Help?? Someone I know my be in really bad shape??!
Question: I found out that a person that i made really good friends with on this website is either terminally ill or suicidal. I dont know what I can do to make him feel better, so could you help me?
ps. i already sent him a bunch of emails about suicide and why not to do it and stuff. I just dont know what i could do about the terminal illness thing. he seems really, really depressed and i dont wont him to be sad if he only has a short time left.
Answers: I found out that a person that i made really good friends with on this website is either terminally ill or suicidal. I dont know what I can do to make him feel better, so could you help me?
ps. i already sent him a bunch of emails about suicide and why not to do it and stuff. I just dont know what i could do about the terminal illness thing. he seems really, really depressed and i dont wont him to be sad if he only has a short time left.
Hi there.
I'm not surprised to see this. We make friends on here and we don't really know what we're getting into...
You sound like a good person. You have been doing the right thing. My answer is - Do everything in your power - i.e.- Do you have this person's phone #, address? etc.? There is a reverse look-up by address site on here to call him...
If you can reach him this way, call and offer help - tell him to call the suicide hotline or the nearest Crisis Center. Talk to his parents, anyone there if you can!
If all you have is his e-mail address and/or chat info. - You are already doing all the right things. And pray. That never fails.
It is not your responsibility as to how he reacts though! This person needs professional help, and you can only do certain things. Don't blame yourself, or take it all upon yourself. Talk to your parents if you have to, or a sister or brother.
I'm betting he knows you care, and will be just fine... You're doing the best you can do, that's all we can really.
You have to get this person professional help now!!! Someone who is suicidal may have a medical condition. Unless you are a trained doctor you can't solve that problem. Don't wait, do something today! Talk to someone at your school, church, or hospital and get your friend help. Don't try to solve this one alone, you'll feel horrible if you don't contact someone and your friend is in need of professional assistance.
Good Luck!
Be there for the person.
Ask them to tell you what's wrong, and why, and how they feel , and what happenend... just don't ask all of that at once.
Find out where they live. Then maybe you can send them the number of a local Emergency Mental Health Clinic (They are usually free or very low cost.) Try find their local suicide hotline number.
Try and get in an IM conversation and LISTEN to them. I know from experience that this helps a lot.
If they have real world problems (and they probably do) try and see how you could help, them what resources you could find for them, etc.
Also, try send them a couple of humerous jokes, laughter (on their part) is good. It helps.
Don't berate them, tease them, make fun of them. They have enough worries without you jumping on them.
Tell somebody that you know will help him. Take him to a free clinic or something but idk if you should let him know ahead of time, cuz he might hurt himself if he doesn't want any help.
Email your friend and tell him how much he mean to you. Let him know that you are always there and ready to talk if he needs you. Tell him he is special and you want to know if you can help in any way. Unfortunatly, he is an adult and you can not force him to get help, he has to do it on his own. If he doesn't want to talk about a terminal illness, then respect his decision. Instead of sending stuff on suicide and depression, try to be a positive and happy influence for him. Send along pictures of yourself, funny ecards, jokes and find great songs or videos online to send to him. Even if he never tells you, he will enjoy the attention.
Finally, if something does happen to him, whether by nature or if he takes his own life, remember, IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT. Rest assured that you were a good, caring friend and maybe, the only bright light in his dark days.
hey bro, thank you! But When its your time its your time i guess...