I have a really low self esteem?!
Question: I have a really low self esteem!?
I've had a really low self esteem for about 2 months now!. It's getting worse and worse, and sometimes I cry over it!. And it's mostly because of what I look like and romance!. I'm a 14 year old girl and I attend high school!. I have a really sweet personality and i'm nice to everyone, even people who call me names!. I get called alot of really mean names!. Boys call me ugly alot and it really puts me down!. It makes me want to improve my looks, so I go crazy by over doing makeup and dying my hair and trying to lose weight!. There's only one boy I truly like in my class, because he is really nice to me, he cheers me up and even says i'm pretty!. And I have a huge crush on him, but he has a girlfriend so nothing will happen!. I don't know why i'm like this!. I feel that everybody is too good for me, and that i'm not pretty enough to be recognized!. All my friends have boyfriends and I get really upset and think i'm too ugly to fall in love!. I want to be outgoing with alot of confidence, can someone help me out!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
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I know my answer won't be the most helpful thing right now, but when I was in high school I had the same problems as you!. All I kept thinking is that soon, I'd be out of there!. It was the only thing that really helped me through!. High school is an awful, awful time for a majority of people and being fourteen sucks as well!. You just have to keep your head up, and try to think positive!. Talk to friends or find an online community (that's what I did anyway) to talk to!. Find something you enjoy doing and focus on that!. People, especially teenagers, are just flat out mean and nothing you can do will change that!. Try exercising -- not so much to lose weight but also to get rid of a lot of negative energy in yourself!. Don't overdo make up either!. A great way to help you learn how to apply make up correctly is by watching things like What Not to Wear!. And always take care of yourself first :-)Www@Answer-Health@Com
To be more successful, relaxed and happy in the world you need more confidence and better presentation skills!. Perhaps you could join a Toastmasters Group!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Being 14 is already difficult, but it sounds like you are depressed as well!. You need to speak with a counselor or therapist about this as these boys will not change their horrible behavior--you need to realize they do not determine who you are--only you can do that!. I also had this problem big time in high school--it was a very lonely time for me!. You should be tested by a doctor for any physical causes for how you feel, and then talk with someone who can help you develop a sense of achievement, which is how you "get" self-esteem!.
Find something outside of school to do--I did volunteer work at a hospital and it was very rewarding!. I read a lot and sort of moved inward--I wouldn't really recommend that!. Find a passion--art, helping others, etc!. Best wishes to you--please feel better! Www@Answer-Health@Com
Find something outside of school to do--I did volunteer work at a hospital and it was very rewarding!. I read a lot and sort of moved inward--I wouldn't really recommend that!. Find a passion--art, helping others, etc!. Best wishes to you--please feel better! Www@Answer-Health@Com