I am worried about the risk of having sex.?!
Question: My boyfriend and I are ready to have sex. It will be are first times. I am so ready to do it and I know he is too. The thing is, I am so worried about something happening.. like me getting pregnant. We would definitly use protection. I am not on the pill. I can not get pregnant. I know that a condom is like 98 or 99% effective.. but still I am worried! What if it breaks? Should I be worried? Should I just not do it cause then there is no risk at all? Help!
Answers: My boyfriend and I are ready to have sex. It will be are first times. I am so ready to do it and I know he is too. The thing is, I am so worried about something happening.. like me getting pregnant. We would definitly use protection. I am not on the pill. I can not get pregnant. I know that a condom is like 98 or 99% effective.. but still I am worried! What if it breaks? Should I be worried? Should I just not do it cause then there is no risk at all? Help!
No method is 100% safe except abstinence. But I'm sure that's not what you want to hear. It sounds like you both have a lot of sense and you realize the consequences. But just remember there's always a chance of pregnancy any time you have sex. Is it worth it? Only you can answer that question.
have him wear a condom AND wear one of those girl condoms too
Of course you should be worried.
Having sex is a big responsibility.
It is a good idea to talk to your doctor.
If you feel you are ready for sex, you should be big enough to see your doctor and discuss the pill.
Make sure you use a condom if you do it too.
Babies aren't the only thing you end up with after unprotected sex:
AIDS
Clamidia
Herpes
Genital Warts
etc....
Don't be in a rush, take care of your body.
You could use a spermicide as well as a condom. Please go to your local health department and see about getting on the pill. It sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders though, and you are worried for good reasons. Please be careful :)
If your that worried about having sex then your obviously not mature enough to have sex and your using these "condom break" excuses to get out of having sex, so just wait a few years.
lol when I was younger I used to think sperm was like this poison that if you got even a drop of it on your vagina you were automatically pregnant. It's actually harder to get pregnant than most people realize. For example, you never have more than a 33% chance, even with full internal ejaculation on the day you ovulate. So the chances are on your side, but you still need to take precautions. Condoms are good but BC is better. Try to get a prescription if you can.
I can't tell you what to do morally, that's your decision. But you should have a back up for condoms. Try VCF, which is a spermicide. It sounds gross but it's really not. Or use a condom and have him pull out when he ejaculates, that way you have double protection. If you do that you should be fine.
But remember, it can always happen. Have an idea what you would do if you got pregnant. I know it's scary to think about, but you know the saying...you gotta lay in the bed you make. You wanna do an adult thing, you gotta be an adult.
Yes you could get preganant not being on birth control. A condom is no where near 100% affected. They can brak to easy. And unless your ready for a baby you should wait. Why take the chance of getting preganant your first time? Get on the pill if you can't wait to do it. And use a condom to protect yourself from any dieseses. Be safe.
just think. the reason for sex traditionally was to create offspring. so if your so worried about getting pregnant then dont do it. the only reason its enjoyable was so people would make babies.
and your probly to young anyways. sex is for marriage, not little kids. sex is not for recreation.
If you are this worried about having sex then you are obviously not ready to. Hold off for awhile. You don't want to do something you'll regret.
if your worried about ne thing at all you probably shouldnt have sex
just hump him and move on with ur life
Buy the spermacide condoms.
And btw since your worried over it, don't bother with it. Wait until you are finacially stable. Take a cool shower, go jogging. Fight them Hormones! Watch tv with no sexual content, like Sesame Street.
Go visit a Planned Parenthood in your neighborhood or next town.
get put on the pill and make him wear a condom.
If you do not think that you can handle the consequences of pregnancy then perhaps you should wait until it's less confusing. I used condoms during sex, in high school and in college, I did have one break once but I did not get pregnant. You might consider using additional contraception like a spermicide in addition to condoms. Just make sure you weigh the pleasure of sex with the worse case scenario, and think about what you would do if you got pregnant. Would you keep, abort, keep and put up for adoption, would your parents understand, who would support you etc.? Have you discussed your concerns with your boyfriend? Would he run, or would he help you? Good luck.
first time for both of you how awesome after marriage .You have both waited this long, and if you both love each other that much you should be able to wait till marriage and it will be more enjoyable and not so worrisome. There is nothing 100% safe to prevent pregnacy, there have been women even get pregnant on pills!! Talk to your mom if you can.===
Go on the pill. Or have an abortion
just do it
if u get pregnant
get an abortion
and with the condom there is already a chance u wont get pregnant
btw tell ur bf to use trojan