Does he even care that I have an eating disorder?!?!

he said that because he does care and he's frustrated that you would hurt yourself that way. He doesn't know what to do, most people don't. I'm sure he's confused

He probably doesn't realize that you have an eating disorder so why don't you just be upfront with him so he can help you.

He seems nice. He does care about you. In my opinion, I think he's just a bit scared of this and not sure what to do.

Cuz it hurts a guy to see you suffer, since you are important to him.

Nope, he cares, but you're being uncaring and selfish. Sorry.

He's telling you to eat, and you get mad at him for basic advice lol?

It means you don't care about him to get over your own problems - or at least to not take them out on a loved one. We ALL have our problems. If we all made our problems our boyfriend/girlfriend's problems too, no relationship would last.

Men fix problems, it's one of our biggest problems with women - who simply want attention and emotional support. Failure to take our advice, on the whole, conveys you don't care about us... Don't get lost in translation here - the way you handled this situation was just as passive aggressive as the way he responded to it. Two wrongs don't make a right, but failure to make the first wrong is the first step ;).

Sounds like my boyfriend. I have an eating disorder too, an my boyfriend gets legitimately angry when I don't eat. He has flat out yelled at me before. I think he was angry at you because he was worried about you and didn't want you to hurt yourself. He doesn't entirely understand the disorder because he's never experienced it first hand. That's how my boyfriend is too. He's a psychology major, so he knows about the disorder, but he doesn't quite understand how to handle it and thinks he's showing support, but isn't doing it in the right ways.

I think if you want him to understand, you need to actually tell him about the disorder. Don't hint at it in a text (because you know how misinterpreted texts can get). Just sit down with him and explain the situation and your feelings behind it. Tell him what kind of support you need from him and that if he's mad at you, it'll make it worse because these aren't feelings that you're choosing. It's technically a psychological disorder that we struggling through day-to-day and the best thing he can do is be there for you and show you love and support.

Sorry if I rambled. Good luck hun. And get some help. This disease blows. ?

Eating disorder victim
Psychology major
Similar situation as you

I reacted the same way when I found out my girlfriend had an eating disorder, that was related to self confidence issues. I guess I just saw her as so beautiful, and so amazing, that it almost made me mad that she had self confidence issues. I was like "how could you have an eating disorder?! Thad stupid, you're one of the prettiest girls in school, you have every reason to be strong and confident, just stop!" and looking back I guess It came out mean.... but I was just scared for her, and didn't know what to say. I figured if I said something that I'd make her upset, or make it worse....I just want her to see herself how I see her ....the most beautiful girl in the world :'(
I'm getting all emotional just talking about it lol, just yea...it's something that hurts to talk about when you really love someone.