What should I do about my about my pregnancy and my husband?!


Question: What should I do about my about my pregnancy and my husband!?
I just found that I'm pregnant!.
I told my husband but he has been really weird about it ever since!. Before we got married we talked about having kids and he really wanted them!.
He is normally so kind and loving but now he is being very distant!.
I was having a tough time recently and I dont know whether he thinks that I cant handle it or whether he just doesn't want the baby!.
What do you think!?Www@Answer-Health@Com


Answers:
I think you need to sit down and talk to him!. Its a very emotional time for both of you!. While you are going through changes so is he!. He has lots of questions going through his head and maybe if you were able to answer some of them you could help him get back to his usual self!. He may be worried about supporting you and the baby while you take leave, if you work, or just another mouth to feed if you don't!. He may have friends who's wives started treating them differently after a baby was born!. He could worry that things between you two are going to change!. He could be worried for your health!. That said he could also be being selfish and know that he isn't going to get as much attention from you as he has had in the past!. If you sit down and talk you can work through this!. Make sure to address his concerns and not just laugh them off!. Good luck, it will change your life forever, but in a good way!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Guys think ahead and I am sure he is wondering about his salary and benefits in taking care of all the doctor visits you will be having, the hospital bills, doctor visits for the baby and the child's school, etc!.
Keep the lines of communication open with him!. Ask him about his concerns, keep a female family friend close to share concerns about the pregnancy someone with a good head on her shoulders that isn't going to tell you horror stories but to keep you excited about this new part of your family!.
God Bless you and him!Www@Answer-Health@Com

He may just be preoccupied with anxiety and thoughts of what how this pregnancy is going to change well, everything!

Just talk to him! It may be his nerves for himself, and it may be for you as well!. If you just let him know that you're comfortable with the idea of having this baby (if you are!) and hopefully that will settle his worries for you!.

As far as himself, I would imagine it's just nerves!. Having a baby is huge! I'm sure he'll simmer down soon!

Good luck and congratulations!Www@Answer-Health@Com

He is in Daddy mode, first child!? I wouldn't worry, life changes sometimes are overwhelming and it takes a while to let it all sink in,,, he is just getting used to this, of course he wants the baby you talked about it, pregnancy will wig you out if you let it, very emotional time as hormones are flying around, relax, congrats and life is going to get so good for you be happy! all the bestWww@Answer-Health@Com

The only person who can answer that question for you is your husband!. It doesn't matter what any of us think!. We don't know your situation at all!. You need to sit down and talk to him!. Tell him how you are feeling and ask him what his feelings are!. Be honest and listen!. You can't base your ideas on what you suppose someone is or isn't thinking!. Maybe he's worried that you aren't ready for a baby!. Married people have to talk to each other - keep the lines of communication open!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

He is obviously a little worried and/or nervous!. Having a baby is a big change to any relationship especially if there have been some "tough times" recently!. Make the pre-natal appointments and carry on for the health of the child right now!. If you demonstrate your happiness and the fact that you are handling it just fine he should come around on his own!. Good luck ?Www@Answer-Health@Com

Congratulations! This is a wonderful time in your life and it may be that he is scared/freaking out b/c of all the responsibility that comes w/ having a child!. you could plan a surprise romantic dinner, a small "dad" gift from the baby to him and then lay on the romance and show him that you're not broken your pregnant!. if that doesn't work suggest counseling for the both of you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

All the girls I know that got pregnant were in the same boat as you!. lol!.
Don't worry, just keep being you and reassuring, and loving, pregnancy is a shock to men!. It's a big shock to a woman too, so you can probably imagine!. He's probably stressing himself out trying to predict the future!. The beauty of women is they can tame men, he'll come around, even if you have to nudge him a little!. Good Luck!. And Congrats!Www@Answer-Health@Com

Your husband may be having a stressful time at the moment and this extra news may have worried him more!. After all prices of everything have rocketed!. This truly is a time to pray to God!.
Please have your beautiful baby!. It is a wonderful gift from God!. This song may help:-
http://www!.youtube!.com/watch!?v=D1dXWlY6U!.!.!.

May God bless, protect and guide you both!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

maybe it just shook him up that hes really going to be a father and maybe is doubting himself as wether he is going to do a good job; or maybe he doesnt think hes the baby daddy for all i know lol!. I really dunno, ur going to have to talk to him to really find out what is wrong, bc only he can tell u for sure!. Hope everything turns out ok =]Www@Answer-Health@Com

Talk to him and find out why he seems to have had a change of heart!. There's alot of things that can put pressure on someone when they find out they are about to become parents such as financial situations!. You need t make a decision together as it could cause problems if you're not honest with each other!.

Good luckWww@Answer-Health@Com

I really think the person to ask is him!. We can speculate all day and night!. You just created a life with this man and if you don't feel comfortable enough to be direct with him about it, you have a tough path ahead of you! I don't want to sound harsh, but this is major, grown-up stuff! Best of luck to you and congrats!!Www@Answer-Health@Com

He may come round but then exactly the same thing happend to me and my ex husband did a runner when I was 5 months pregnant!.

You need to sit him down and have a real heart to heart with him!. I know how bad and neglected you are feeling because I went through it myself!.

Good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

The best thing you can do is talk to him!. Maybe he is just scared to be a father!. You'll never know until you ask!. The worst thing he can say is: I'm just not ready!.

He's probably just scared for your life and the babies!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Maybe he's scared about how your lives are going to change!. Talk to him, you need his support during this time and you need to talk about your worries and expectations together!. Congratulations and good luck to you bothWww@Answer-Health@Com

you need to ask him why he's so weird!. I can think of a hundred different reasons!. he might not even be able to pinpoint the reason but talking it out should help him find it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

I think you should talk to him about it, because anything anyone says on here is just a guess or an opinion!. Only your husband can tell you why he's acting the way he is!. I hope things work out!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

He's probably worried and scared!. Talk to him!. Congratulations!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Like my husband, he probably needs just a little time to get round to the idea!. Maybe he is doubting his ability as a fatherWww@Answer-Health@Com

honestly he is probably just scared!. just try talking to him about it and telling him how you feel about it and maybe he will tell you what's really going on!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

If you guys are married then you should talk about every thing together!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Wrong category, try Astrology!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

It may just be shock!. Talk to him and try to work things out!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Why don't you ask him!? He would have the answers you are looking for!. Good Luck!!!

Have a great day!!!Www@Answer-Health@Com





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