Afraid of dying in the night...?!
Question:
Afraid of dying in the night...?
Dont laugh me plz cause im only 12 years old and im afraid of dying in the nght.Every night i usally have a dream of falling off my bed and into a fire that started and i get out but my mom and dog dont and i love them so so so much and i dont want to loose them and i am also afraid of my mom dying in the night because there was a fire started in the house and i dont get out and she doesnt get out and i need to calm down because i am hyperventilating.Plz dont laugh and help me try to get over my fear of...dying...??????????
Answers:
Hon,
The odds of you dying in your sleep are so remote, it's hard to even calculate. Young folks such as yourself don't generally die in their sleep without having a long, lingering illness as the cause.
As far as fires go, set your mind at ease. Talk to your mom and/or dad about your dreams. Ask them to check the fire alarms in your house. If they all beep, you're halfway there. Check the plugs/outlets in the house and make sure they're all good and no cords are frayed with wires exposed.
If your mom or dad smoke, before YOU go to bed, go to all the ash trays in the house and make sure they're all extinguished.
If you did have a fire in your house and you somehow missed the fire alarm, your dog would most likely wake you up. If you sleep upstairs, sleep with your window slightly open for fresh air. This will also help you to sleep better, and God forbid, if you ever did have a fire, your room would not be able to fill up with smoke.
Ask your mom to invest in a window ladder, provided you're on the second floor of your home, so you have a way out.
You can get inexpensive fire extinguishers and put one in each room of the house so that if there ever is a fire, you can grab that sucker off your wall and squirt your way out of your house.
Also have a good escape plan ready in your mind with several different scenarios ready so IF you ever did have a fire -- which would be pretty unlikely mathematically speaking -- you will not be panicked and you will know what to do.
When you KNOW that all the precautions have been met, your fears will subside. It's natural to be scared of stuff, honey, even stuff that seems to be kind of far out there. And don't forget, you can also pray and ask God to ease your fears; He will, He does mine.
Your dreams can easily be attributed to any number of things: Anxiety concerning school and the upcoming year, friends having moved away, hearing what's been happening on the news, any major stressor in life can subconsiously make you "feel" like you're going to "die," and it comes out in your dreams. But really, honey, house fires are less likely than most other scary things, and even when there is a house fire, it's more often that everyone makes it out okay rather than not.
You're young and you have your entire life ahead of you. Be wise, make good decisions and CHOOSE not to be afraid of things that aren't likely to happen. And being prepared for the IF will make you a lot more comfortable and secure.