How to get my fiancee to take a drug test?!


Question: How to get my fiancee to take a drug test?
My sister Alexandria is convinced my fiancee Dawn is a drug addict. Alex is a recovering addict yet she has been clean for 5 years. She told me Dawn has needle marks on her arms and she see's all the signs of drug abuse from her. This was really affecting me in a negative way but it became worse when my EX wife Stacy took Alex's side and told me she wants full custody of our 5 year old daughter Dawn has adamantly denied been an addict and told me Alex is using again and she is using her as a scapegoat. She has refused to take a drug test saying it is an invasion of privacy. I can't imagine what it would be like not being able to see my daughter she means the world to me. Stacy told me she would change her mind if Dawn took the test and the results came back negative or if i broke up with her because she doesn't need a drug addict around our daughter. I trust Dawn but i wish she would just take the test. How do i convince her to take the test?

Answers:

I smell big red flags, here. Only true addicts refuse such requests, claiming it "invades" their privacy. If Dawn has nothing to hide...she would freely comply with peeing into a cup. If Dawn still thinks privacy is a matter of keeping certain things secret - I would immediately uncheck the "engaged" box in your life. You cannot make anybody do anything...you can only protect yourself and your daughter, by putting the wedding on temporary or permanent HOLD.

Recovering addict myself. I KNOW the mentality....



Tell her if she loves you, she'll understand how important to you this is, and that you love your daughter to bits, and if she doesn't take the drug test you may never see her again. If she refuses, she is not the right one for you. Nothing is better than the happiness of a loved one, even privacy. Good luck.



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