will everything be back to normal like how it was before?!

Question: Will everything be back to normal like how it was before?

ok so today it was me and my girlfriends 5 months anniversary. we were watching a movie in here room and then we decided to play Q&A. it was her turn to ask a question and she asked me if i have smoked weed lately. i didnt wanna lie to her so i told her i did 2 months ago at a reunion at a friends house.and that it only was 3 pulls... she kinda got mad at me cause she doesnt like me when i smoke and when we started going out i promised her i wasnt gonna smoke again cause i wanted to be with her so she believed me and i told her that if i ever did i was gonna tell her.. so thats why shes mad.. shes dissapointed that i hid that from her.. i told her that i was trying to be polite with my friends cause that was the whole point of the reunion.. that i wasnt just gonna sit there and talk while they were all smoking weed.. so thats why i smoked too.. i told her that i woulda felt stupid if i said that i couldnt smoke cause my girlfriend didnt want me to.. so that ishe got even more mad when i told her that because she said that i care more aboutwhat my friend would think of me than what i care about her. and that if i really loved her i woulda think before i did it and think that she would dislike it.. but i thought she wasnt gonna find out but she did and she says it makes it more mad that i didnt tell her than the fact thqt i smoked. that if i woulda told her when i did it she woulda been happy cause i told her but now shes mad at me and she told me we would talk tomorrow cause she was "tired". but we always talk at all times and i feel like she doesnt wanna talk cause shes mad.. i feel like i ruined my relationship by choosing weed over my girlfiend... what can i do to make everything go back to normal? i dont wanna let her gpo.. i really love her...

Answers:

Fear not, dude. In the grand scheme of things, this is but a minor bump in the road. She is upset because you made a promise to her and you broke it – which means that she would have been just as upset had you told her immediately after the fact. Don't worry about her wanting to stop talking to you tonight; she probably was just frustrated and wanted to take a break from the unpleasant conversation you were having. There might be some lingering frustration tomorrow, and maybe even the day after, but eventually she will get over it.

The important thing for you right now is damage control. You need to prepare for what you are going to say to her the next time you talk. Don't bother trying to explain or rationalize why you did what you did two months ago. My advice would be to simply apologize for having made a bad decision and for disappointing her. Tell her that it was stupid of you to have given in to peer pressure and that you regretted doing it even as you were doing it. You knew that you should have told her afterward, but you just couldn't bring yourself to do it because you were scared that you might lose her. Say that the experience made you realize just how much she really means to you and that you have not smoked since, nor will you do it again, because you can see how much it has upset her. Tell her that you are sorry you let her down, and that you will not let it happen again.

I would hope this goes without saying, but if you do say anything like the above to her, make you sure really mean it! If you go and smoke weed again next week, it's only going to disappoint her and upset her even more. She'll come to the conclusion that you're always going to choose smoking with your friends over her and her wishes, and that there's no point in her trying to trust you or to even being in a relationship with you. As for your friends, if you tell them that you can't smoke because your girlfriend doesn't like it, they'll probably laugh at you and say that you're whipped. Just tell them that you don't feel like smoking; if they try to pressure you more, tell them that it made you really paranoid the last few times, so you're going to pass this time. They should understand if they're really your friends.

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