My husband is too big in the male department!?!
Question: I am so sorry to have to ask this question but i don't know what to do. I don't seem to enjoy sex that much anymore because my husband seems to have gotten longer and it hurts.
Or could it be because i have had 3 children that my uterus has dropped low and its in the way?
I have no idea what to tell the doctor if we go because i will just end up in pleats laughing.
Answers: I am so sorry to have to ask this question but i don't know what to do. I don't seem to enjoy sex that much anymore because my husband seems to have gotten longer and it hurts.
Or could it be because i have had 3 children that my uterus has dropped low and its in the way?
I have no idea what to tell the doctor if we go because i will just end up in pleats laughing.
With three kids you may have what is called a tipped uterus also. This can make S** painful. I have the same issue. Plus positions can take a toll on you.. some positions hurt more than others. I try to be on top.. or the missionary position can be the best. The on top, you have control, as for the missionary you can position your self better.
As for talking to your dr. just let him know that you have 'some' pain when you have intercourse. they can do a pap and find out what is wrong. That is why I know I have a tipped uterus. You can giggle. They have heard allot "sillier".
As for him being to big... well unles he grew, since you had the last child, I dont think so. You can stroke his ego though and tell him that is the problem.
I tell mine that and he loves it... The ego thing.
good luck.
Laughter is good. As long as the doctor can understand what you are saying through your laughter, it will be okay. Doctors see so many people that are upset and cranky about their problems, it would make them feel good to visit with someone that can laugh about their trouble. Just explain it as best you can. There may be something the doctor can recommend or suggest. Good luck.
Actually, my wife and I had the same problem after our children were born. The guy just has to quit pounding it so hard. Or, you could have him thread it through a bagel before sex. This will keep him from going too deep.
just tell the doc. whats up and if i could suggest something that may not hurt you as bad when you have sex with him ride him. so you can put his penis in half way lean over in his face or put your head buy his neck and ride away. that way you are in full controll how fast and how much. good luck
Difficult question!!
I really don't have any experience with what you're dealing with, but I've got thoughts...figured I'd share.
When people change positions during sex, it has a lot to do with going "deeper". But this isn't what's really happening; it's just changing the angle so that the cervix is more or less stimulated by the thrusting. Too much stimulation is painful, obviously.
When I read your question, it seemed very probable that your uterus had dropped, and therefore your cervix had over stimulation. It's not that your husband got longer, it's just that the distance between his penis and your cervix has perhaps gotten closer? I would definetly see and OB/GYN.
My fiance's mother is having this problem right now. Her uterus and her pelvic floor are dropping and she's having a lot of problems as a result.
send him to my place
talk to your doc. it could be that your uterus has dropped. there are simple procedures the doctor can do to lift it.
are you some kind of a sick freak?