Mom won't let me lose weight?!


Question: Mom won't let me lose weight?
and I'm a young adult.

I am 5'1 and 160 pounds, so I obviously need to lose weight.

At first, she would force me to eat a big lunch and a big dinner. When I try to explain that it is making me fat, she wouldn't listen. (I'm currently looking for a job to move out, but meanwhile, I'm stuck). I started ignoring her about the lunch and now I only eat dinner because she makes such a big dinner. However, now she is accusing me of starving myself.

She has no knowledge of calories and she will not let anybody tell her about it. She's quite a know-it-all. For instance, if someone eats a hamburger and fries, she says that that's a small meal and that they should eat more - even though most hamburgers have about 700+ calories and most servings of fries have 500+ calories.

Mom eats a ton of food, but she thinks that she eats the normal amount. For instance, she eats four pieces of chicken, two mini pizzas, two hot dogs, a can of chili, five servings of vegetables (cooked in oil), and three cans of soda all in one day. That is her typical lunch and dinner. She gets mad that I don't join in and she is even telling me to pray for the desire NOT to lose weight. Why would I do that when I just prayed for the desire to LOSE weight and I think that the Lord is helping me.

I even have to sneak to exercise because she gets mad at that too!

Why is she being this way?

Answers:

I'm assuming that your mom is overweight, according to the fact that she eats alot? I think she's trying to push her body image on you. Sounds like she has underlying issues with herself, to be honest.
This is completely rediculous. By young adult you mean you are over 18 right? If so, then do whatever the heck you want, and join a gym if you have the money, dont let her force you too eat too much. May cause a fight, but dont allow her to force you to neglect yourself! You have to be strong and not let her do this to you any more.
I know this might be hard, but this is a pretty serious situation and I think you need to seek outside help from counceling or something, try to get her to go. It may cause an upset in your family, but it needs to be done.



because your mom cares about you. if you are THAT worried about losing a few pounds, talk to you school counselor and she might be able to give you some good advice. You dont want to lose weight inthe wrong way because that could negatively affect your health.

good luck



She doesn't want you to find a job and leave her. Or she doesn't want to compete with you in the real world for attention of men.



because she was brought up like that so its weird for someone not to do the same espially you because she thinks its right. ide just try to eat 6 small meals a day u will loose weight.. its because you metabolism only seeds up for 30 minutes then after then slows down. so by eating alot it gets stored if you eat smaller meals and more often your metabolism will be faster and ull be healthier and loose weight



Your mother has this certain image of you in her mind and she plans on keeping it that way. She knows she can control you and get under your skin, so she continues to do so. You need to be straight foward and tell her how you feel, this is the only way to get a point across. If it doesn't work or you already have then ignore her and try to get food on your own. Your mom is very childish and if I was in that situtation I would be extremely childish back. (that's my opinion) but you seriously need to put your foot down sometime soon and tell her she cannot control you forever. If you don't do this it will continue to happen for the rest of your life.




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