Social anxiety makes my life hard >:O?!

Social anxiety makes my life hard >:O?

i have social anxiety,and im graduating 8th grade next year. i dont like social events or anything. i always get panic attacks. im only 13. panic attacks DO not feel great. i've talked to my mother about it, but she screams back at me. i feel as if no one cares for me. if my mother, Or anyone that has judged me were in my shoes right now, they would probably kill themselves. im tired of it. everytime im not focused, or am panaking, pEOPLE stare! i dont care, but WHY DO THEY STARE? i love volleyball, and i quit last year because of my anxiety. ohh how i love volleyball. and this year i have to stop volleyball as well because i havent recovered. now school is another story. i DONT want to read infront of my teacher and class. they always say they cant hear me. im a smart kid, with great grades, but when i present and sit in the front its another story! i even lost a great friend, after he sat by me and saw me shaking lots, after, he never gave me hugs and all, now, he dosent. i hate me.

Hi, sorry to hear you’re suffering from anxiety and panic attacks. I can reassure you no one is staring at you or judging you – you are projecting you own insecurities onto the world around you. I’ve got 3 brilliant tips on getting rid of your panic attacks:

1.Breathe properly. (You probably know this already, but …) if you control your breathing, you control panic. As soon as you notice the signs of anxiety, check your breathing: breathe in slowly through your nose pushing your tummy out (to the count of 5 or so). Breathe out slowly and for a bit longer (to the count of 7 or so) through your mouth. Do not breathe rapidly or shallowly (in the chest area). This will soon restore the balance of oxygen and you will feel a lot better.

2. Cognitive Behavioural Therapy! CBT is proven to be the most effective thing for panic attacks, anxiety, depression, agoraphobia etc. It takes a bit of work, but it is super effective. (After 15 years of panic attacks, mine stopped completely). You can take a course for free online at: http://www.livinglifetothefull.com/elear... It has been funded by NHS Scotland and has had great results thus far.

3. Try relaxation exercise tapes (progressive muscular relaxation). They really help if you practise often enough. This site has instructions on how to do it without the tapes (and other useful info): http://www.cci.health.wa.gov.au/resource...

I would really, really recommend CBT. It completely changed my life. If you try the following steps (and stick to them), I'm sure you're be feeling much better about yourself, the world and your life in general very soon! Best of luck.