Sigh..it's a serious issue for me and i need help on it...?!
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Sigh..it's a serious issue for me and i need help on it...?
it's a pretty embarrassing to type this problem i'm facing...but whatever...a few days ago i'd been to my gyn. as i had period problems and she asked me if i masturbate because apparently my hymen is broken or something...in my culture from the place that i belong...if the girl's hymen isn't intact she's not considered a virgin...i might have broken it cause of sports or because i ride a bike...but i'm scared of how when i get married someday (i'm 18 right now) i'm going to be divorced the next morning because he thinks i'm not a virgin? isn't it embarrassing to have to tell someone that you broke it and you're still a virgin? i mean i feel like i'll have to tell him before i get married n all....but this thing still bugs me all the time....my parents dont know about it...any suggestions on what to do next?
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just because your hymen is broken, does not mean you are not a virgin. If you have never had sex, then you ARE a virgin. It is not uncommon for someone active in sports to rupture their hymen. A bad fall or accident can do the same thing. The important part is that YOU know you are a virgin. If this is an important part of your culture, it would be best to explain the situation to your intended before you marry. If he truly loves you, this SHOULD NOT be an issue. If you are comfortable talking to your mom about this, please do--she may have some helpful advice or suggestions for you. You may want to have another talk with your doctor on this subject and get his/her counsel on this.