What do you do about a stubborn grandma???/?!
Question: My grandma is about 75 and she is starting to get a lot of pain through her body and joints. She refuses to go to a doctor because she didn't choose "part B" on her medicare form and they won't let her re-do it which means she has to pay for all of her medical bills. I am starting to worry about her. None of the family will chip in for her bills and she says she would rather die than go to the nursing home. Any adivse on how to deal with her and convince her she needs to go to the doctor regardless?
Answers: My grandma is about 75 and she is starting to get a lot of pain through her body and joints. She refuses to go to a doctor because she didn't choose "part B" on her medicare form and they won't let her re-do it which means she has to pay for all of her medical bills. I am starting to worry about her. None of the family will chip in for her bills and she says she would rather die than go to the nursing home. Any adivse on how to deal with her and convince her she needs to go to the doctor regardless?
Dealing with stubborn loved ones can be very stressful. Sometimes you just have to accept their choices and find some way to make peace with them. Obviously you care for her very much. Do what you can for her: visit, massage her back, wash dishes, whatever. Seeing how much you lover her may make her want to go get help.
Do talk to her about it, but don't push. I really hope that she does see a doctor, for both of you.
I know it's not my business.......why doesn't anyone want to help? Did she not choose Plan B for financial purposes?
If her pain gets unbearable, maybe she could go to the hospital.....they can't refuse anyone.
I wish you both the very best.
Talk to her gently, and encourage her to get help. Don't treat her like a child. It won't help.
get her next of kihn 2 do something about it
slip nightquill in her tea and say go 2 da doctor be 4 u have another coma!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
wow.....well shes probly weaker then you cause she 75 so just throw her in the nursing home...its for her own good
Shop around for a doctor or doctors that pay cash, then pay for Grandma to go.
Either that or convince her to take Glucosamine with Chondroitin to help her with her joints. OTC analgesics wouldn't hurt either. If she has Rheumatoid Arthritis, the pain will increase greatly over time, and since it is a degenerative disease she may suffer fractures of the knee and hip. Then she will end up in a nursing home for sure. I work in one, and most of my patients have said they would rather die than go to a home, but end up having no choice.
My grandma has to be the most stubourn person in the world. And shes 90 years old. Over the years I've just had to accept that people do what they want. And you can't change the way they think or act unless they decide to change. Just let her know how much you love her and explain your point of view clearly and to the point. If she still doesn't budge, at least you tried, theres nothing else you can do.
Best of luck!
She should be able to re-enroll once a year. Until then, you have to let her do what she wants. If it gets really bad, she will go to the doctor regardless of the cost.