Helping her through the pain?!
Question: My girlfriend's mother died a few years ago. Ever since, she has had a tough time without her. I want to do something special for her. But I don't know what. Do anyone have any suggestions?
Answers: My girlfriend's mother died a few years ago. Ever since, she has had a tough time without her. I want to do something special for her. But I don't know what. Do anyone have any suggestions?
So sorry to hear about your friends loss. You are a great friend for wanting to help her. I lost my father when I was 16. We were very close and had a lot of hobbies that we shared. At 32 I still have my weak moments. I know this is okay it reminds me that he is still alive in my heart and mind. I remember after a few years that I realized I couldn't remember his voice. This felt so heart wrenching and like I was forgetting about him. I wonder if she is starting to recognize these same things? I have great friends who listen and sometimes don't say anything but give me hugs. Sometimes that is all I need. Sometimes I just need time to cry. I like to talk about him and remind myself of how proud he would be of the person I've become. Remind your friend of this. She may cry but inside she will be so happy! The grieving process is long and difficult for some. By being there for her you will recognize any signs of depression and if she needs some extra help. I commend you for being so wonderful in helping her. She will never forget you for it. Trips and gifts are only material things being there to listen is the best gift of all.
Take her on a vacation to her favorite place... she will enjoy that, she will get away with you( her friend ) and just listen to her...sometimes people just need to be heard. i think a trip with a friend would be great.
Don't do anything. Just be there when she needs you. You can't fix it, but you can provide security. Catch her when she falls, hold her up, hold her hand, kiss her check, take care of her.
Well the only thing that I can think about is, if she does not get out much now, is take her to some of her favourite places in town, and do some of her favourite things.
One of my friends says to take her out and get her drunk.
You are a great friend to stand by her!!!
An outing to a Day Spa, if it is in your budget.
This would give her a day that the world is being taken away.
If you can go, too it would be great.
Encourage to see a counselor. This has gone on a few years. I am sure her mom would not want her to be so handicapped with her death.
Life changes when there is such a huge lose in ones life. I lost my parents within two weeks. Very hard. I saw a counselor and talked to a Nun. It really helped.
The most important thing is to let her talk it out, cry it out, scream it out. Try making her some tea if she like that. Or her favorite meal. If she doesn't want to talk about it; just let her be. Just assure her that you are there for her.
Slap her in the head and tell her to cut the cord. She will hate you but it may be the best thing for her.