Why does it annoy me so badly to hear people chewing gum, snoring, eating, etc.?!
Question: Because you focus on these irritating things about people. If they are not family members, ignore them. If they are family members, think of a nice way to say that this particular mannerism is affecting you. Be sure you have no such things that bother them, though, or they may point out YOUR bad points of irritation. Snoring is possible a health issue, so that person should be checked for sleep apnea, and it does affect the person in the same bedroom. It isn't that you want to be irritated, snoring just wakes anyone in the vicinity, so everyone suffers. Best to get snoring checked out with a doctor. As for eating, I used to really hate to see my mom eat, but realized I was focusing on that one thing because I was angry with her and needed something to put a wall between us. I finally matured enough to focus on anything but her eating when she was at our house.
All mannerisms can be offensive to others, and depending upon how close the relationship is, conversations can be had around this. But if it is a co-worker chewing gum in your ear, you can either be assertive or figure out how to ignore it. Not easy, but only you know your relationship with the person as to how will they take the suggestion that they not do this particular thing.
Bottom line, these things might bother others, so you may be doing the person a favor by pointing the problems out to them. If they get defensive, or are thin-skinned, you need to figure out your approach. With my husband, I taped him and he then understood my problem with his snoring and with his eating fruit like a monkey, slurping sounds everywhere. Since he is passive-aggressive, it didn't do much good, but at least I did get to speak up about it.
Good luck. Hopefully, your comments will be heard as love, not destructive criticism. We all need constructive criticism at times, don't we? I know I do.
Answers: Because you focus on these irritating things about people. If they are not family members, ignore them. If they are family members, think of a nice way to say that this particular mannerism is affecting you. Be sure you have no such things that bother them, though, or they may point out YOUR bad points of irritation. Snoring is possible a health issue, so that person should be checked for sleep apnea, and it does affect the person in the same bedroom. It isn't that you want to be irritated, snoring just wakes anyone in the vicinity, so everyone suffers. Best to get snoring checked out with a doctor. As for eating, I used to really hate to see my mom eat, but realized I was focusing on that one thing because I was angry with her and needed something to put a wall between us. I finally matured enough to focus on anything but her eating when she was at our house.
All mannerisms can be offensive to others, and depending upon how close the relationship is, conversations can be had around this. But if it is a co-worker chewing gum in your ear, you can either be assertive or figure out how to ignore it. Not easy, but only you know your relationship with the person as to how will they take the suggestion that they not do this particular thing.
Bottom line, these things might bother others, so you may be doing the person a favor by pointing the problems out to them. If they get defensive, or are thin-skinned, you need to figure out your approach. With my husband, I taped him and he then understood my problem with his snoring and with his eating fruit like a monkey, slurping sounds everywhere. Since he is passive-aggressive, it didn't do much good, but at least I did get to speak up about it.
Good luck. Hopefully, your comments will be heard as love, not destructive criticism. We all need constructive criticism at times, don't we? I know I do.
Cause the sounds are so repetitive!
because those are annoying things..
BECAUSE.......................its annoying........
OMG, that drives me up the wall too. I'm always b itchng about that around here, and most nights I sleep on the couch with the dog because my husband snores so bad.
I don't know, but I'm right along with you. I totally want to kill people who I hear chewing food, the mere thought of it drives me crazy, I tense up and start losing focus.
OMG that annoys me so friggin bad!! its like all you can think about is them chewing their freakin gum or chewing with their mouth open!! i hate it SOO much!
Because it tends to be annoying or rude .
yes, i have see few people complain about it, but it don't bother me: because i am deaf.
but really if you can hear it, you have to accept it of what you are .
just like me i can not hear anything! i have to accept it who i am.
Because you have a low stimulus barrier & so are very sensitive to noises in the outside world.
You are definitely not alone.
its annoying
It's very strange...I got like this when I was too stressed, over worked, over tired. Your mind is overloaded! Can't take any extra noise. You MUST take Two days off! Do only the quiet things that please you. Know that the world is spinning out of control...In your corner, you will take time to quietly smell the roses..Thank God for your blessings. Tell yourself that you will not spin out of control, not ever..because you love the beauty of life too much.
I'm sort of the same way, more specifically with chewing, snoring not-so-much. I used to have a psychotherapist that I went to regularly, back in my angsty early teen years, and she told me that it is common for people to be annoyed by sounds that their parents, spouses, coworkers, etc make. Sort of like a pent up aggression thing.
However, if you're like me, that may not help. I find everyone's chewing annoying, except my cat, and my boyfriend's doesn't bother me as much as everyone else's. In which case, I once learned of a psychological condition of sorts where you associate certain sounds and behaviors with traumatizing, incredibly aggravating, or in somehow regrettably memorable events. I'm sorry that I cannot remember the name of the condition, but if your problem is bothersome I recommend looking into it.
I believe I have problems with chewing because I came very close to an eating disorder when I was younger and have never been able to be fully comfortable with food.
I hope that was some sort of help.
If a person is having nervous fits over (usually) loss of control over their world, any tiny repetitive anything at all, makes one want to scream or throw things. Obviously, the problem is not someone eating something, but that one is being eaten by something. And that should be the object of attack. Good luck all. Regards, Larry.
Hi,I guess your not the only one.It really is a pain in the A#*? We dont notice it so much if its us,but some people really do need to learn some manners and not be so selfish.If you live with people that do this,then perhaps ear plugs might help - I use a pair and they help.Maybe,the other people might get the hint if you walk around with these in your ears.Good luck