Weirdo / pervert man or just really nice?????!
Question: I used to go to this store on and off by years since I was 13 and never went at all for like 5 years.and so forth. Now i am 21 and the older pakistani man who is about 40 w/ i think a wife said that i was really beautiful to my mom.
Everythime even since back in teh day i was never happy to go there he would always look at me and my sister. But i just thought maybe he thinks ALL kids steal or something. But we never bought anything only to go pay a bill in the back then leave. He never smiled or said anything.
NOW I been there a few times in the past 2-3 months but not to pay a bill for someone and he talks to me now! I don't think he knows it was me that went to his store every once in a blue when i was like 13etc. . Sooooo he asks me about school how i am doing, my major etc. i tell him and ask him things to. So does my mom. He calls me over so i can pay with him. But he gives me free candy and never charges waht my mom and i got completely! Opinions plz ??????
Answers: I used to go to this store on and off by years since I was 13 and never went at all for like 5 years.and so forth. Now i am 21 and the older pakistani man who is about 40 w/ i think a wife said that i was really beautiful to my mom.
Everythime even since back in teh day i was never happy to go there he would always look at me and my sister. But i just thought maybe he thinks ALL kids steal or something. But we never bought anything only to go pay a bill in the back then leave. He never smiled or said anything.
NOW I been there a few times in the past 2-3 months but not to pay a bill for someone and he talks to me now! I don't think he knows it was me that went to his store every once in a blue when i was like 13etc. . Sooooo he asks me about school how i am doing, my major etc. i tell him and ask him things to. So does my mom. He calls me over so i can pay with him. But he gives me free candy and never charges waht my mom and i got completely! Opinions plz ??????
He wants more from you,in his country the men are the ones choosing their wives,they can have also several wives and in addition to them also several official concubines,the women can't decide nothing about that,only their parents,even Benazir's Bhutto husband was hers mother choice,you can say and have to say to him clearly both of you are living in America now where the women have the right,use to be and like to be free in any choice they make,you have to say straight to him without to be afraid you'll hurt his feelings,otherwise your feelings will get hurt,you can say to him something like that :"-I beg your pardon but I don't like someone talking to me repeatedly and with persistence without to giving to him any reason he could believe I'm interested in him."He can even try to rape you while he will "teach you to drive a car" for make you his woman especially at his age when the men are in decline and are looking for more younger women for make them feel young again.It's a very serious matter,you have to keep him away from you,If you"ll say to him very clearly to back off and keep the distance,you never have talked to him first,only him,he has to understand,I repeat,you are living in America not in Pakistan,and he also lives in America,he has to obey the American laws and habits,and if he persist you can go to the police,the police is for protect all the citizens from any harm coming from another one which can and are a menace to his liberties,and even if that don't work you can sue him and make him pay for the moral damage.You have to keep him away because it's clearly he's trying to come all over you against your will and consent.
He may just be a sweet old man..and wouldnt you feel bad for saying this if that was the case?
But just in case...always get your guard up when your around him..
Sounds like you are overreacting. The guy thinks of you as a niece, he feels like a father figure. He doesnt have "bad" intentions. If he makes you feel uncomfortable dont do anything with him other than shop at his store. And if you feel RLLY uncomfortable go to some other store.
hes just nice. does he act like that around other ppl? if he duz he mite have intentions...idk but i think hes just nice. & i wud go bak (free candy!)
yeah kinda creppy but Im gonna give him the benifit of doubt & say he means no harm . but I think your wise for not accepting his offer for driving lessons. he may really miss his neices & it does sound like he rembers you from when you were young. If he does or says something that makes you feel uncomfortable dont hesitate to tell him, it sounds like he would respect you.