Why are some people so nasty when it comes to a person with handicaps?!


Question: I have problems with my knees and ankles giving out on me and also have back problems from an injury that happened when I was younger. My doctor has issued me a handicap parking permit, which I rarely use unless I feel my legs won't hold up to the weather conditions, which is the only time I use it.

So anyhow the other day I was in Meijer and my legs and back had been bothering me all day so I parked up close to the building--it wasn't even a handicap parking spot it was the next one to it. I get out of the car with my family and have my walking cane in one hand and am getting my baby out of the back with the other when all of a sudden I hear someone yell "hey FAT-*** why don't you try parking out farther the walk would do you some good"

I just ignored the person and continued getting my boys out of the car and headed inside. We get into the store and my 6 year old says to me "Mommy why did that man yell that at you?" and to tell you the truth I had no answer.What would you do?


Answers: I have problems with my knees and ankles giving out on me and also have back problems from an injury that happened when I was younger. My doctor has issued me a handicap parking permit, which I rarely use unless I feel my legs won't hold up to the weather conditions, which is the only time I use it.

So anyhow the other day I was in Meijer and my legs and back had been bothering me all day so I parked up close to the building--it wasn't even a handicap parking spot it was the next one to it. I get out of the car with my family and have my walking cane in one hand and am getting my baby out of the back with the other when all of a sudden I hear someone yell "hey FAT-*** why don't you try parking out farther the walk would do you some good"

I just ignored the person and continued getting my boys out of the car and headed inside. We get into the store and my 6 year old says to me "Mommy why did that man yell that at you?" and to tell you the truth I had no answer.What would you do?

I wish I had an answer for you as to why so many people are so intolerant...It is just ignorance I would say! I'm sorry your children heard that hateful remark! And I'm sorry you were subjected to that meanness! My sister had the same type of ignorance displayed toward her several years ago...See she has had two open heart surgeries and endured 3 strokes all by the time she was 40 years old,beginning in her late teens.She had parked in a handicapped space at the mall(she has a placard) and was walking in when a woman ran up to her yelling that she was completely inconsiderate and should have the police called on her for taking a H/C spot. My sister didn't say a word...she just faced the lady and showed her part of the 12 inch scar on her chest...needless to say the woman looked sheepish and walked away,but did not apologize! People need to stop and think before making judgemental hateful remarks when they don't know the circumstances!

some people are ignorant and have such low self esteem that the only way they can make themselves feel better is by tearing down other people.

Sigh...unfortunately there are stupid, ignorant people everywhere. Tell your son that the man who yelled is unfortunately losing brain cells at an alarming rate and can't help being an idiot. Teach your son about karma and how bad people will get theirs someday, some way and how good people will be rewarded.

I go thru this as well. I have had 19 knee surgerys on one knee and four on the other.... I too have a parking pass, it seems that these folks can't mine their own business. So the best thing to do is be the bigger person and ignore it... I used to give smart A@@ remarks back but now my kids are old enough to understand what they mean so that's out... Must be something with Meijer parking lots as thats where I had MR. MRS jerk wad acost me...... Maybe staying away from MEIJER LOL!

My wife is handicapped (Myotonic Muscular Dystrophy) and suffers from falls frequently due to her muscles locking up. People see her getting out of her car in a handicapped spot and just stare like she is a liar. To the eye she does not appear to have a handicap but honestly does. I can relate to where you are coming from.

People are just rude. It is people that yell stuff like that either were not brought up to respect people, have no respect for people or are just trying to show off for their friends.

There is nothing that can be done and I think you did the right thing by simply ignoring their gesture. Generally if you attempt to defend yourself in scenarios like this, the other person was just looking for an argument anyway.

If all else fails... upside the head with the walking stick is an attention getter.

I know how you feel - I also have knee and back problems. What I usually do to ignorant people, is just give them a big smile and wave to them as if they were your friends. If your child asks, just tell him that the man saw someone else on the other side of your car that he was yelling at, but smile and speak very softly (without anger in your voice). The kid should believe you - after all Mommie's don't lie. Do you?

Some people have the IQ of lettuce. It's a handicap. It's called lettuce-itis. They are incapable of thinking and speaking in a civil manner. I have told my children that. It is very much tongue in cheek, but I can't STAND people judging others without knowing the whole story. My father has a handicapped tag on his car. I drive him to his doctor's appointments in his car because it is easier for him to get in and out of than my 17 yr old POS suburban. I have had comments about abusing the system, and how I should be reported, and how other people REALLY need those tags. Irritates the CRAP out of me. Don't give it a second though. Just know that this moron had lettuceitis and move on. God bless ya.

Without the kids in tow...I would have seriously said something back.

Kids in tow, you have to be the better person (which you were and that took a lot)

People are disgusting sometimes.

I have no experience w/ older children but I guess I would explain it just like you did to us...some people are just mean to others that have a disability. Some people are just mean in general.

That would be a great time to explain how because you ignored him, you did the right thing.

I'm sorry you had to hear stuff like that.

I'd assume he was referring to some other fat--- and keep on going. Then I'd tell my child that some parents didn't bring their children up with any manners and "aren't you glad I taught you how to act properly in public?"

There's no point yelling anything back, otherwise you're stooping to his level.





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