My best friend...sick and dieing?!
Question: My best friend is in Seattle Children's Hospital right now. She's very sick. She has MRSA pnemonia. It's been 3 weeks so far with her in ICU and on breathing machines. She's been unconsious the whole time.
They started allowing visitors in to see her. So, my friend Brianna and I are going to go see her tomorrow morning. The doctors say she wont even know we're there. But, i NEED to see her. I miss her.
We have made her like, 15 cards, 2 posters, and bought her some elephant stuffed animals. IT's her fav. animal. But, i don't know what to say when i see her. I think I might cry.
I want to stay strong...but i dont know how. How do i keep from crying? What do I say to her? Do you think theres anything to say that might...just...make her happy. Even though they say she's a 'vegetable' i think she just might.
What should i do?
Answers: My best friend is in Seattle Children's Hospital right now. She's very sick. She has MRSA pnemonia. It's been 3 weeks so far with her in ICU and on breathing machines. She's been unconsious the whole time.
They started allowing visitors in to see her. So, my friend Brianna and I are going to go see her tomorrow morning. The doctors say she wont even know we're there. But, i NEED to see her. I miss her.
We have made her like, 15 cards, 2 posters, and bought her some elephant stuffed animals. IT's her fav. animal. But, i don't know what to say when i see her. I think I might cry.
I want to stay strong...but i dont know how. How do i keep from crying? What do I say to her? Do you think theres anything to say that might...just...make her happy. Even though they say she's a 'vegetable' i think she just might.
What should i do?
Its said the last thing that goes is your hearing. She will know you are there, even if she can't express it to you.
Tell her that you love her and miss her. Go ahead and cry if you need to. There's nothing wrong with crying, its healthy. You can bring some of her favorite music to listen to, tell her stories from the past that are happy memories. Tell her the latest gossip from school that she may enjoy. Read her the posters and cards. Describe to her the elephant you bought her.
You are a good and brave friend for going to see her. Good luck!
Edit:
The MRSA that she has is in her lungs. You may be asked to wear a mask when you go in to see her. If you're really concerned about infection then just wear a glove and be sure to wash your hands well when you leave. But don't be afraid to hold her hand when you visit.
Just go and be yourself...even if the doctors say she won't know you're there...i think in her heart she will know....
Cry if you have to...laugh if you want to too....
you know what? that is really, really sad. :(
aww man they really need to stop keep people living off the machine. shes a vegetable for gods sake doctors are playing god here.
hey just let it alol out its okay to cry and just tell your friend whatever comes to mind. good luck
I think they can hear you, even if just teh subconscious placing it into dreams. Give her words of encouragement.
Many ppl fear doing this b.c they don't want to get their own hopes up, but positivity is everything. Tell her soul to fight this, pray, and sometimes miracles do happen.
If she doesn't pull through, cope with it then-don't listen to the doctors who say to deal with it now. If she is meant to go home to God she will, in her time..but for now-fight it..tell her you love her and want her to come back to you.
The soul can hear if nothing else can.
I'm truly sorry for your friend's illness.
I'll pray for her.
Please PM me if you believe in divine intervention and (healings).
Be by her side,she'd want you there.I just looked this disease up.Its rare but very hard to treat doesn't respond well to
antibiotics.PRAY for her.
you can try;
but you most likely will cry, not trying to sound mean
i know if my bestfriend was like that, i would be a mess
try your hardest
&just tell her that you love her, & all the stuff you two are going to do together when she gets out
goodluck
Tell her how important she is to you. That you cannot wait for her to be back to her old self doing fun goofy things with you.She may come out of this unharmed. Miracles do happen. We almost lost an 18 month old family member from a bad flu shot. He pulled out of it. They thought he was dying. Let her know she is loved and wanted here on earth!
Cry if you need to. there is nothing wrong with that. Just talk to her and hold her hand if you can. When my mother was being kept alive on life support that is what I did. You never know if she can hear you or not, so talk to her.
Being strong does not always mean you feel strong. Making it thorugh is being strong!
awwww dw...jst tell her how u feel n tell ur frend briana to jst leave u alone with her for a while n tell her esacly how u feel...keep strong and if u cry dw and jst let it all out...at times like dis no1 can keep strong...gd luk i hope i helped
She is most likely not a Vegetable, she is most likely heavily sedated or in a medication induced coma so the ventilator can work for her. It is ok if you cry a bit... just don't scream and wail. She may well hear you or feel you presence. Don't be afraid to talk to her, say Hi say I miss you, and I want you to get better soon etc. Talk to her about all of the things you girls can do together when she gets better ( things she would enjoy )
Just tell her how much you miss her and can't wait for her to get better. (whether she will or not.) In other words, tell her how you really feel. You might also catch her up on the normal gossip of what has been going on while she has been there. Stuff she would want to know if she were stuck there wide awake.
Lastly tell her that you are praying for her. And you can tell her that I am too if you want because I will be praying for her health and your strength and wisdom.
Sounds like your doing everything good so far. Be sure and cry whether you tell her goodbye or we are praying for you. Just be positive and you wont go wrong. Cu dos on the cards and posters. They all cry out love. I will pray the Lords will be done
just talk to her, like you would over the phone.hold her hand and rub it gently .
I'm sorry to hear about your friend.and what a wonderful friend you are!
Your cards and posters will brighten her room,when she gets a regular room. and cheer other family and friends who come to visit.
Take care !
It's kind of hard to not cry when you are visiting a loved one, or for your case, a best friend. She might not mind that you are crying and you shouldn't feel embarrassed. But try not to cry, hold it in. And to say something happy, like how you doing? or some jokes might cheer her up.
That is so sad. I am soo sorry about your friend. If that happened to me.. then i would not be able to handle it.
Things you can say to her: How are you feeling
or You are such a good friend.. you will get better soon!
something like that
Thing to do to not cry: Bite your tounge
or Try to cry,... i know this sounds weird but it works for me.. dont just let it all out but try hard to cry. For some reason it makes me not cry.
Good luck with your friend :)
Be strong.I'll keep her in my heart.God bless her and her family and friends.Tell her you miss her and hoep she wakes up.Bring her her fav music and play it.i heard somethime 'vegetables' can still hear you and can tell your there. God bless you!
they say people can here you even though they are in a vegetative state. just tell her about your daily life as if she is sitting up and listening to you. don't be ahsamed to cry, you have every right to, she would cry if the situation were reversed. just hold her hand and tell her about teh wonderful things you see every day and recall all teh great times you guys have had..let her know how much you appreciate her. this atleast is what i would do. it sounds like you already have done a lot..just be there. im so very sorry for what you are going through i will pray for your friend!
just tell her that you are there for her no matter what and if she wont know your there just pray for her....and its ok to cry it realy shows her you care.......dont worrie i kno how u feel!!!.....it will all be ok.....hope this helps.....
I can imagine its difficult to lose someone you love but stay strong for her. Just say anything that comes from your heart and you never know she might even hear you. Put your faith and trust and God and if your pray and believe that he can heal your friend it will happen believe me I have seen it.
Mark 11:24 says "Whatever things you ask when you pray , believe that you will receive them, and you will have them." Jesus himself said this. So I would say the best thing you can do for your friend is pray for her :)
i think you should pray about it...
i'll pray for you to be strong for her, and for her to get well VERRY soon
Talk about anything, talk about what is going on with the boys at school, tell her the latest gossip, tell her jokes, talk to her as if she were upright, aware and talking right along with you. Tell her the things you might not get to say again, like how much she has meant to you, recall some of your fondest memories of your times together, or even play her some of her favorite songs, try not to be sad but even if you are she will understand. The doctors don't really know what people are or are not aware of in the vegetative state. Say anything she may just be listening from somewhere beyond her body...good luck and my condolences...Childrens Seattle is a wonderful hospital and if they can bring her back they will....keep positive and keep visiting.....
first off i would like to say i am very sorry for you, i can only relate this to my experience with one of my friends who died from cancer at the age of 15...
first- don't be afraid or embarassed to cry, trust me- bottling it all up inside will not do you good... so if you are going to cry, just do it... trust me it will help relieve your stress, anxiety and help you deal with the situation...
now to try and not cry, i suggest bring a pack of gum and just keep chewing gum, and when you feel you are about to cry, take out your gum and get a new peice(it will busy you) so you may wanna have a full pack on you when you go :]
and as for what to say, just open up, say anything... talk about your day to her, how much you miss her, bring up old funny pastimes and laugh and cry! it will honestly make you feel SO much better. TRUST ME,,,
and remember, doctors still are not completely sure if people who are considered "vegetables" can hear you or not.. some doctors say no wile others disagree and say there is still some brain function going on where they are hearing what you say...
trust me... you are human. you are going to have so many emotions hit you at once when you see her you will forget all about looking embarassed or feeling awkward. just be yourself... don't hold back. trust me... it will help you.
and i hope i helped...
god bless her and her family.
omg the pnemonia. i had the RSV VIRUS when i was i think 16 months old.
cry if you want to cry, being wit hher would make her happy, dont give up just hope, and do not touch her! MRSA is infected with the skin and can spread with skin conteact.
srry to say but its difficult to treat without a cetain anibiotic.
you are a bf to her so no problem in crying just go and sing a molody song which ever she likes to plez her soul
Just being there will comfort her and you. Hold her hand and say what's in your heart. If this is the last time you will ever see her alive you don't want to regret not having told her how you really feel. Don't be afraid to cry, this is a very hard and emotional thing you're going through and you don't have to be strong. It's good that you'll have another friend along with you so you can comfort each other after your visit. Don't be ashamed to cry and show your feelings. And regardless of whatever the doctor said about her being a vegetable and not being able to hear you - nobody truly knows what someone in that state may or may not be able to hear, feel, see, smell, etc. Just do what's in your heart and you'll be fine. You may want to seek some counseling if you are feeling really sad for too long about this. Sometimes just talking it over with someone who is trusted is good enough.
I think that to cry in a situation like this is normal and shows that you really care.
Do not worry too much about what to say, words will come all by them-self and even if they don't you know that you care and that is what count.
Strength and all of the best to you and your friend.
I do not know you or your friend but I will think of you. All the best.
Hi I want to let you know, I feel for you. Last year my boyfriend had a major heart attack. And was in ICU for a week and a half. and total hospital for 5 weeks and week and a half in rehab.
The very best the thing that you and your friend can do is.
JUST BE YOURSELVES. And the Doctors can say what they want,About her not knowing you're there.I believe deep down inside they know you're there. When people came to see my guy,There was only two rules I had for them. They had to be themselves. And they couldn't cry there, and they had to talk to him, like there wasn't anything wrong with him.And laughter is great...it helps alot....Sounds mean, but believe me, it helps.
I'm sorry to hear your friend is sick and that you are having a hard time. My advice would be to talk to her like she can hear you, maybe she can... You don't have to prevent yourself from crying, if you cry it is because you care about your friend. Just let her know you are there and that you care.
Stay strong, keep hope and keep praying for her!
why do you wanna be strong? just cry :]
I think that you going will make you feel better and her even though they say she won't know you are their. It's OK to cry. Crying does not mean you are weak. You say hi to her, you say I have been waiting to come see you. We made you some cards and here is a lovely elephant wish you could see it. Kiss her on her cheek. Then you say you love her and wish she would get well that you all miss her.
I don't know if this helps you but know that its OK to cry.