How do you get rid of the pain?!


Question: Well my sister Mariah passed away. She was only 2 and 1/2 when she died. She had a heart diasese called cartiomiopithe and she had to get a heart transplant and got a berlin heart from Germeny, the mechanical heart caused brain trama and damage and so we had to take her off the venolater and she died. Then my grampa passed away, I was very very close to him. We found out he had cancer then 2 weeks later he was gone.


Answers: Well my sister Mariah passed away. She was only 2 and 1/2 when she died. She had a heart diasese called cartiomiopithe and she had to get a heart transplant and got a berlin heart from Germeny, the mechanical heart caused brain trama and damage and so we had to take her off the venolater and she died. Then my grampa passed away, I was very very close to him. We found out he had cancer then 2 weeks later he was gone.

I'm sorry hun but the pain doesn't go away. You just learn to remember the best things about your relationship with them. When something like this happens we naturally go through a grieving process. For some people it lasts longer than others. You will surprise yourself and find strength you never knew you had. Try and think if your grandpa would want you moping around being unhappy. Probably not. He would want you to be happy remembering all the great things you did together. I lost 2 older family members and then my father to cancer when I was 16 all with in 5 months of each other. I'm 32 and still have my weak moments. It helps to talk about it though even if I end up crying. I blamed myself for a long long time. Some people need help with coping don't feel embarrassed if you are one of those people. It just never seems fair that some of us are plagued with such misfortune while others go on about their business like nothing happened. I'm thinking about you and wish you the strength to understand.

I really don't know what to tell you. That's a lot, even just to read.

Um, try to find something to take your mind off of it. Maybe like a fun activity?

time is the answer n let it all out

just pray about it and ask god to help you cope with it all he wont let you down and try and cherish life and your friends and families life more and really live life to the fullest extent and keep faith in god

It takes a long time.
Find God and he will help the pain - he can help with happy memories!!! TRUST God he will lead you

have faith in GOD, he is the only comfort out there!!!

you dont ever get over the pain unfortunately as time goes by it gets a little easier but you should always talk about it and go to meetings and help support other people who have those same diseases you may not be able to get over the pain but atleast you will be able to make someone else's life a little easier.

try turning your feelings into something productive, ex:

painting a picture

making a video for them

write down all the good things about them

or even writing a letter to them

im sorry for your loss, it must be tough

my prayers go to you and your family

it will always be there. you can't get rid of it. but you can reduce it. only you know how. stay strong, and be well. good bless

Well i know exactley what ur going through.... my dad is dieing from cancer right now and unless a miracle comes than he is not living. Email me if you need to talk and im sooo sorry about ur little sissy

I am so sorry.

You may find solace in your faith or by talking to a friend or minister or therapist. A friend of mine joined a grief support group and got a lot out of that.

If you are getting really depressed you should see a doctor; you need not be on meds for a long time but it can help if your nomal grieving turns into something worse.

Healing occurs over time, and it never really helps to hear that, but it is important to be realistic. You have lost some very precious things, and it hurts, and it will hurt for a while.

Sorry . :-(

Just think that they had a good life and they will renember you ok your grandpa might be with mine right now i think they will make good friends ok. sorry for you i will pray for your loss ok

wow im sorry idk wat to tell u im sooo sorry its painfull just to read im sorry

Wow, I feel for you. I have a 3 year old daughter and can't imagine being without her. Console in your parents, I am sure they are in pain also. You should all grieve together. Maybe you should see a counselor also. I lost my dad a few years ago to cancer and it was hard. I miss him but I try to only remember the good times. Time will heal you. Your loved ones will always be in your heart.

I am very sorry for your losses. The pain never truly goes away, you just begin to move on. I have lost loved ones and at the time, I felt my life is over, and it will never be the same. No, my life would not be the same, but at the same time, it was not over. Just know that in your heart, they will always be with you. They are watching you and although they will not be there physically to see you progress through your life, they will be their spiritually and will see the good times as well as the bad. Neither of them would want you to be sad for a long period of time, so when life seems hopeless live for them if not for yourself. The pain never goes away fully, but after time, your heart heals, just remember they are in a better place, and as hard as it is, they will always be with you. I hope your pain goes away soon, you have my sympathy.

After many family and friends have passed on in my life I struggle with death too. People say time heals all wounds, but I have yet to heal. I don't know what we are to do my dear girl. I just don't know.

Just live.
Obviously you're gonna be sad.
But God won't let you hurt forever.
He won't.
They wouldn't want you to be sad.
You're still alive.
Live your life for them.

My condolences to you... Obviously, you're feeling terrible, it happens to all of us in this kind of things... the pain really never goes away, it only decreasses with TIME...
Keep in mind all the good times you had with them, and remember that they loved you very much and they'll like you to be happy...
Your sister was really little, but it seems to me that she was suffering a lot, and now she's resting... and so is your grandpa... he must've had a nice life, and he'll be remember by all the people who loved him so much, like you...

Just honor them by remembering them always and following their example, because they were both fighters till the end...
And give yourself time... eventually, you'll be feeling better, try to go out and have a little fun with your friends and family, and talking about how you feel is always good too...

it will take time for the pain to pass but it's all part of the greiving process i found that reading my bible or turning to god in prayer helped more than anything you must let go to get past the grieving part as neither of them would want you to stay so sad but infact they would rather you remember the good times and they would rather you to remember that they arent suffering anymore even though they've passed on just remember they're in heavin looking down on you and watching over you i'll pray for you that god will help you to get through this it's normal to greive but you have to remember there's nothing you could have done to change things god was tired of seeing his children suffering so he stopped their pain you should try to do a memorail for them in their honor and remember the good times and try not to focus on the bad they will finally be at peace when you are at peace my dear please ask god to help you deal with the pain of losing them i'm very sorry to hear about your loss i'll keep you in my prayers may god bless you i pray right now in the name of jesus that all greif leaves you and it is replaced with unmeasurable peace god bless you





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