Question about Drugs!!!!??????!?!!?!


Question: I have a friend that has been smoking pot for like 15 years. He told his mate he wouldn't do it anymore. He does it and then lies about it. She can tell when he's high. Why does he keep doing it? He always does it right after they have been getting along really good. Is it addictive? Why does he lie? Any and all insight would be greatly appreciated. Thanks for your time. She doesn't know where to turn.

They are married and have 4 children.


Answers: I have a friend that has been smoking pot for like 15 years. He told his mate he wouldn't do it anymore. He does it and then lies about it. She can tell when he's high. Why does he keep doing it? He always does it right after they have been getting along really good. Is it addictive? Why does he lie? Any and all insight would be greatly appreciated. Thanks for your time. She doesn't know where to turn.

They are married and have 4 children.

It is psychologically addictive, meaning if it's there, he's gonna want to do it. He does it when things are going well because he figures that's the perfect time, she wont suspect him. It's not that easy to just promise someone you wont smoke it ever again, especially if you've done it for years and enjoy it. It doesn't sound like it's messing up his life at all, so what's wrong with it? It's like anything else, it's hard to give up something you like for another person, it's only simple when you want to do it for yourself. If he wanted to stop, he would have.

Weed isn't really very addicting unless you smoke 24/7. However, sometimes people can get really strong urges. It's understandable after 15 years that he's having trouble quitting. I think he's lying just because he doesn't want to hurt her, but he doesn't want to stop smoking either. If it's a very serious problem, he might need to seek some help, but like I said, it's not very addicting. Tell his wife to sit down and talk to him. Just have her say that she's concerned, and she'd be willing to help him quit.

15 years is a long time together and I hope they can work through this! Cigs, alcohol and etc are hard to kick and wish them all the best !If you can "not do it": for at least a month then the hold will lessen! and be easier to turn your back on! If not then they do have meds that will help!

Marijuana is not physically addictive like heroin where a chronic user gets physically sick when they stop. However marijuana affects serotonin production in the brain so there are psychological side effects from quitting after years of habitual use. He keeps smoking even after he told her he'd stop because being pissed off for no reason (a side effect of quitting) is troubling and marijuana is a great mood enhancer. He lies about it because he probably doesn't want to talk to her about not being able to control his mood.

Physically, weed is not addictive. But people often end up convincing themselves that they need it "to be happy" or to escape their problems.

Your buddy and his mate need to communicate with each other on what's going to happen. Him lying to her and her just letting it continue is bad for both of them. Did he "stop" because she asked him to? Or did he try to make her a promise to impress her?

She needs to decide if she can accept him with his pot-habit, and if not, he needs to choose between his family and marijuana.

Also, he should consider his children. Drugs are not something that kids should be raised around. Personally, if I had kids, I would not want to trust them to somebody who was high. Also, as a parent, how can you tell your child not to get involved with drugs if you do them yourself?

The choice to do drugs is the person's alone, but if his drug habit it affecting his family life, his children, or his wife's trust in their relationship, some serious thinking needs to be done.

He's probably lying because he feels guilty for doing it, and he probably continues because he's convinced himself he "needs" it. A fifteen year habit is hard to break.

Perhaps counseling or hypnosis could help if he's willing to break his habit for her?

Some people, its nearly impossible to stop using drugs, and that includes tobacco and liquor which is entirely legal.

The reason being, is the brain develops receptors which literally "demand" to be filled by the Nicotine or Drug. Its a very very strong urge that cannot be suppressed in a lot of instances. That is why individuals will steal, cheat and lie to get and use drugs. It is partially not their fault whatsoever.

The key as a youngster is to know this and know it well that we do have these "receptors " and never never developer the need to use them.

Have a sense of pity on this individual. It could happen to one of us who do not have a present problem.





The consumer health information on answer-health.com is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice or treatment for any medical conditions.
The answer content post by the user, if contains the copyright content please contact us, we will immediately remove it.
Copyright © 2007-2011 answer-health.com -   Terms of Use -   Contact us

Health Categories