My roommate stinks...how can i nicely let her know?!
Question: THIS IS NOT A JOKE!!!
first off...she is a girl, and you would think that she would take more showeres, but i cant think of one time she took a shower this week...i am not joking about this....sometimes the smell is so bad that i can hardly breath...my bed is lofted, and hers in under mine, and last night we were both laying in bed watching tv, and the smell was so bad that i had to cover my nose with my blanket...i know that she can sometimes smell herself, because when you get a big whiff of it she pretends like it was a fart and sprays airfreshener, or sometimes when she just thinks that i am not paying attention she will spray airfreshener or perfume....i cant take it anymore...i really need help...what should i do?
Answers: THIS IS NOT A JOKE!!!
first off...she is a girl, and you would think that she would take more showeres, but i cant think of one time she took a shower this week...i am not joking about this....sometimes the smell is so bad that i can hardly breath...my bed is lofted, and hers in under mine, and last night we were both laying in bed watching tv, and the smell was so bad that i had to cover my nose with my blanket...i know that she can sometimes smell herself, because when you get a big whiff of it she pretends like it was a fart and sprays airfreshener, or sometimes when she just thinks that i am not paying attention she will spray airfreshener or perfume....i cant take it anymore...i really need help...what should i do?
Tell her straight out! It's the only and logical option. You don't have to do it in a rude way but the subject can be discussed positively and maturely.
Point out the importance of personal hygiene and how it might be affecting her in so many other ways. For example, if she goes for a job interview than this fact alone might doom her chances.
Also point out the fact that if you can smell her than so can all the other people she comes across on a daily basis... at school, work, stores, other public places etc etc.
When you are talking to her, let her know that you are bringing this up because "you care" if you didn't than you could just ignore the issue and let her suffer the consequences.
If the talk doesn't help and she doesn't change her ways on this extremely important subject than tell her that you have no choice but to go your own way (you move out or she does) harsh last option but people can only do so much.
Good luck!
say ...'can you smell BO'
and if she says no
say 'it must be you then'
Move out and find a new one, or wait until shes coming home and hold a bucket of water or a hose and spray her down when she walks in!
the best thing you can do for her and yourself is to be honest. Not rude,maybe her deodorant is failing offer her yours to try!or maybe you could find a pool and take note of the shower before you swim rules, if that works do that several times a week!!
Be honest with her and tell her that she needs to bathe not just cover it up with sprays. Come right out and tell her that she stinks. Can you threaten her with "if you don't shower I am getting a different roommate"? That might help.
Perhaps you can suggest a deodorant that you just purchased for yourself and some perfume that you buy yourself. Try and show her how nice they smell. Tell her nicely that you feel so fresh after taking a shower and it's relaxing. Although she should know this herself. I think she might be lazy. If nothing changes after this, I think you will have to tell her really how it is. As she probably knows anyway.
There really isnt a nice way to correct someone's personal hygiene. I would let her know you like her, but you have a problem with her lack of good personal hygiene. Let he know the odor is bothering you, and it is a constant odor. Maybe offer to have a spring cleaning day where you both wash all the bedding, pilows, blankets, and get everything smelling clean, and get her in the shower. A small gift basket with soap, scrubby, lotion, etc might be a nice touch.
It is gprobably going to hurt her feelings, but it is for her own good .
If you have been roomies for awhile you should be close enough to tell her that she has a body odor. Ask her if she changed deodorant and tell her it is not working. There is NO excuse for being dirty,none,nada,no way, no how. Unless maybe you live on the street. The pig needs to take a shower.
You've gotta tell her. Tell her, "take a freakin bath, you stink."
go buy her a bath set with soaps and bubble bath....maybe she will get the hint