what can I do to like myself more?!


Question: What can I do to like myself more?
im a 21 year old college student and in high school and early college I have always been very thin (but healthy) with a flat stomach and everything. I really liked myself then cuz I looked good in my clothes and I was just happier. But when I was 18 I went though a major trauma (and I also had hyperthyroidism go into remission) so ever since then, I think my metabolism has slowed down and I also have been exercising much cuz I have arthritis in my knees so I cant run, whenever i do sit ups, I cant sit up AT ALL the next day, and almost any exercise at all, even speed walking, my heart speeds up so quickly so I feel exhausted and struggling to catch my breath after only a few minutes. ITS NOT CUZ IM LAZY so keep those kind of comments to yourself! it literally hurts to exercise. ive also tried dieting but the only times i diet and actually see change is when i have less than 1000 calories a day but then i have no energy. im a vegetarian so i get a lor of soy protein like those meat replacement things but (ironically) other than veggies in filled pastas like spinach and mushrooms, the smell of vegetables literally makes me gag, im serious, if i smell or taste most vegetables (besides only a couple exceptions like sweet corn and mushrooms), I will throw up. now I dont look good in my clothes and I have a very small chest (my 14 year old sister is bigger than me, how humiliating) so im really unbalanced and ackward. all this does nothing good for my self esteem. I dont think theres anything i like about myself except possible my eyes. my fiance tells me im beautiful and he loves me no matter what I look like and I know that im lucky to have someone who loves me like that but its hard to believe it when I look in the mirror and feel miserable. what can I do? dieting tips? easier exercise tips? anything nice?
please, please keep any nasty or rude comments to yourself. its really the last thing I need now :(

Answers:

Your fiance loves you and you are beautiful to him. He loves you for more than your looks, and so should you! Throw away the magazines, the television, and the mirrors. Go for daily walks together. Just stroll down the street or at a neighborhood park. As you smile and make eye contact with people you pass by, look carefully at them. They are ordinary people, just like you. They come in all shapes and sizes. They are not air-brushed, and there are no special lights to enhance their looks other than the same sun shining down on you. They wear clothes from the same stores where you shop, they eat the same foods you eat, and they struggle with the same issues about themselves as you are facing about yourself.

If you smile at them and see the beauty in these real people, it will help you to like yourself more and help you feel better, too. We are herd animals and we need other people around us. Walking before eating breakfast, lunch, or dinner will boost your metabolism when you do eat. At the same time it will lift your spirits. Most of all, it will give you a healthy daily dose of reality. You don't have to be physically beautiful to be beautiful to yourself and to other people. If you were to stop these people and ask them if they are happy with the way they look, they would likely tell you that they don't like this or that about themselves, either.

I've struggled with self-image, chronic pain, and depression. Going for 15-30 minute walks, even alone, was how I took my first steps toward a happier and healthier future. It made me stronger in body and in spirit. It will work for you, too, if you make a commitment to yourself and keep it.



look in the mirror every day ,and find something you like abuot your self , dont let others tell you your not beautiful.be happy with yourselve. no ones perfect.



Have two children and smile at the world and it will smile back at you.and you will forget all that stuff about your metabolism ,you want have the time to think about all that.just to see your children
will make your live as full as you will ever get it. (And you will have a bigger bra- size).




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