A high amount of stress?!


Question: A high amount of stress!?
It's my Junior year in high school and I find myself to be stressed out beyond control for a number of reasons!.

1) School - I've been one that has always been satisfied with getting decent to good grades (Basically B's and A's in classes I'm naturally good at which is most, and C's in classes like Math that I'm not good at) and maintaining like a 3 to 3!.5 GPA!. My mom is constantly pressuring me to be a perfect student and to give an 110% effort, but to be honest I have no desire to do any better than I do in school simply because I hate school, I have other interests in my life that I actually love, and I like to have time to relax and chill out because I don't get to do it often!. But my mom constantly reminds me about school work during the week and expects me to get it all done way before its even due, wants me to study hours on end, and expects me to attend mid-term reviews and what not for classes that I am already good at!. She also uses people in my grade and friends of mine who are at the top of my class as examples which really stresses me out and depresses me in a way because I'm not who they are and I don't have any desire to strive to be a straight A student in school, and she doesn't seem to understand that ever!. I feel like alot of stress involving school would go away if my mom would just be quiet about all of it and let me be responsible for myself!.!.!.because I know I can do it and have always done my work because I knew I needed too, not because she told me!.!.!.but she just doesn't understand it!.

2) Recovering from Depression/Still feeling it at times - Literally a week before school started I had my heart shattered into pieces by a girl I had been with for awhile!. I went into an extremely deep depression for about 4 months straight!. The fact that it was right when school started made things even more stressful and depressing, my school felt like a prison and I was never in the mental state to pay attention because I was so bummed all the time!. I fell behind in certain classes because of it, especially math which I am still failing because its nearly impossible to understand whats going on now when I couldn't even focus on what we did earlier in the year!. I eventually discovered how rotten of a person the girl who did this to me was, and even eventually met a girl who was re-assuring to be a good person in every way possible and I made sure of it by getting to know her for 3 months before finally asking her out!. She's made me very happy and has taken away alot of the depression, but at times I can't help but feel extremely stressed out and just kind of break down randomly for unknown reasons or just random sad thoughts!. I seem to be alot more sensitive now and an extreme fear of rejection from my loved ones!.

3) Sports - I've been a wrestler for 6 years now and it's a huge passion of mine and this is my first varsity season and so far I've maintained an above !.500 record!. But we also found out this year that my body has been very compromised by a acne pill called Minocyclin that I was only supposed to be recommended by the doctor to be on for 2 weeks, but he had me going on it for 2 years strong and it broke down my body in numerous ways!. I found this out by going to the chiropractor for a pinched nerve and being sent for blood tests which showed that I had extremely low cholestrol and half the testosterone I should have had!. I've been put on alot of supplements to make my body how its supposed to be now, but my pinched nerve has also caused alot of stress by somewhat crippling my season since it is re-occuring and causes extreme weakness in my arms and pain in my left shoulder blade!. This has really bummed me out because I've worked hard to become a skilled wrestler but I have yet to feel 100% healthy with 2 weeks left to go in the season!.

4) Other smaller things - I'm now taking drivers ed and lecture courses and need to continue working on that, and my mom is making me find a job once wrestling ends!.!.!.I'm sure this will all only add to the stress level!.

I just feel really bummed out almost all the time now and I just want to get an escape from all of this and feeling this way, I just want some time to enjoy the things I love in my life such as my girlfriend, my best friends, my family, my passions like wrestling, my hobbys, just being able to sit around at home and relax!.

On a side note, I finally decided to let all these feelings out because I told my mom we didn't have to drive one of my best friends (One she compares me with as well) to the school for exams tommorow because he was going in early for a history mid-term review!. She proceeded to flip out and yell at me immediately because she wanted me to go!.!.!.after all I did was tell her that he was going to a review and that we didn't need to drive him tommorow!.!.!.

I'm just sick of feeling like this all the time, please help me =(Www@Answer-Health@Com


Answers:
1) School - What you need to remember is that you go to school, because it's YOUR future, not your mum's or anybody else's!. Sure you should listen to her advice, because chances she is older and wiser, but if you are happy with your marks and they'll get you where you want to go, then that's all that matters!. My best friend got a 98 for her final school mark (incredible, I know) and her mum's only comment was: you couldn't get 99!? Sometimes you just need to be happy with what you got, and know that you did your best!. Another thing I'll say, although it might not make you feel better, it is worth noting, is that once high school is done, it's done!. I only graduated high school a few months ago and will start uni at the end of Feb, and yet all those days of crying with stress and anxiety feel like a million years ago, and they no longer even matter to me!. So I know it feels like a big deal now, and it definitely is a life changing experience, you'll be surprised how quickly it's over, and how quickly you'll move on!.

2) Depression - Been there, done that, for reasons I won't bother you with now!. The important thing about your situation is that you've moved on, you have a new girlfriend and the worst of the depression is over, rejoice that it is! But I know there will always be days when it comes back and you want to curl up in a ball and hide from the world!. Remember that these days will go as quickly as they crop up, so acknowledge that will life sucks at the time, you just need to get through it, because it'll be okay once you're on the other side!.

3) Sports - This is where I can't relate I'm afraid, as I'm not much of a sporty girl - yet! With a situation like this, you just have to accept that the doctor screwed up, and be relieved that you found out when you did! Being sick can really suck, but I truely believe it makes you stronger, use this as a time to really focus on your wrestling, because if you were performing so well before without your body in peak condition, just think of how well you'll do once you're all better!

4) Small thing - it's the small things that really kick you when you're down, huh!? You just need to realise that they only seem so huge or difficult because the other things are changing your perspective! Once you feel better overal, you'll find these things much more managable!.

Finally I'll give you some general advice, stuff that has gotten me through a mountain of stress!.
- Go for a walk!. I know it sounds weird but during my final exams, right when I wanted to give up, I'd get some music and go walking!. It might feel like you don't have time (if you need to study or train, or even do the small things that build up like chores), but even a half an hour walk will do wonders to your stress level!. Choose your music carefuly, if you need a pick-me-up, choose pumping music with a beat you can march to, it'll bring your heart rate up and you'll feel empowered!. If you need to just take a moment to just absorb what's happening in your life, choose slower and reflective music (try to avoid music that will be so sad you'll want to kill yourself)!. For me, I always listened to Christian music (Hillsong etc) when I was just tired and needed to take time to feel my emotions (nothing wrong with that), but when I needed to lift myself up I'd listen to 'Bring It On' by Alistair Griffin, a brilliant song that I strongly reccommend!.
-Try to get as much sleep as possible, and keep a clear mind before going to sleep to avoid bad dreams or a restless night (although I know it's easier said than done)
-If you need to take a moment to just feel your emotions, do it, but be prepared to pick yourself up afterwards and carry on!.

I know that was a long answer and I hope you read it all and it was of some use to you, let me know if there's anything I can ever help you with - I know your pain!
Good luck and God blessWww@Answer-Health@Com

you have what i like to call "crazy mom syndrome"Www@Answer-Health@Com

Where was your mom when you were damaging your health with that antibiotic for TWO WHOLE YEARS: UNBELIEVABLE!.
I am sure she wants all the good for you, but there are still things that she does not know, but she would get hurt if you tell her that!.
You look smart, so you will surely find a way to get rid of your stress, escaping her pressure sometimes, or simply do what you like to do, and let her notice that you are already independent, and you need a rest!.
If she yells, close your door, and stay in your room, relaxing or reading for a few days, or buy a small TV in your room to watch in days like that!.
And simply go with your girlfriend, as soon or later, she will have to get used to see you getting independent!.
And don't forget to consider all this only as a few days of rest, but life is really difficult and accelerated, and you will be happy in the future to have been so busy now!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

When your mom starts in gently hold your hand up in front of her and explain that you will no long be put through what she is over stressing on and that you indeed have yourself in control, and wish not to repeat this every time she has a concern!. Yes you are old enough to do that ! Take at least 10 minutes a day to evaluate goals you would like to achieve and when she's in tolerable discuss your goals and try to come to a understanding of the future!. Stop stressing!. Any Hobbies !?
one more thing eat well (healthy) you wont have future health problems!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

It sounds like your mom has control issues!. I'm sure she means well because she knows that it is HARD to get ahead in this world!.
What she has forgetten is what it is like to be a kid and deal with the pressures of high school, teenage emotions and the physical changes of growing up!.
You sound like a great kid!. Try and talk to her and tell that you just can't handle the pressure anymore, get her to realize that if you don't get a break you are going to shut down!.
Maybe you need an impartial person to arbitrate or referee when you talk to her and try to make her see things from a different point of view!.
I hope you got off of those stupid meds by now!.
Good LuckWww@Answer-Health@Com





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