Please help me..!?!
Question: a few years back i was anorexic for a year and it was just AWFULL!!! (DON'Y ANYONE EVER DO IT!!!!) anyways- my little sister is 12 and she is litterealy forcing herself not to eat becasue she wants to be as thin as Kira Nightly- this is a complete outrage and i can't accept the fact that this happened-i just found out a week ago and i tried anything to tell her that it WRONG!!!!!! i am so scared - she's been doing it for two months and i need to stop her- its like anything i tell her she jsut uses the excuse" you were anorexic- your still alive.." and i will never forgive myslef for that but at the moment she is my problem- i don;t think i have ever been so worried in my life!!!! please please i donno what to tell her to stop- i;m so scared i have no idea what to do!-
please can you jsut tell me something i should say to her to get her to stop or anything
(this is when Y/A gets really serius for me-)
Answers: a few years back i was anorexic for a year and it was just AWFULL!!! (DON'Y ANYONE EVER DO IT!!!!) anyways- my little sister is 12 and she is litterealy forcing herself not to eat becasue she wants to be as thin as Kira Nightly- this is a complete outrage and i can't accept the fact that this happened-i just found out a week ago and i tried anything to tell her that it WRONG!!!!!! i am so scared - she's been doing it for two months and i need to stop her- its like anything i tell her she jsut uses the excuse" you were anorexic- your still alive.." and i will never forgive myslef for that but at the moment she is my problem- i don;t think i have ever been so worried in my life!!!! please please i donno what to tell her to stop- i;m so scared i have no idea what to do!-
please can you jsut tell me something i should say to her to get her to stop or anything
(this is when Y/A gets really serius for me-)
Tell her that if she doesn't eat loads of fresh fruit and vegies, lean meats such as the white meat of chicken, fish and lean steak cuts, wholegrain breads and cereals then she will age quicker than she should because she's depriving her body of the fuel it needs to be young and healthy and vital ............ tell her to fill up on fresh, vital, healthy foods and avoid the prepackaged junk foods and sodas cos they will surely rob her of her vitality and youth ? Besides, if she avoids the junk then she can eat lots more food ?
Tell her to drink loads of fresh filtered water as the happiest and healthiest body will always be the most hydrated one ......... tell her she is precious and vital and young and that you want to always have her to hug and hang out with.... tell her you love her just the way she is and if people don't accept her for who and what she is then they're not worth having as friends ?
Tell her she is a wonderful, healthy, love ~ worthy being.
Affirmations are prepared positive thoughts that you repeat to yourself, out loud over and over again. If you say something often enough, eventually your mind begins to believe it. By repeating a positive affirmation, you reprogram your thought patterns in a positive direction. When you convince your mind that you are a person who is deserving of health & happiness, it begins to become true. Millions of people have proven the benefits of positive affirmations over and again.
Get her to greet herself each and every single morning with a brilliant smile and say something like "Hi beautifull, you are going to beat this obsession to not eat cos you are strong, powerfull, independant and deserving of a healthy and strong body, i need food to make me vital and healthy"..... Say it again during quiet periods of the day and before falling to sleep at night......... look yourself in the mirror when you do it so as you have visual affirmation and look yourself in the eye when you say it and say it with strength and determination?
Tell her not to run from this or it will also eventually erode her self esteem and pride and confidence. She can do this buddy she just need to start and have faith in herself that she can do it. learn how to love herself and start doing things for her that she really enjoys ~ could be anything from needlework, to running in the park, dancing in the streets, singing at the top of your lungs when you are in a crowded shopping centre and your fave rock / pop song comes on (i'm always spinning people out and doing that one !!), jumping in puddles when you see them, just cos all these things can bring you an enormous sense of exhilaration and fun fun fun !!!
You know what?? if you can form a picture of the way you want to be, feel, behave and look in your minds eye then you have won 90% of the battle .............. get her to conjure up images in her mind of the happy & free girl she wants to be , see it, feel it, taste it and believe me it will be yours.
i kicked a vile disgusting alcohol and antidepressant addiction nearly 6 years ago now and these are all the methods that i used to bolster my confidence and inner strength sweetie, best ball and chain i ever got rid of?
Get her to also take a good quality multi B complex supplement including all the B's ie: B1, B2, B3, B5, B6 and B12 you will support your body in dealing with the everyday stresses life throws at us. ie: new job, new home, school studies, addictive behaviour ...... the B complex of vitamins is essential for healthy digestive, neural and immune systsem functioning.
Drink loads of fresh filtered water on a daily basis to as the healthiest and happiest body will always be the most hydrated one?
Take care of you?i'm here with all my heart hun wishing you all the very best cos i just know that you have the tenacity and strength to help her reclaim her life and do this?.... :0)
CHEERS
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You may think about sharing your experience of being anorexic. What made you decide this was not a good choice for you? Were there events, conversations, emotional or physical pains involved? How did you start eating again? What steps did you find necessary to recover? How long did it take? Are you still dealing with a fear of being fat? What was the rewarding about not eating and the rewarding part of eating?
If your sister knows exactly what you went through, it might help her make her own decision to change her eating habits. Ultimately, your sister will have to make the changes herself; however, you can still be as supportive as possible. Try to remember you can only control what you do and do not do; not what your sister does or does not do.
I hope this helps at least a little.
first
do what the person above me said
then make facts
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like kira knightly is a horrible role model
and that she gets liposuction
also tell her that she can be peremently scarred and will have horrible marks on her stomache and face
make some crap up like
"if you keep doing this then you'll never meet guys every again, why do you think i stopped doing it."
or "if you kiss a guy the day you don't eat it will suck and he will hate you and you'll have no friends"
or lastly "you'll be that thin once you are done with puberty (could just say growing i guess)
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also parental involvment
or try forcing her to eat
trick her
feed her like filling food and say that it is extrmeley healthy and will help her lose wieght
and then theres my style of dealing with this
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VIOLENCE IS ALWAYS THE ANSWER!!!!!!
WAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!
just slap her and make her eat
your parents will notice eventually
she will never be that thin
those models are stupid and retarded
OMG thats so horrible.....and she's only 12 years old.....thats really not good....she can go into a coma if she doesnt eat..and very bad things can happen
Yes everyone said the right things and like the First person said....share ur experiences with her and let her know what u went thu and tell her how unhealthy it is....Besides there are plenty of other healthy ways to lose weight....u have to somehow convince her OK..
Also tell her that Starving isn't the answer for weight loss, and if you don't eat your body will eventually lose many important fluids, you'll feel tired, weak, and very dizzy. Then she will not have the energy to do anything and her body will not be able to function properly and day by day she will become weaker and weaker until she Finally collapse :(
So many bad things can happen to her....she needs to know..
If u dont eat..u wont be able to do the number 2 and if u dont do that for a certain amount of time u can die....I'm serious and not trying to scare u but its true....she really needs protein and important substance in her stomach...and not to mention that i will also slow down her Metabolism...which is really not good....cause when she starts eating again her body will starts to store more fats than it used to and she will gain weight faster....
I'm so scared for her....but do your best and see how u can help her out....she is young and sometimes at that age kids dont listen....she is the only one who has to make the change u cannot force her to do it but keep trying and dont give up....
Hey did u talk to ur Parents about this??? I think u should for her own health...Its important that they know cause u never know what could happen to her....I feel so bad and I do hope she will listen and stop and think about all this....she is only a child and she is so young and has her whole life ahead of her...
Here read this and hope i was helpful...
http://www.funadvice.com/q/what_happend_...
Good Luck.....
First thing u should do is tell ur parents if they dont already know does she know she could die from doing that?!!!! just cuz u survived doesnt i had a best friend i known for almost my whole life who died from doing that....................if u have to get proffesional help like a psychiotrist or somethin............do wut ever u can 2 get her 2 stop! and while ur tring 2 get her 2 stop make sure she doesnt stress out her body or do anything energy consuming! thats bad news if she passes out cuz she did something she didnt have the energy for!!
hope i helped!! let me know if it workd out!