Why am I like this........Death seems a better option sometimes?!
Question: Why am I like this!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.Death seems a better option sometimes!?
When I was younger I was abused by my step-dad!. When I would go to school, and covered in brusies, I would lie about where they came from!. It would become so natural to lie about what had happened to me that I would be forced to keep up with those lies, so I had to create more!.
When friends would ask to come over I would tell them something because I was embaressed, and didnt want them to see my stepdad hit me!. Later on in life the lies became a part of my real life, I lied about most things: my family, things that happened to me, where I lived, where I was from, things I like to do!. I made up a life that was easier to live than the one I actually had!.
Now that I'm older, I'm scared that I will never be a real person!. I will be a lie, and every relationship I have will be deystryoed because it was built on a lie!.
What my question is, is there anyone out there like me!. How do you deal with it, and how did you stop!.
Please I am really desperate here!. ThanksWww@Answer-Health@Com
When friends would ask to come over I would tell them something because I was embaressed, and didnt want them to see my stepdad hit me!. Later on in life the lies became a part of my real life, I lied about most things: my family, things that happened to me, where I lived, where I was from, things I like to do!. I made up a life that was easier to live than the one I actually had!.
Now that I'm older, I'm scared that I will never be a real person!. I will be a lie, and every relationship I have will be deystryoed because it was built on a lie!.
What my question is, is there anyone out there like me!. How do you deal with it, and how did you stop!.
Please I am really desperate here!. ThanksWww@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
You never need to tell everyone every bad thing that ever happened to you!. This is because you don't know who you can trust!.
Hopefully your step-dad is gone now!. If not and he is still abusing you, report him to the police immediately!. You have to be brave enough to do that!.
You also have to be brave enough to be honest with yourself and deal with the memories of your abuse!. You can pay for counseling or find help at most Women's or youth shelters for free!. You can trust the people who are counselors because they have a duty to keep your secrets secret!.
Once you learn to deal with the things inside you, you will be able to better understand how and when you can be honest with people about your history of abuse!. You will have to trust them first!. Unfortunately, most of the relationships we develop in our lives are shallow!. It takes a long time together with someone before you reveal your deepest darkest secrets to them!.
Never believe that it would be better to die!. You may think it!. We all do sometimes!. You can't believe it though because every reason you have to live is in front of you-- not behind you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Hopefully your step-dad is gone now!. If not and he is still abusing you, report him to the police immediately!. You have to be brave enough to do that!.
You also have to be brave enough to be honest with yourself and deal with the memories of your abuse!. You can pay for counseling or find help at most Women's or youth shelters for free!. You can trust the people who are counselors because they have a duty to keep your secrets secret!.
Once you learn to deal with the things inside you, you will be able to better understand how and when you can be honest with people about your history of abuse!. You will have to trust them first!. Unfortunately, most of the relationships we develop in our lives are shallow!. It takes a long time together with someone before you reveal your deepest darkest secrets to them!.
Never believe that it would be better to die!. You may think it!. We all do sometimes!. You can't believe it though because every reason you have to live is in front of you-- not behind you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Ever since i was a baby, my father have beaten me and my mother have yelled at me!.
I have also lied alot like you, and i didnt stop lying until i moved away from my parents!.
I told my friends most of my lies and they all did understand me!.
And im now , 2 years since i moved, starting to getting happy with my life again, and have stoped lying!.
I think that is what you need to do!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I have also lied alot like you, and i didnt stop lying until i moved away from my parents!.
I told my friends most of my lies and they all did understand me!.
And im now , 2 years since i moved, starting to getting happy with my life again, and have stoped lying!.
I think that is what you need to do!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
when i was younger in my teen years ya i told alot of lies, think it was prob coz i wasnt happy at home with my mam,sounds like you where the same,some how i stopped doing itand realised who and what kind of person i really am,it all changed when i got with my hubby,i think 1 day i st down and realised what i was really like myself and what i wanted for myself instead of making things upWww@Answer-Health@Com
Hi, I hope I can give you a good resource to help you!.
You ARE a real person and you can be happy!. Just what you've written about yourself and that you are aware of some irrational behavior is a good thing!
Many people don't even realize that they have "made a life" that doesn't match reality, so you're ahead of the game!.
Check out this website about Dianetics!. The videos are really cool!. Dianetics will give you back you!.
http://www!.dianetics!.org/
Sincerely,
BBWww@Answer-Health@Com
You ARE a real person and you can be happy!. Just what you've written about yourself and that you are aware of some irrational behavior is a good thing!
Many people don't even realize that they have "made a life" that doesn't match reality, so you're ahead of the game!.
Check out this website about Dianetics!. The videos are really cool!. Dianetics will give you back you!.
http://www!.dianetics!.org/
Sincerely,
BBWww@Answer-Health@Com
you need to talk to a psycologest but that is very expensive, It so happens that i am retired from that proffesion and if you woul like to chat with me you may do so!. I do not know if i can give you my im here or not but will try, if you want to chat about this you are welcome!. I am diwee1028@yahoo!.com if you want to talk!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I no how you feal when I was around the years of early teen hood my mothers husband at the time sexually abused me all the time!. Now that im older I still try to cover it up and still lie about many things it makes me feel as if im protecting myself!. I lied so much I haven't even told my family every thing that he did!. I sometimes think I deserved it, and it was my fault!. But I have to keep my head up and so do you!. I no, and I try really hard all the time to not lie!. But if you need anything else please email me at mizz_lovely_in_love@yahoo!.comWww@Answer-Health@Com
I'm very sorry to hear about your life experiences!. My heart goes out to you!. I cannot relate to you on that level but I did go thru a phase when I was younger where I would lie to 'fit in' with the in crowd!. I found myself lying about trivial things and it came very easy!. The way I stopped was to realize I had a problem, which you have thank goodness, and take it one day at a time!. Say to yourself if you feel like you're about to tell a lie " I am going to tell the truth no matter what this person may think or how hard it is"!. You will be surprised how many people will respect and love you for that!. I hope things get better for you!.!.!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
well your brain seems to bring u back to those hurtful times and makes you think you are better off dead!. but that really isn't what you should do!. what you shoulod really do is probably go to a church, and accept god into ur life!. i know most people will tell you to go get physical therapy, but they don't realize all they need to do is accept him into your life, and know ur NOT better off dead but u just have to move on from those things that happened to u in your past!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You've already made the first step by acknowledging that you have a problem, now go get some professional help!. You learned a coping mechanism while you were young (lying) and now it won't serve you well!. You can learn through therapy new healthy coping strategies and you can learn to heal from your past!.
With help you will become your authentic self and be in a very special position of being able to help others recover from abuse as well!.
You've taken the first step for a healthier life, now go take the next step!.
Good luck,
TexWww@Answer-Health@Com
With help you will become your authentic self and be in a very special position of being able to help others recover from abuse as well!.
You've taken the first step for a healthier life, now go take the next step!.
Good luck,
TexWww@Answer-Health@Com
Emmy, sorry that something like that happened to you!. I work on a psychiatric unit at a hospital so I know a little bit about trauma and mental health!. By just reading the few paragraphs that you typed, I can see that the past abuse continues to affect you and your feelings!. I don't know how old you are now but I would contact a community mental health facility in your area if you are grown-up; if not I would talk with these issues over with whomever it is that you reside with and trust so that they can get you the professional help you need!. Hope this helps and good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com