What can i do to expresss my feelings?!
Question: Im ion a relationshipo and I feel like I can open up, im very shy and never been in a relationship before so its getting hard for me to express myself and its ruinign my relationship.Like for example some day I miss this boy and I cant tell him I miss you. Or I thought of him and think he looks nice and I cant say it...I dont know why..I feel it but its just hard for me to say it..What can I do to improve?
Answers: Im ion a relationshipo and I feel like I can open up, im very shy and never been in a relationship before so its getting hard for me to express myself and its ruinign my relationship.Like for example some day I miss this boy and I cant tell him I miss you. Or I thought of him and think he looks nice and I cant say it...I dont know why..I feel it but its just hard for me to say it..What can I do to improve?
It is called opening your mouth and saying it!
You will never grow relationally unless you "stretch" yourself and move into the uncomfortable zone.
Compliments are the safest way to start when you are shy. Everybody loves to be complimented. You are entirely safe telling your guy he looks nice or smells nice or whatever.
Coming out of your shell takes practice just like everything else in life you want to master. The more you practice, the more comfortable you will get at it. So, don't just sit there! Do something nice for your relationship! And, don't get bogged down in the "paralysis of analysis." If you stop to think about what you want to do, you'll talk yourself out of it. Just do it!
Avoid thinking too much about it prior to actually expressing yourself. You may find that you are stalling in expressing your emotions because you are overanalyzing what may occur as a result of your encounter.
Break the ice. The first time is always the hardest, but if this guy positively reinforces you in expressing your feelings, you'll find it easier to do it again the next time around.
Stop it! Why would you not think this person would not appreciate your kindness? It's a win/win cituation. Just go for it...
Well, there are a range of things you can do:
Don't be shy, be confident. If you're introvert, it'll be quite hard but you'll get used to it.
When you try to speak to someone, make eye contact, and feel strong, if you have any feelings you want to express - go ahead.
But to speak out, make a blog, keep a journal, talk to someone about your wrongs, perhaps create a webdiary? Even joining clubs and going out helps..
If you do good things, you'll feel good, so when talking to someone, and you feel shy, just speak out..
One of the most marvelous things in life it's the spontaneity,also in people's relationship a spontaneous thought,a smile,a caress are more appreciated than other very elaborated actions.Only anybody can't be spontaneous all of the times,I can't remember how many times I would say nice things to people I liked and something stopped me,then I regretted a lot,but you can get used to it,you can say it the next time you'll have the chance till you'll get the guts to say it instantly,everybody fears to be misunderstood,but without risks the life looses a lot of charm.
You are missing one point. Mind picks up strong emotions. Your boy friend must be picking up your emotions whether you express them or not. It is you who is thinking negatively and not he. So be positive in your thoughts and believe me your strong emotions will express themselves within the heart of your boy friend.