What if I pick up and leave?!


Question: What if I pick up and leave?
I'm seventeen and almost out of high school. I have two jobs and I got accepted to UCLA and CSULB and CSUN. I know I should be happy about that but I'm not. Its not what I want to do, I thought I did but realized it isn't. I feel like packing up and going away on my own to explore the world. I want to leave everything behind even my family and friends. I feel like this will be the way I can find my happiness and find myself on the way. Do you think I'm crazy if I throw everything away and just pick up and leave?

I don't care about where I will sleep or how I will eat. I have some money but ill find ways of getting more and doing little jobs. Even if I have to I would eat at a shelter.

Answers:

What I think you need to do is take a trip somewhere first...just for about a week. Go someplace where it won't feel like a luxurious vacation, a place where you can get a feel if it is really what you want. In other words, a test run. Go down to costa rica, maybe Europe, or just stay in hostels in San Francisco for a week...someplace where you get out of your comfort zone and get a taste of other cultures. I went to Costa Rica when I was 17 (i'm twenty now) for three weeks with just my brother and our friend. And a few months ago I was in Europe as well. It is just a lot different then what we have here. So take that trip and If you love it, then DO IT!
Those are some good schools you got into and it would be shame to just let them pass you by and realize a few months later that this "adventure" wasn't what you expected or wanted. But then again, don't go to school if you don't want to go to school. Take a year off, see how you feel, and maybe head back to community college if you feel that you want to. Four years is a LONG TIME if you are somewhere where you don't want to be...not to mention very expensive.

So take a trip, get a feel for things, and if you feel like it is "you" then F-ing DO IT! And you know what? You can always just go to community college (like I said earlier) after you are done being young.

Sorry, but I keep going on...

Keep this in mind: you don't want to be married with kids and a husband in a few years and regret that you never got to see the world like you wanted to. So do it now while you are young. (and bring pepper spray because you are a female and it is more dangerous for you than it would be for me).

That is all I have to say about that!



Why not test this first? Stay home at night, but go out during the day and carry your clothes in a sack and see if you can find little jobs to survive. Or you can tell your folks you're going on a school trip for a week and then try it for a week. Also, call local shelters and see if you can get in, an d tell your family you're staying at a friends, and then see what it's like to stay at a shelter. It's just a test.



You could find yourself while attending one of the schools you got accepted into, but if you really want to just go out there into the world that will teach what school can't (:

life



no you won't. You will go to JAIL



I understand your trouble and how sad how frustrated you are. Be strong alrights , think of your family dear , how can you be so selfish , you go out and relax , finding happiness while your family members just suffer alone ? Im sure your interest is not just working blahsblahs , ask yourself , wat are you really int in ? Photography ? Sports ? Go for it . You mentioned you have little money , go use those little sum to learn smth you like , get happy , but if that wont earn you anything , then just get a parttime job yeahss , but get smth you will like working.
Jiayous , and share your thoughts with your friends , youll feel really much better :)

Be strong ,
God bless :)



running out and living life in the world is not a good idea. you are so young and not wise to the ways of the streets and world - something very bad can and will most likely happen to you. this is kind of a crazy idea imo.

both of my kids went through a stressed out period for the last couple years of high school and the year after high school. felt pressure to already know what they want to do and be when they grow up. son took 3 yrs before going to college and is doing okay now (in his 2nd yr.). daughter went to college after 1 yr out of high school. the thing that helped them the most is learning they don't have to know what they want to be, but main thing is to get an education. we begin by putting one foot in front of the other. as time goes by some subject begins to stand out. at this time both of my kids seem to have chosen a subject that is meaningful to them (daughter is english major, son is IT major). both seem to be more at peace with themselves and life in general.

i suggest you seek out adults to talk to about the feelings you're having. this type of anxiety in senior year is quite common i believe. maybe it will set your mind at ease and you will decide to go onto college. or you might want to take a year or so to work and live life before continuing your education. but the idea of running away is a bad idea. you might be feeling pressure to go to college and afraid to say you want to work, & experience life a bit before continuing your education. If this is the case, you must be brave and determined and speak up about your feelings. your family may be disappointed but they will not stop loving you. you have to be true to yourself first. but whatever you do, do NOT just leave. i feel certain that anyone who is clever enough to get accepted to those universities as you have, will be about to speak up for yourself and eventually sort this out. good luck, you can do this.




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