I'm going to fall apart?!
Question: Ok, so this might seem a stupid question, I just needed to say it though before I go mad alltogether. I was very ill over Christmas with thie most horrible flu bug, which my poor boyfriend now has, he seems to have got it worse than me, he can't get up and do anything, seeing him sick is making me so depressed, I can't help him any more than I'm doing, he got up in the night, I got up to help him, I've not slept much for days, I've done EVERYTHING for him, I still feel inadiquate though. There are tons of jobs thatneed doing round the house, I don't have the strength to do it, if Ilose it, who will care for him :(
Answers: Ok, so this might seem a stupid question, I just needed to say it though before I go mad alltogether. I was very ill over Christmas with thie most horrible flu bug, which my poor boyfriend now has, he seems to have got it worse than me, he can't get up and do anything, seeing him sick is making me so depressed, I can't help him any more than I'm doing, he got up in the night, I got up to help him, I've not slept much for days, I've done EVERYTHING for him, I still feel inadiquate though. There are tons of jobs thatneed doing round the house, I don't have the strength to do it, if Ilose it, who will care for him :(
put this thought in your head and keep it there,there are far more people in the world who are much worse off than you and your boyfriend,you sound a very caring person and have obviously have a good heart but you have did everything you could have done for your boyfriend but you yourself needs time to get over this nasty bug.i broke 3 bones in my ankle on 23 nov,i live in a top flat where i have to climb 35 stairs to gt into my front door.i have arthritis and fibromylagia which effects the muscles and makes me very weak,sometimes i feel like ending it all and the only thing that keeps me going is thinking about the others in the world who are much worse off than i am.i have been out twice since that date,somedays i dont even have the strenght to lift my leg as its in plastercst up to my knee,my next adventure is on jan 22nd the day i go back to the hospital hopefully to have the cast removed,your partner will be fine honestly just him knowing that you are there for him will be enough although you cant see it at this moment in time as for your house......the house will be there when your not so why worry ? soon everything will be back to normal and then you'l smile again again and realise your situation wasnt as drastic as you thought,sooooooooooooo you have to keep your chinup sweetheart.forgot to mention,my young brother died on the 18th dec 2007,my husband and i had the same horrible bug as you and you partner so i too felt the way you do but only for a short time you will be fine and ofcourse so will you boyfriend,good luck and all the best for 2008 and hopefully you never get the awful bug again.
He's got flu not Cancer. Get a grip.
men always get it worse than women..... and whilst you are fussing over him he is lapping up the attention. did he do everything for you when you were ill??
i suggest you back of and give him a reason to get well again
Soooo, what's the question?
There are some people who live alone and get sick. They just need to rest really. Maybe you are doing too much for him. I would say if you are not well yet than you need to take a step back and get more rest. The housework will wait. Only do what HAS to be done.
Sorry u both have this awful bug.
I think you need tea and sympathy.
Just do the essential and leave the rest when u r feeling a little better. The tons of jobs can wait when u r both better and yr bf can help with those later.
Put yr feet up and make yrself a pot of hot tea you deserve it! Hope u feel better soon.
Good lord honey...stop being a servant for him. Do what you can to help him while he's sick, but driving yourself nuts over it and loosing sleep?? That's just stupid... calm down.. getting yourself sick again, or all worked up is going to do no good for either of you.
try having him care for himself a bit more.
call some of his friends in to help.
hire a nurse/aide for a night or two.
Relax. He will be fine. Just make sure he drinks lots of fluid. The house work WILL wait.
NO YOU WON'T!
Didn't you ever watch that movie 300? NEVER GIVE INTO PERSIANS!
has he seen a doctor!?
it is simply beautiful that you are trying your best . . . but you have other responsibilities. Ask one of his best friends, his mom and/or dad, some of your friends for some help around the house.
any little bit will help.
(doctor! PRONTO)
It is a simple fact that people do get ill.
Nobody can go through Life without catching some sort of bug like the flu you had over the Christmas Period.
Do not feel completley responsible for your Boyfriends come down with the illness. Things like this happen.
I was not too well over the Christmas Holidays myself, and somehow I believe I may of past it over to My Sister.
She responded much worse than myself.
Although at times I did feel slightly responsible.
All I could do is help her, comfort her and make sure She began to feel better.
I believe you need to do the same thing.
Stop feeling so guilty and get on with it.
It sounds pretty harsh I know, but its what you need to do.
If he wants to be left alone, leave him alone.
To be honest we dont want you catching it again.
:)
Hope this helped.
x
Congratulations! You just put the woman's movement back 50 years. You wouldn't be a Mormon would you? The Mormon women excel in acting second class citizens.
*Plays a violing then decides to beat you and ur whiny boyfriend up with it*..pfftttt...he's NOT dying! What kinds of jobs need to be done anyway? Geez, you'd think the world is coming to an end! Feed him poison and while you at it; take some too. Then you won't have any stupid unnecessary panic attacks online. Instead of spending time posting this and reading our response; i suggest you do the "jobs" that need to be done! *slap*!
Your not going to fall apart Cheryl, calm down, take a deep breath, do what you can for your boyfriend, but you must still rest yourself or you'll just make yourself worse.
Housework can wait!
Go back to bed, NOW, you need rest, he needs rest, just sleep, drink plenty of fluids, take paracetamol if needed and let the flu bug take its course.
Get well soon!
Get some sleep, you are just over tired. Everything will look better when you wake up!
Well first off you are both sick, sound like you need to make an appointment with your primary care physician or go to you nearest emergency room and get get checked out. I would ask a family member to drive both of you to the Doctor. Make sure that both of you are drinking lot of fluids and keep hydrated. If you get up and make a pot of tea make sure you make one for him. Have a box of tissues beside both of your night stands. Make sure you have a cup of water too. Ask one of your family member to come over and help. I know you don't want to risk getting someone else sick but you need help. Call your doctor and try to get some advice over the phone they will tell you what you need to do. I don't know how old you are or the medical conditions you both have, if any? Do you have an on call doctor or a doctor that makes house calls? What ever you do make sure you get medical attention. Good Luck and I hope you feel better.
is it flu or a very heavy cold he has as there is a world of difference the main thing he needs is plenty of fulid and bed rest plus paracetamol then he will soon be back on his feet again if by any chance he does seem to be getting worse seek medical advice
Hospital worker for over 20 years (pathology)
I got some sort of "flu" in september and was stuck with it for weeks. dont know even now what it was but it was'nt like the "usual" sort of flu that comes round each year.looking forward to hearing from the experts in spring what it was so i can curse the bloody by its name
You say he was very good to you because you were very sick with this same bug, he put himself in this situation because he loves you and wanted you well fretting now will undo all his efforts, so don't give in to this problem forget the house work wait until he is well again and do it together, instead be with him sleep when he does and be there for him when he is awake. give him what ever medication you have been prescribed and get some olbas oil to help clear his head also put a few drops on a hankie and slip it inside his pillow slip this Will ease his breathing and help dry up his cold.
I wish you both well.