Is he just plain lazy or could it be more?!
Question: Is he just plain lazy or could it be more!?
Okay- I have a lazy husband!
Now, we have a busy lifestyle and have 3 young children, 2 are full time school and one part time school!.
He is supposed to start work at 7!.30am, however he is usually still IN BED at this time (the time I get up to get the kids ready for school) so rarely gets to work before 8am!. How this is not an issue at work I don't know! I can't believe he can do this almost every day for years and still have the joB!
So, he is at work until 3!.30pm!.!.the job isnt a physical job (more mentally challenging) and i take care of the children and the housework!. I work self employed and usually do this in the evenings after the kids go to bed!.
I expect him to do the 'evening housework' whilst I do this (after all I do daytime housework whilst he works, so we agree that he should do evening housework so I can work)
Not a huge amount is expected just cleaning the sides in the kitchen, getting lunches ready, load dishwasher!.!.!.but he takes so long over it he can stretch what i seriously believe to be half an hour- an hour housework into 3 hours! He constantly sits down and will fall asleep within a few minutes!. When we spend time together on friday/sat/sun when i dont do anywork he always falls asleep before we get chance to spend any quality time and if i want to watch a film i get irritated by the fact that he will fall asleep (even if its like not even 10pm) before the film even gets going!.!.!.
I just want to be able to sit & relax with him without him falling asleep! Of course we speak about this together and he says he cant help it he will try etc!.!.!.
Most nights he goes to bed a little before midnight (not early) but he does fall asleep during the evening for a bit here & there!.!.!.thats the reason he goes to bed so damn late as i frequently say, if he did the housework at 8pm and did it quick, he'd be done way before 9pm!
But even going to sleep at midnight and sleeping through to 7!.30-8am that should surely be enough sleep, shouldnt it!?! I generally sleep from just after midnight until just after 7am, but i can cope with a lot less when I need to!.!.!.he is always really exhausted!. Do you think he is
plain lazy!
sleep disorder!
medical condition to be addressed
just a person who needs lots of sleep!
He is thirty this month so not old
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Now, we have a busy lifestyle and have 3 young children, 2 are full time school and one part time school!.
He is supposed to start work at 7!.30am, however he is usually still IN BED at this time (the time I get up to get the kids ready for school) so rarely gets to work before 8am!. How this is not an issue at work I don't know! I can't believe he can do this almost every day for years and still have the joB!
So, he is at work until 3!.30pm!.!.the job isnt a physical job (more mentally challenging) and i take care of the children and the housework!. I work self employed and usually do this in the evenings after the kids go to bed!.
I expect him to do the 'evening housework' whilst I do this (after all I do daytime housework whilst he works, so we agree that he should do evening housework so I can work)
Not a huge amount is expected just cleaning the sides in the kitchen, getting lunches ready, load dishwasher!.!.!.but he takes so long over it he can stretch what i seriously believe to be half an hour- an hour housework into 3 hours! He constantly sits down and will fall asleep within a few minutes!. When we spend time together on friday/sat/sun when i dont do anywork he always falls asleep before we get chance to spend any quality time and if i want to watch a film i get irritated by the fact that he will fall asleep (even if its like not even 10pm) before the film even gets going!.!.!.
I just want to be able to sit & relax with him without him falling asleep! Of course we speak about this together and he says he cant help it he will try etc!.!.!.
Most nights he goes to bed a little before midnight (not early) but he does fall asleep during the evening for a bit here & there!.!.!.thats the reason he goes to bed so damn late as i frequently say, if he did the housework at 8pm and did it quick, he'd be done way before 9pm!
But even going to sleep at midnight and sleeping through to 7!.30-8am that should surely be enough sleep, shouldnt it!?! I generally sleep from just after midnight until just after 7am, but i can cope with a lot less when I need to!.!.!.he is always really exhausted!. Do you think he is
plain lazy!
sleep disorder!
medical condition to be addressed
just a person who needs lots of sleep!
He is thirty this month so not old
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Answers:
yes the time that he does sleep (at night) should be enough time!. maybe he is just plain lazy!. are you sure he really is working when he says he is!? I don't want to make you lose your trust in him but that IS very odd (that he can keep his job this way)!. also maybe his liver needs cleansing, I know that sounds very odd but when the liver is in a bad condition the body gets tired easily because most of his toxins are still in his body, and the body wants rest to recuperate!. maybe when he does sleep, he doesn't truly rest (well his body)!. If he eats too many sweets, caffeine, fats and oils, his body is probably too unbalanced!. you could give him a gingko biloba supplement each morning before going to work, they come in tiny little bottles and those provide the body with energy and memory increase!. you could get this at health stores!. you could also give him a calming natural tea before going to sleep and that way he will be able to actually rest while he sleeps!. These are all just recommendations for a health problem!. I would advice seeing a doctor if the problem persists!. He needs to exercise too, maybe his brain isn't getting enough oxygen!. make him drink LOTS OF WATER!. the problem also seems to be that since he has no physical activity but still eats normally he hasn't been getting rid of energy that he's getting from all the food, and believe it or not this may cause more sleepiness/laziness!. if he were to exercise he would actually REALLY tire himself out and that way he could have a great night's sleep and more energy the next day!.
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WOW, thats a lot of sleeping, he should probably hav a blood test to see if he is lacking vitamins or if he is sick!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Could be a health problem--also could related to diet--- lack of enough water, and I mean the real amount we are supposed to dink can make you tired!.
i think midnight is too late for a 7:30 am job guy!.
why don't you roll that back to 10!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
i think midnight is too late for a 7:30 am job guy!.
why don't you roll that back to 10!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
you think he is
plain lazy!
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NO!. He may, however, be depressed!.
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sleep disorder!
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very possibly!. He should get a very thorough medical checkup!. He may be narcoleptic!
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medical condition to be addressed
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yes, maybe!. See the answer above!.
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just a person who needs lots of sleep!
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even for someone who sleeps more than usual, this is a lot!. It's way more than most people need to be healthy and involved!. He sounds almost like he's physically withdrawing!. He may be anemic!. He may have a brain disorder!. He may have chronic fatigue syndrome or something else--even an autoimmune disease!.
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He is thirty this month so not old
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Exactly!. That's why it's likely something medical that needs to be addressed!.
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plain lazy!
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NO!. He may, however, be depressed!.
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sleep disorder!
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very possibly!. He should get a very thorough medical checkup!. He may be narcoleptic!
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medical condition to be addressed
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yes, maybe!. See the answer above!.
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just a person who needs lots of sleep!
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even for someone who sleeps more than usual, this is a lot!. It's way more than most people need to be healthy and involved!. He sounds almost like he's physically withdrawing!. He may be anemic!. He may have a brain disorder!. He may have chronic fatigue syndrome or something else--even an autoimmune disease!.
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He is thirty this month so not old
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Exactly!. That's why it's likely something medical that needs to be addressed!.
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There are many possibilities but the main two are: Sleep Disorder and Depression!. Or both!
I personally need at LEAST 8 hours of sleep but if I can wrangle 9 or 10 I'll be a lot better off!. I've tried a steady schedule of sleeping only 7 hrs and by week two I'm passing out at work - literally!. I also have a sleep disorder!.!.!.and depression!.
The depression really isn't an issue for me because I have it under control with my medication!. Unfortunately for me, the medication gave me a sleep disorder!. While I may sleep all night, I actually wake up every two hours or so!. I only turn over and go back to sleep but it's enough to interrupt my sleep cycle so I never actually reach REM sleep!. So if your husband is taking any medication, it could be that he doesn't get sound sleep so he's still tired in the morning and all through the day, whether or not he realizes his sleep is disturbed!.
Other sleep disorders like sleep apnea (where your breathing is interrupted while you sleep, also disrupting your sleep cycle) may also be the cause!. He may want to do a sleep study to find out!.
Then of course there's depression!. Depression isn't the pessimistic, wearing all black, I-want-to-cut-my-wrists ordeal that many people think of when they hear the word!. Most adults experience symptoms like fatigue, feeling worthless or helpless, not being excited about the things they love, etc!. If your husband is unhappy in his job, it will leak into home life!. Then home life isn't as great so he feels down about that which affects his work life and it's a huge, ugly cycle of feeling down!. It may just be caused by being in a boring routine day after day!. Try to think of something that gets him excited - golf, cars, sports - and surprise him with an outing!. Try to break his routine and see if that does the trick!.
It's always possible that he's just lazy, but I would bet money it has more to do with being stuck in a routine!.
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I personally need at LEAST 8 hours of sleep but if I can wrangle 9 or 10 I'll be a lot better off!. I've tried a steady schedule of sleeping only 7 hrs and by week two I'm passing out at work - literally!. I also have a sleep disorder!.!.!.and depression!.
The depression really isn't an issue for me because I have it under control with my medication!. Unfortunately for me, the medication gave me a sleep disorder!. While I may sleep all night, I actually wake up every two hours or so!. I only turn over and go back to sleep but it's enough to interrupt my sleep cycle so I never actually reach REM sleep!. So if your husband is taking any medication, it could be that he doesn't get sound sleep so he's still tired in the morning and all through the day, whether or not he realizes his sleep is disturbed!.
Other sleep disorders like sleep apnea (where your breathing is interrupted while you sleep, also disrupting your sleep cycle) may also be the cause!. He may want to do a sleep study to find out!.
Then of course there's depression!. Depression isn't the pessimistic, wearing all black, I-want-to-cut-my-wrists ordeal that many people think of when they hear the word!. Most adults experience symptoms like fatigue, feeling worthless or helpless, not being excited about the things they love, etc!. If your husband is unhappy in his job, it will leak into home life!. Then home life isn't as great so he feels down about that which affects his work life and it's a huge, ugly cycle of feeling down!. It may just be caused by being in a boring routine day after day!. Try to think of something that gets him excited - golf, cars, sports - and surprise him with an outing!. Try to break his routine and see if that does the trick!.
It's always possible that he's just lazy, but I would bet money it has more to do with being stuck in a routine!.
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I have two children, keep house do cooking and all the same stuff you do and I work a half job!. If all that I HAD to do was the traditional mom stuff my life would be a breeze and if anyone ever decided to bring home the bacon in this house so I didn't have to work!. I'd be damb if I'd stick them with my responsibilities after they got home!. You have this evening housework list -- could I ask WTF have you beeen doing all day!. But I'm a man and I am thnkful for what I have and I don't tend to whine!.
Just me but your too busy and that is your fault not his!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
don't worry he is just a lazy person,my husband is just like that he falls a sleep very easily and sleeps when ever and wherever!.you want to watch a movie and spend time wit him he go to sleep!. there is no answer to this problem i am suffering from this for last thirteen years!.
so be marry try to adjust!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
so be marry try to adjust!.Www@Answer-Health@Com