Do i have reason to be mad? pleaes help, ruining my life...?!


Question: Do i have reason to be mad? pleaes help, ruining my life...?
My boyfriend and i have been together over a year and
the whole time all his friends have been guys.
well, recently a girl that he used to work with and has known
for awhile started texting him...everyday.
now, i don't want girls talking to him anyways, but since he
told me he's known her for a long time im like ok we'll see.
well, this girl texts him EVERYDAY. and i've told him to not talk
to her all the time and then he freaks out and says he'll stop all together.
i know he would, but i don't want to be that girlfriend, yet i constantly harrass him about
this because she still talks to him everyday.
well, the day before yesterday he introduced me to her at work.
she's pretty, and he's told me she's not...
ewll, when we saw her she invited him to hangout, just him btw,
and she's tryed to hangout with him a lot. but i'm always there and when
he asks if i can come she never texts back.
well recently we took a break and were tryna work stuff out
but this is a major problem with us.
so, yesterday she texted him and was like
'Are you coming?'
and he's like 'No, heather's coming over'
so she was like 'have fun with that'
and he said
'yeah..were gonna try to work things out.lol.'
and she replied
'....ok.'
then he didnt reply and when i turned on his fone this morning
there was a text from her that said
'I hope you sleep well. Goodnight pooky. sweet dreams'
(back in the day they had nicknames for eacother...)
well i freaked, cuz this is stupid, and he said that since
were not together it technically isn't bad, but that he's not
saying that to her so i should be okay with it.
well, he must've said something for her to flirt like that...
and the '....ok' shows she doesn't want us together, right?
gah, i asked for her number from him so i can explain
my side and he was like 'do you know how crazy that makes you sound?'
but i just want this ***** to know that she texts him everyday and thats where
our problems come from. what do i do?

Answers:

Do you really have a reason to be mad though?

Does he give you reasons to not trust him?

If not then don't worry.

If she is annoying then tell him about it so that he can tell her not to text so much.

There's no need to create any drama.

At first you say you were okay with it then it got annoying, in the future just let any dude you're with know that you're a female that's not comfortable with other females being friends with him. That's something that should be discussed at a beginning of a relationship anyways, so that people will know what they're getting into and what kind of person they are dealing with. No surprises or extra drama. Good luck!



Well,let me try to offer you some advise from a 40 year old woman who has been in your position before.1.If your man cares,loves and respects you in ANY way? He would NEVER allow any girl,woman,chick to text,message or any other 'out of the way' conversations to occur.Those kinds of 'out of the way convos' are not allowed,and are uncalled for! Period! And,it makes NO difference if the 2 of you are on a 'break' or not.But? If the 2 of you have agreed that your relationship is OVER and DONE with? That's a totally different story altogether,and he can chat,text and message whom ever he chooses,and makes NO difference if the woman,girl is 'out of the way' convo.IF the 2 of you agreed the relationship is a done deal!!! 2.You made the mistake by saying
"Ok we'll see".You should not have said those words,and also your man should have taken advantage of that either.Both of you were wrong 100%! 3..This woman/girl..sees an open opportunity,and now she's taken advantage of it by trying to take your man.She has been doing this from the very beginning,and your man did NOTHING to try and stop her.This IS his fault....and if I were you? I would be seriously questioning his commitment to you,and I only say that due to how he was stringing both of you along the whole time...example..accepting her calls,texts,etc.And,when she would call and invite HIM without YOU? He should have defended you,and stopped right then...actually? He should have never even allowed things to go that FAR to begin with! You understand my points here? I can go on,and on,and on.....
You should,and DESERVE to be with a REAL MAN who would never even consider talking,texting,or even taking ANY calls from ANY other woman,girl,female other than YOU!
And,even though your b/f and this old girl friend of his may have been old friend from long ago..even before you came into the picture? Your b/f should have told this girl right from the beginning..."I have a new girlfriend now,and I am not willing to jeapordize my new relationship by involving you into my relationship even as a friend.Sorry! And,simply leave it at that! They left as friends long ago...and did just fine,so why take a chance by allowing ANY female to possibly ruin his new relationship.Makes no sense IF he cared,loved and respected you as much as he claimed he did.Right?
This so-called friend of his....is nothing but trouble!! And,he(your man/ex) is willing to jeapordize your relationship by allowing her to text,message,call,and even invite him along without you! 100% wrong,unacceptable and so disrespectful dear!
You...deserve so much better than what your getting,got....and this so-called friend will want nothing to do with him after she has broken the 2 of you up.And,once the 2 of you have split? This girl will move on to yet another relationship that she will yet again....destroy/ruin.That's just what she does...obviously!
Move on,find your self esteem again,keep your head up high....and you will find a deserving man for youself.And,most importantly? You'll find a good man who would never allow any woman,girl or tramp to involve herself into your relationship..any real man would have simply told her to get lost,walk away.etc.
Good luck to you,and I really hope everything works out for you.
Sorry my answer was so long.



Sounds to me like she wants him. If she didn't she would hang out with the both of you. Yes, I would be concerned. Talk to him and let him know that you believe she has more in mind than just friendship, if she acts jealous when he is with with you than she does. I would watch her! Good luck!

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