Have you been/Are you overweight?!
Question: I am, working on fixing that though, it's been a battle, not just the regular diet and exercise works, i have to work alittle harder due to a medical condition.
If you used to be overweight and are not anymore, do you hate those who are overweight and pick on them?
Or do you understand where their coming from?
Those who are not overweight.
Some of you out there tend to pick on the people that are...I don't quite understand why you do this..does it make you feel good?
Theres a difference between being overweight and not caring and being a slob..
but when someone is not a slob, takes good care of themselves and is trying to be healthier -- why must you make fun of them?
Just curious...
:)
Answers: I am, working on fixing that though, it's been a battle, not just the regular diet and exercise works, i have to work alittle harder due to a medical condition.
If you used to be overweight and are not anymore, do you hate those who are overweight and pick on them?
Or do you understand where their coming from?
Those who are not overweight.
Some of you out there tend to pick on the people that are...I don't quite understand why you do this..does it make you feel good?
Theres a difference between being overweight and not caring and being a slob..
but when someone is not a slob, takes good care of themselves and is trying to be healthier -- why must you make fun of them?
Just curious...
:)
Picking on someone because of his/her weight is obnoxious. no excuses. Anyone who feels the need to put someone else down has issues with his or her own self esteem. I've never been overweight - I'm petite and athletic - so I can't really relate to your experience. I just wanted to let you know that I agree with you 100% that being rude about weight is unacceptable.
My sister takes good care of herself, but she has always struggled with her weight. It's infuriating for someone to insinuate that she doesn't care or is physically lazy - she's anything but! Her metabolism is just really slow. I don't obsess about my weight, I just enjoy eating healthy food, and I like playing sports and working out. I also happen to have a very high metabolism, even in my 30's. You may be surprised to find out that those of us who are small also get a lot of snarky comments about our size as well - probably not to the same extent, but it does happen.
The most important thing is your health. If you're healthy, or trying to become more healthy, and if you're happy with yourself, anyone else can kiss your @$$! :-) I have a good friend who is considered 'overweight' but who regularly runs half-marathons (13 miles!) She's in better shape than most thin people I know, she dresses well, she looks great, and she exudes confidence. You can look good regardless of size, as long as you take care of yourself.
Don't let a few jerks get you down. The rude comments don't make anyone think negatively of you - they just let everyone else know that the ones making the comments are idiots.
Actually, I am at the perfect weight, just almost underweight.
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I was overweight and I totally understand where they are coming from.
I am on both sides of that question.
I was overweight (according to BMI, I still am, but I look damn good so I don't really care). I also have a medical condition (hypothyroidism) which mean that I had to work 100 times harder than most people, even with medication.
So, I know where they are coming from. I understand. I want to help, but it is not easy. The morbidly obese people have more issues than I would be able to handle. It's often that food is a was of stuffing emotions deep inside them. Food addiction is serious business.
Also, it's never been in my nature to intentionally cause someone else physical or emotional pain. I might think nasty thoughts when I am at the grocery store and the incredibly obese woman in front of me has a cart full of junk food without a single healthy item in there. Of course I think nasty thoughts. Then again, I think the same thing about people who don't even TRY in general, if you know what I mean.... I was a teacher for a few years in computer science. Half the kids would make me show them how, then wonder why they failed the exam! They didn't even TRY! I thought evil thoughts about them, too.
So, it is not in my nature to point and laugh. It is not in my nature to whisper mean things under my breath to my friends. In general, I have noticed that it is human nature to compete. Say you were at a beauty pageant. Every single girl in there is absolutely gorgeous and perfect.... I bet you a million dollars that each girl is turning to her friends and criticizing each other. They are criticizing boob shape, outfit choice, a tiny bit of cellulite, that the middle toe sticks out too far, a gap in the teeth, etc. People are just mean sometimes and the way you treat others says a lot about you.
You can't control what giant @ssholes other people can be, but you CAN control how much of an @sshole YOU are.
i'm 14 and used 2 weigh 281, now i weigh 220 after a hard @ss summer of preparing 4 football, but i'm still overweight. i have no prob w/ overweight people and never will, i just dont like those who dont try. i'll date ne girl no matter their size, it all depends on if they care about their health or not.
As you know Ches...yes I'm overweight...however I too am working to fix that...I TOTALLY feel you about being stereo-typed. "Fat-slob" seems to go together and it usually flies out of a careless thin persons mouth that hasn't had the constant struggle that we deal with daily. As you know I lost 100 lbs...and STILL I was considered FAT, it's really all about SELF- ACCEPTANCE--God made us all different for a reason afterall. Just know that there is only one of you and that alone makes you special & unique--personally I like not looking like I was molded out of a cookie cutter. (you know 5'10" & all...lol) ;) There are a few thin people that kind of understand bc perhaps they're on the other end of the spectrum & are too thin...can't gain.
It all comes down to RESPECT--respect people that are different...you haven't walked in their shoes to know just why they're overweight... then how can you rightly speak on them--you can't. I've came to accept that some people are jsut ignorant and 9 out of 10 times I'm prettier then them anyhow...I just got more junk in the trunk! hahaha!! ;)
P.S. I too had a person attack me on here...hence the reason I added what I did in the ABOUT ME section. ;)