End of life?!


Question: Hi, could anyone give me some information about what happens when someone is about to die? My father has terminal pancreatic cancer and I want to know what to expect so I wont be scared and I can be there for him 100%. So if anyone could tell me what the last few weeks are going to be like I would be very grateful. I understand that this question may be hard for some of you to answer if you are speaking from personal experience so I hope I havent offended anyone.
Thanks in advance


Answers: Hi, could anyone give me some information about what happens when someone is about to die? My father has terminal pancreatic cancer and I want to know what to expect so I wont be scared and I can be there for him 100%. So if anyone could tell me what the last few weeks are going to be like I would be very grateful. I understand that this question may be hard for some of you to answer if you are speaking from personal experience so I hope I havent offended anyone.
Thanks in advance

My father-in-law died from pancreatic cancer less than two years ago. It was a terrible blow and you have my deepest sympathy. Everyone is different, but in our case, he was relatively normal up until the last two weeks. He worked right up until then. Two weeks before he died, he stopped working. Every day, he was a little weaker, more tired, less talkative. On his last day, he was barely aware of the friends and family who were gathered around. He waited until everyone was out of the room to take his last breath. According to the hospice workers, that was a fairly typical scenario.

If you have hospice available in your area, please call them. They are so very wonderful.

You will likely be scared anyway. I know we were. Also, the healing takes a long time. The only comfort I can offer you is the knowledge that eventually it hurts a little less and the good times are remembered a lot more. Peace be with you and your family.

nah its kool i know its sad to see someone go i know the feeling of watching then and you wish you could do so much for them but no matter what until the last moment they can hear you they can always hear you just always be happy around them even if you are crying in a different room just let them feel like they arnt making you upset

sorry about what your going through your not alone

Sorry to hear about your dad! I don't have any experience with this, but I know that palliative care is very good these days, and they'll make him as comfortable as possible. The best thing you can do is try and be happy around him, and make the time you have left with him worthwhile.

Reenee C is absolutely right. Be good to him and love him the way you do. Try not to cry in front of him. If some one has to go then you don't know in advance as we our selves are not sure whether we will be getting up from our sleep tomorrow morning.

Sorry for the grief that you are going through. God be with you.

Hi
In the last days, he will be in and out of sanity.
By that I mean that he will not remember much, and may not recognize people.
He will get weaker and weaker and eventually, with some luck go in to a coma for a day or two before he dies...
From today, until he goes, just love him, love him, love him.
Tell him how much you love him.
Sit by him and talk.
Talk, talk.
Talk about the days when you were a child in his house.
Bring back memories for him.
Tell him about things that he had done that made you proud of him....
These memories, when refreshed will stand him in good stead in the final hours....
Be physical.
Hold hands, rub his arm, massage his back, be his daughter.....
Not a grown woman....
Then, within your self, start letting go, a little bit at a time, day by day.....
Remember, this time with him will also be your memories of him.
Let go a little every day, and when at last he is released from this world, love him as he goes on to the other side to wait for you there....
So sad, but be strong for him.
He may be terrified of the trip.....
We all are....
Good luck and remember;
Love will see you through.

Let him go and tell him that tell him you always be grateful for the love and wonderful things he has given you but now you are strongenough and unselfish so you tell him I LET YOU GO. Let ne tell you an important thing Noone will die who is not ready.





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