Finding it hard to support my bulimic friend?!
Question: My best friend has bulimia.
She is getting treatment for it, but I am finding it increasingly more difficult to cope with.
She is really paranoid about anybody even mentioning weight.
She wont go out because she worries what peopel think of her.
She gets very sensitive about the smallest things related to body image, such as when I said that I watched Ugly Betty.
And it upsets me a lot when she doesn;t eat or makes herself sick and theres nothing I can do.
I know its not her fault, but I dont know what to do.
:(
Anybody have experience with this or any advice?
Answers: My best friend has bulimia.
She is getting treatment for it, but I am finding it increasingly more difficult to cope with.
She is really paranoid about anybody even mentioning weight.
She wont go out because she worries what peopel think of her.
She gets very sensitive about the smallest things related to body image, such as when I said that I watched Ugly Betty.
And it upsets me a lot when she doesn;t eat or makes herself sick and theres nothing I can do.
I know its not her fault, but I dont know what to do.
:(
Anybody have experience with this or any advice?
As long as your friend is seeking help, theres not much more than can be done, unfortunately healing is a long process with eating disorders. Yeah you will have to be careful about what you say, but if someone had just died you'd have to be considerate too, so try and keep your patience with her, time will help her, and right now what she needs is your support. most people in your position never say anything because they feel people will judge them and call them insensitive or something, but its not true, you're allowed to feel the pressures of it too. shes your friend, you don't want to see her go through it and worst of all there isn't a way to help, just remind her everyday that shes beautiful, help her to build up her confidence in herself again, it will work wonders for the both of you. going through something like this together will cement a long friendship for both of you, you don't have to know all the right things to say, sometimes its just about listening, even if it means you have to hold back on some of the things you'd normally have talked about.
good luck to you and your friend, i hope it all works out.
Try to help her get through this disease and just comfort her A LOT
just be there for her... remember it is a disease
and she needs support even if that means just being with her and hanging out with her...
i had it and i would be greatfull to the lord to have a friend like you
P.S. picture this, five years from now she will be ever so thank full to you
so please be there for your friend
merry christmas and may god give you all you wish for
You should watc Monk with Tony Salahoub in it, with your friend. It is a comedy and will be a good inspiration. Monk is a brilliant homicide detective who worked for the San Francisco Police Department until his wife Trudy died in a car bomb attack that Monk believed was targeted for him. Trudy's death led Monk to suffer a nervous breakdown. He resigned from the force and became a shut-in, refusing to leave his house for over three years. With the help of practical nurse Sharona Fleming (Bitty Schram), he was finally able to leave the house, allowing him to perform consulting work for the police.
Monk is afflicted by obsessive-compulsive disorder and multiple phobias.
It must be very hard to be friends with someone like that, but remember she is having a harder time than you right now. Imagine how horrible it would be to lose your best friend while you were going through something like that. If you are having a hard time dealing with it, try hanging out with other friends occasionally to give yourself a break. Just try to be supportive it's hard.
well my cousin is bulimic and it relly bothers me 2
but ya know there is nothing they can do bout it
i love her to death and it makes me feel bad to, but if she is relly your true friend you can to cope with her problems and she can try and cope with hers
i love my cousin 2 death and we shez relly skinny and i am skinny but not at her level skinny so we just have to cope
i just ask her not to make her self sick and i just tell her how i relly feel
if she is relly your friend she will listen to you and try to help the situation as well as she can..
hang in there i no how you feel =]