My foreskin wont pull back like other boys?!

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Time to go see the doctor and get it removed. Then you will be like other boys.

Relax. This is perfectly normal. Nothing will burst.

When you're born your foreskin is attached to the glans (not glands) beneath. The foreskin separates later for some boys. Sometimes it takes until age 17 or so before it completely separates. If you try to force it apart too early, you can hurt yourself.

Sometimes a younger boy may not be able to retract his foreskin even if it is separated because the hole at the end doesn't stretch. In some boys the hole is so small that the foreskin makes a balloon when he pees. It should normally start to stretch as you grow older and as you play with your penis.

Wait until you get through puberty before you start worrying about this. Things develop at different rates, and it might not balance out again until you're fully adult. Know that some men have a foreskin that never retracts, and they have full and satisfying sex lives. It works fine even if it doesn't retract.

Please read the pamphlets I've linked in the sources to answer your questions about your penis and its development.

http://www.nocirc.org/publish/pamphlet4.…
http://www.nocirc.org/publish/pamphlet6.…

You know, it is so silly to think that you have to do things to hurt yourself or to be like somebody else. Just because someone says you have to retract your foreskin why do you think you have to do it? The reasoning is not correct that if a foreskin isn't retractable it can cause problems with cleaning and sex, and if it doesn't retract it's not functioning properly.

There actually are millions of men in the world at any one time, myself included, who do not retract their foreskin. I have a number of current patients in a similar condition and have, in the past, treated men in Europe, Asia and Australia with the condition of tight foreskin. Not one that I have personally met and not one that I have ever read about has a problem with cleaning. Nor do they have problems with masturbation or sex. And I have to join with them in saying that it is ridiculous to suggest that our penises are not functioning properly.

Your penis and your foreskin are a unique team. They work together almost always in perfect harmony. Some guys have a foreskin that retracts, so they retract it. Some guys have a foreskin that does not retract, so they leave it alone. Some guys have had their foreskin removed and no longer have a choice. If you are watching videos, then the guys are probably porn stars and they do so much drugs and other stuff that their sexuality is no longer normal in any case. I would not worry about them.

If your foreskin does not easily retract, do not try to force it to. It does not have to. You do not have to pull the foreskin back to put a condom on, to masturbate, or to have sex. It is an absolute nonsense to think so. Only people who really do not know will tell you this is necessary.

Some people label a tight foreskin as phimosis. Generally people with a tight foreskin do not have phimosis, they just have a tight foreskin. There are millions of guys in the world with this condition which is quite normal. The only abnormal thing is when you try to stretch a foreskin that does not need to be stretched or try to use medications that rarely have any beneficial result.

The unfortunate thing is that retraction has been taught, mainly in USA, because personal hygiene was not taught. Washing a penis with the foreskin covered (not retracted) is very easily achieved and very efficient. Any boy or man can be shown how to do it if they are having a problem. The same goes for masturbation or sex. Many will argue that it is much more effective and it certainly feels great. I cant compare it to an open foreskin, because I have never done it that way.

Just leave your foreskin as it was intended to be. Anything you do to yourself that hurts is normally not a good thing to do, so don't do it. That particularly includes the terrible mutilation of circumcision which will leave you damaged for the rest of your life. If you’ve never pulled back your foreskin, then just don’t be conned into thinking that you have to. Some people do because they have a loose enough foreskin to do it, and some people don't because they have a tight foreskin. It is a simple as that. There is no right and wrong about it. There is nothing less normal either way. It is just how things are. Some people force themselves to retract by stretching and using creams and all sorts of stuff. It is ridiculous and has the distinct possibility of causing life time damage. Don’t ever do it!

Doctor of Andrology

Well I dont know what other boys you are looking at, but it is perfectly normal and natural not to be able to pull back the foreskin. Sounds to me like you are ok and the "other boys" have got the problem.

Mine is just like yours and so are millions of other guys.

Paul

Definitely one for a doctor! nobody without medical expertise could tell for sure.

There's only two things you can really do, the first is to try pulling back gently regularly with moisturiser. Hopefully it will stretch over time and you will be able to use it as normal. Don't try and stretch it too hard but you've also got to bear in mind you need a little stretch for it to do anything, you can only really judge that yourself. Don't forget to use moisturiser though, or lube or something just to ease the process. This could take a year or so of you doing this every day so don't expect results over night.

The only alternative to this is to have the foreskin removed, it may be traumatising but in the long run would be far more comfortable for you if your is too tight. You should really go and speak to your GP about this.