My boyfriend told me I gainged weight! Help...?!
Question: My boyfriend told me I gainged weight! Help!.!.!.!?
Yesterday my boyfriend told me "you've gained a little weight since we started dating" He said it the nicest way possible, and Im not mad, but I honestly didn't think I did, but I've always been a little overweight- and he is like 6-pack, work out guru!.
I don't know if he just wants me to go to the gym with him, or if he really meant that I got fatter!
(-we've been dating 6 months, and i didn't think i gained weight! maybe 5 lbs!?)
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I don't know if he just wants me to go to the gym with him, or if he really meant that I got fatter!
(-we've been dating 6 months, and i didn't think i gained weight! maybe 5 lbs!?)
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Answers:
For God's sake, do not drag it out like some of your other answers suggest!. I'm sure he said it lovingly (every good relationship causes weight gain, I've tacked on 30 w/ my bf of one year), but it has to come from you IF you're ready to lose a few!. Just propose some walking or healthier choices when dining together!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Go to the gym with him!. You don't actually have to work out together!. you can do your own thing or just walk on the treadmill while he works out!. If he is a gym nut, I am sure he spends at least an hr working out!. As you get in better shape you can do classes or even start with the weights!. I am sure your boyfriend would love to show you some stuff!. not only will you get in better shape, but it is something you guys can enjoy doing together!. My wife an I go to the gym together all the time, then a 2 mile walk after wards!. No offense, but 5 lbs is a fair amount!. Being a man, I know my fear would be"if she gained 5 lbs in the first 6 months, what is she going to gain if we get married"!. Sorry if that sounds mean, but I think men get a little scared of that kind of thing!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
i wouldn't think that he would say that to want you to go to the gym with you because obviously its an uncomfortable situation and he probably just saying that you've gained some weight and that's not always bad but just eat a snack before eating a large meal like dinner or lunch because then you get fuller easier and you wouldnt have to burn more calories
i hope you found your answer best of luck
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i hope you found your answer best of luck
janet Www@Answer-Health@Com
Dont worry ask him if you can go to the gym with him!. It will show him that you are trying to make an effort!. Its also a good way to spend time with each other every week!.
Its also a great way to keep fit!. If hes a real man he wont care how you look!. He probably dosnt care now he just thought he d menchion it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Its also a great way to keep fit!. If hes a real man he wont care how you look!. He probably dosnt care now he just thought he d menchion it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Don't worry, even if you have I'm sure he'll still love you!. Do a bit more exercise if it's worrying you otherwise if you feel happy the way you are there is no need to change for anyoneWww@Answer-Health@Com
I have a way you can drop 150lbs in 30 seconds!. Get rid of your boyfriend! That was an awful thing for him to say - I don't care how nice he was saying it!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Most Generic Answer of All Time But It's The Truth:
Do whatever makes you feel good!.
If he's telling you this in a negative way, he's not worth it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Do whatever makes you feel good!.
If he's telling you this in a negative way, he's not worth it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I am a woman who has gained a "little" weight, too!.
There is a point when that 5 pounds really does show!. Maybe that's what he means!. When I am thinner, my weight can fluctuate up to 5 pounds depending on what I'm eating!. When I am heavier, it can cause the love handles to show just enough to be noticeable!.
As a long time married woman, here is what I suggest you do: Ask him if it bothers him!. You need to know if it does or doesn't!. If it bothers him and you expect to gain weight as you get older, have babies, develop a condition that puts the weight on, you have to know how much that will really bother him!. He won't be evil if that's true but you need to know where he stands!. Will he complain!? Get upset!? Find you not attractive!? You really don't want to marry someone who does!.
Whether or not you gained weight isn't the issue!. It is that he noticed something and commented on it!. Is that criticism or just observation!? Think about your motives when you do the same thing!.
Do you want to go to the gym with him!? It will certainly help keep you toned and your muscles strong as you get older!. Many women develop osteoporosis and need to exercise to stop or reverse bone loss!. Exercising now can make that take longer to develop or not develop at all!. This will also give him an opportunity for him to use his experience and show you how to do things you don't know about!. Makes a body feel good!.
There is no sense in getting mad about this!. He is who he is and you are who you are!. You might just be facing a line that a 6-pack, work out guru just realized is in his mind!. What you want is a relationship with someone who won't hold this against you because it will come up over and over again!. Just like you shouldn't be with someone with a habit you can't stand and then nag, nag, nag!. (You can start doing this without realizing!. It is a real love killer)!.
So the question isn't I didn't think I gained weight but he said something, what's up with that!? It is, how much effect will this issue have on our future happiness!? After all, did the fact that he is a 6-pack, work out guru have any attraction for you!? What will happen when he starts to develop that middle-age belly or flabby butt!?
This is the time to start actually sharing ideas and opinions with someone not just putting your party face on!.
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There is a point when that 5 pounds really does show!. Maybe that's what he means!. When I am thinner, my weight can fluctuate up to 5 pounds depending on what I'm eating!. When I am heavier, it can cause the love handles to show just enough to be noticeable!.
As a long time married woman, here is what I suggest you do: Ask him if it bothers him!. You need to know if it does or doesn't!. If it bothers him and you expect to gain weight as you get older, have babies, develop a condition that puts the weight on, you have to know how much that will really bother him!. He won't be evil if that's true but you need to know where he stands!. Will he complain!? Get upset!? Find you not attractive!? You really don't want to marry someone who does!.
Whether or not you gained weight isn't the issue!. It is that he noticed something and commented on it!. Is that criticism or just observation!? Think about your motives when you do the same thing!.
Do you want to go to the gym with him!? It will certainly help keep you toned and your muscles strong as you get older!. Many women develop osteoporosis and need to exercise to stop or reverse bone loss!. Exercising now can make that take longer to develop or not develop at all!. This will also give him an opportunity for him to use his experience and show you how to do things you don't know about!. Makes a body feel good!.
There is no sense in getting mad about this!. He is who he is and you are who you are!. You might just be facing a line that a 6-pack, work out guru just realized is in his mind!. What you want is a relationship with someone who won't hold this against you because it will come up over and over again!. Just like you shouldn't be with someone with a habit you can't stand and then nag, nag, nag!. (You can start doing this without realizing!. It is a real love killer)!.
So the question isn't I didn't think I gained weight but he said something, what's up with that!? It is, how much effect will this issue have on our future happiness!? After all, did the fact that he is a 6-pack, work out guru have any attraction for you!? What will happen when he starts to develop that middle-age belly or flabby butt!?
This is the time to start actually sharing ideas and opinions with someone not just putting your party face on!.
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Wow I have never said that to any of my girlfriends even if they had, is he trying to get you to break up with up him!. Www@Answer-Health@Com
don't let that bother you, tell him that ( you never say that to anybody), that's just mean!
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just talk to him and ask him why he said thatWww@Answer-Health@Com
OH MY GOD, what would happen if you lost a finger !? this FOOL is a LOOSER !!Www@Answer-Health@Com
dump him he should like you no mateer what your weight isWww@Answer-Health@Com