm a few pounds overweight and I know it but I'm 40 now and the lbs don't fall off so easily anymore!. And it's harder to exercise so much!.
Anyways!. You are off to great start!. Knowing is half the battle!. The other half is just relating to people on a personal level!. Maybe they are jerks, but weight has nothing to do with that!. They could also be wonderful people!.!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Anyways!. You are off to great start!. Knowing is half the battle!. The other half is just relating to people on a personal level!. Maybe they are jerks, but weight has nothing to do with that!. They could also be wonderful people!.!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Sounds like you're on your way to changing your attitude about people who are overweight!. I don't think it's your fault!.!.!.you were raised to think that way!. But now you are an adult so it's up to you to get rid of prejudices and other attitudes you aren't happy with!.
Maybe you should try making friends with someone who is not as skinny as you!.!.get to know them!. Then you'll realize that they're no different from you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Maybe you should try making friends with someone who is not as skinny as you!.!.get to know them!. Then you'll realize that they're no different from you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com