Getting hurt physically? (not emotionally)?!
Question: i'm 14. ok normally i dont like getting tons attention...but for example...during basketball season, i kept wanting to get hurt in a game (like a sprain or breaking a bone) but im not really sure if i want it for the attention or so people feel sorry for me or what. but at skool i keep wanting something to happen that makes me have to go to the hospital or something like that. i dont want to intentionally hurt myself, i've only gotten one thought of that to leave a tampon in so i have a possibility of getting TSS but i realize that thats too dangerous, but like alot of nights i start thinking and imagine me slipping or something and (for ex.) breaking my leg. i dont know why but i just think this way.
i dont really know what i'm asking for, but can anyone offer assistance in any way plz?
Answers: i'm 14. ok normally i dont like getting tons attention...but for example...during basketball season, i kept wanting to get hurt in a game (like a sprain or breaking a bone) but im not really sure if i want it for the attention or so people feel sorry for me or what. but at skool i keep wanting something to happen that makes me have to go to the hospital or something like that. i dont want to intentionally hurt myself, i've only gotten one thought of that to leave a tampon in so i have a possibility of getting TSS but i realize that thats too dangerous, but like alot of nights i start thinking and imagine me slipping or something and (for ex.) breaking my leg. i dont know why but i just think this way.
i dont really know what i'm asking for, but can anyone offer assistance in any way plz?
Natalie:
Baring my soul to you a little here. I totally and 100%ly understand what you are saying, and how you feel.
Now at 35 i no longer have these thoughts.
Growing up, I was abadoned by my bilogical family. I was 9. I did't start having the same EXACT thoughts as you until after this. I know they are related, but don't know exactly how.
How is your family life?
I would daydream about my gym coach saving me from an accident....or being in the hospital, and everyone coming...or knowing...
I don't know exactly what the answer is, but there **must** be something to this, becuase I have been where you are.
**hugs to you**
and if you fell and broke your ankle while playing basketball, I would come out, baby you, tell everyone else to stay back....make you safe.
I think it has something to do with not feeling safe.....I really do.
I think its a cry for attention. Seek help. And 'TSS' is disgusting, you don't want that.
MASACIST!!!!!
Check in with a counsiler
Be content with yourself and stop looking for ways to gain attention.
When you are 14 it is hard, I know. I thought about how cool it would be (when I was like 11) to have a cast on my arm for everyone to sign but alas I never did. I am now glad since I have never broken a bone and have less chance for future osteo complications in an area.
You crave attention.
You want people to pay attention to you and you think that if you get hurt they will. It'll make you stand out.
I used to feel like that when I was little, my friend broke their leg and got soo much attention, and I realized thats all I wanted. Then I thought about it, and decided to do good things so I could get good attention, instead of the "oh i feel bad cause your hurt" attention. Try to stand out and do somthing good, becasue if your like me, you just want attention.
I was like that. I wanted to get hurt so the ambluce had to take me and I had to stay in the hosptial for a few days. It is because it has not happend to you so you want to know what is like. I was that why untill I had to stay in the hosptail. good luck hun.
dont worry sometimes i do this too.....i ususally jsut wonder "hey will my friends care" that kind of thing
its normal....ish
find some good friends, all the attention and support any one ever needs is in thier friends. Also after a while if you get hurt to much people form an oinion about you nd that can lead to a whole mess of things you don't want to happen.
Please find someone that you can talk to. Look at what has been happening lately, is there something new in your life that makes you think this way, new baby in the family etc. Again please find someone who you can talk to.
I think the thing that's creating all this is just a want for attention. Instead of all that, why don't you try getting the fabulous kind of attention, after doing exceptionally in a basketball game or something good like that? It doesn't sound like anything related to actual self-injury (you'd know if it was, you'd actually go through with it, possibly numerous times) and you probably just want the attention and sympathy, which is something everyone wants some of. Nothing to worry about, but you'd be happiest if you find a way to get the attention you crave by doing something outstanding! Hope that helped
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do those ideas show up in a movie like state kind of thinger???
by the way.....just about everyone has thought of doing the same stuff so its okay....as long as you dont do anything to hurt yourself....
also.... having people feel sorry for yourself is getting attention......
tis not bad cause i totally felt the same way....
even though you say you don't like ton's of attention the child in you is seeking it...you want them all talking about it at school you want that special attention but getting hurt isn't the answer it will only last a few mins and then your in pain long after the attention is gone ...life goes on at school with out you and your sitting home bored with no one...what you need to do is think more on the lines of doing something to get the attention you want like making up money for a good cause and getting the media in on it at school or something really special that will get the attention you want more than an accident and the attention will last alot longer also, i think everyone wants to be special or feel special maybe a bf would help or something to fill that emptiness you have.
I think it is a cry for attention... mostly sympathy... i am the same way.... a good way to get sympathy but not to get hurt, is to get some mascara and some red lipstick/blush and first rub a little bit of the red lipstick/blush like around your eye with a little bit of water. Then take the mascara and a drop or two of water and spread that under your eye in the same spot as the red, and then add a touch more red to the edges to make it darker and staqnd out.... once you practice at it you can fake a pretty good bruise and people will feel sorry for you....
Or you could go out and buy a kneebrace from Walmart for like 25 bucks and wear it to school for a week and hobble around and tell people you dislocated your knee (a very easy injury to fake...) pretend you felt your knee pop out and roll on the ground, and then make one loud scream and claim that you felt something move but it felt like it was back to normal... they'll probbaly give you crutches for a week...
You're just looking for attention, sympathy or whatever, and it's totally normal. Some people only get attention (like me ) when they're hurt or sad...
Try it, it'll work for you...
Was there some one around you who got a lot of attention because they were sick? There is something called Munchausen's. People make themselves sick so they can get medical attention.Do you feel like people value you? Another question is do you feel like your parents have really high expectations of you? Are you playing sports because you want or because they want you too? We all want a little sympathy and understanding at times. The best thing you can do is figure out why you are focused on something bad happening to you and viewing it as some how a positive. Believe me a broken leg gets old real fast. The casts are hot and itcy and gross. Most people hate them. I would go to your guidance counselor or your parents about this. You may want to see a therapist. Your energy should be focused on more positive things like doing a good job in the game or doing well on tests. You are fourteen so it is normal to focus on what other people think. Eventually you'll realize that a lot of your happiness is based on you being proud of yourself and not what everyone else thinks.
Ya, that's a fairly ordinary narcissistic complaint. It's just that you perhaps think that you need to be looked at closely - cared for - taken seriously - loved. And it comes from NOT being taken seriously by those around you - either at this time but probably in the far past.
Hard to say what you do about it - have fun with it - don't hurt yourself! Some people with this might become "accident prone" where they actually cause various accidents. But you're completely aware of it, so you don't have to. This will probably go away as the years pass because you are aware of it. People who aren't aware of it can go on to get unnecessary operations or have really bad accidents which don't make much sense.
That's pretty neat that you were able to see through this thing - lots of people can't.
Just reading your headline I was going to give a short answer as a joke and say "...is much, much easier to take and rebound from than emotionally." If it will avoid the latter, then go ahead and get hurt! But upon reading your whole question I am pleased to say I think I can help you. I had similar "wants" around your age. Good news. If it is like mine was. it won't stay with you for long. It's a "head trip".
In my case, I think I just wanted to look... "bad", tough, cool. And casts, crutches, bring that. But soon I "matured", it became a non-issue to me and I went on to some other phobia or trip. Maybe this is true for you, too, or something similar, or maybe you are genetically similar or related to Tonya Harding.
Not to worry. This, too, shall pass. Faster than you think. Take care!
When u wanting to hurt yrself, means u want someone to care and concern and u wants ppl to look that u there. With all that u will attract an attention, whoever at the field.