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I am afraid to say I dislike the feeling we get after sex. This negative feeling eliminates our desire for our partner intimately and temporarily. For example: Because I desire sexual moments with my partner now, I would gain mutual feelings for her, like do anything she asks of me. But once I make love to her such desire would change; I no longer have such mutual feelings for. It is important not to get me wrong. I love my wife more than anything exists, but I am simply identifying the awkward feeling we get after having sex. To make my point clearer: It's like I don't care if my wife needs new clothes, or if she needs a new car. That's how I feel. But my genuine feelings for her would recurrent after a day two.
I am not sure if this happens to every male or female, but I assume for now that this feeling is associated with Human nature, which I am in full disagreement with the way we're created.
Answers: This question is a sex related question.
I am afraid to say I dislike the feeling we get after sex. This negative feeling eliminates our desire for our partner intimately and temporarily. For example: Because I desire sexual moments with my partner now, I would gain mutual feelings for her, like do anything she asks of me. But once I make love to her such desire would change; I no longer have such mutual feelings for. It is important not to get me wrong. I love my wife more than anything exists, but I am simply identifying the awkward feeling we get after having sex. To make my point clearer: It's like I don't care if my wife needs new clothes, or if she needs a new car. That's how I feel. But my genuine feelings for her would recurrent after a day two.
I am not sure if this happens to every male or female, but I assume for now that this feeling is associated with Human nature, which I am in full disagreement with the way we're created.
I think this is pretty common Male behavior. I know exactly what you're talking about. It's like before sex I'm highly motivated to cuddle and romance my GF. Once sex has been completed I suddenly have lost all that motivation to shower her with affection. In many cases I find myself wanting to be left alone. Trust me I hate feeling like this as I feel that it's terribly rude. But I think we as Males cant help that. It's in our genetic makeup.
The bottomline is that you're not alone in feeling that way. It's an unfortunate emotional mood swing that we have Mother Nature to thank for. My advice is to fight that mood swing and continue showing your woman love. Because she'll never understand otherwise.
I am a 60ish female. I think that what you are describing is a part of human nature that ensures our survival actually. The intense urge we have for sex produces feelings before that to please the other person, in order for them to want to be sexual with us. After sex has been consumated is the lowest point for that "urge to please". Of course that is a supremely simplified explanation, but you get the point that I am making. Although nothing about us as humans is ever simple.
It would appear to be psychosomatic, that is, it is something that you believe to be true. Once the needs are satisfied, there is a point from something that you have come to accept that she is no longer worthy of your care or concern. You may not be aware of it. It might be something you heard years ago. It is there none the less, and is affecting your relationship. Something you believe says that once your needs have been fulfilled, she is worthless to me, time to move on to other things. The fact that you say you have these feelings would point to this belief, even though it is not on a conscious thought level. I would advise going to a councilor and seeing if this feeling that you have could be rooted out and dealt with.
No, it doesn't happen with every man. I know of no one else who has ever brought up anything like you have brought up here. Most men would tend to be more prone to do more for their spouse after sex than before.
I don't believe it is a gender specific issue. True, men have the label of running away after the act, but I think that is a simplification. I need some space afterwards myself, not immediately, but after a little cuddles. But that's me, I tend to feel smothered very easily. Like you said, you feel affectionate towards your partner again, so I wouldn't worry about it. Your doing just fine. If a week or so went by and you felt you didn't care, then obviously there are issues that go beyond the bedroom.