Is it a myth that women cope better with illness?!
Question: This week I have had a bad headcold and have not been at my best.I've tried to get on with things as best I can but it has been a struggle at times but overall I think I've done okay.However my wife and her friends tell me I've been a miserable so and so and that if I was a woman I would have just got on with it but I can certainly remember them complaining when they have been unwell.So, are men just whingers?
Answers: This week I have had a bad headcold and have not been at my best.I've tried to get on with things as best I can but it has been a struggle at times but overall I think I've done okay.However my wife and her friends tell me I've been a miserable so and so and that if I was a woman I would have just got on with it but I can certainly remember them complaining when they have been unwell.So, are men just whingers?
On the home base, I think women with kids and jobs and husbands know that the day to day stuff goes on whether they are sick or not. So they do it unless they are near death. Which is probably silly of us, but we do.
Men, on the other hand, usually rely on their woman to feed the kids, do the school dropoff, clean the house and go to work if they can't do it themselves. And once on the sickbed, their requests get really annoying because there is this kind of grudge that they don't reciprocate the care when their woman is sick. So we shortcut that to whingers.
You have a golden opportunity to become the alpha male your wife will brag about. The next time she is sick, send her to bed (alone!), look after the rest of it, take her food and drinks regularly and a bundle of flowers wouldn't go astray.
Apart from anything else, it will give you an insight to how much she does when you are sick.
And one final thing - for all men -
We KNOW what the flu feels like. We KNOW what a cold feels like. We KNOW (monthly!) what bad cramps feel like. So don't give a running commentary - that also qualifies as whinging.
You're a brave man putting that question out there! Well done.
I think men are bigger babies when it comes to being hurt or sick. Especially if they have a woman wife/girlfriend/mother around to take care of them.
No offense, just my personal experience.
"Babe, my tummy hurts... will you rub my belly??" I can't tell you how many different guys have said that or something similar to that to me.
When my boyfriend is sick he sits in bed whining like a little kid, but when I'm sick I just deal with it. I get up go to work, wash my truck, take out the trash, wash the dishes, pick up my nephew from school etc...
Edit: To Razor's Edge... "Put in their place" ?? What place is that? In the kitchen? In the delivery room?? Grow up.
Does the term "Man Flu" mean anything to you? Woman gets a cold, man gets 'flu, woman gets a headache, man gets migraine etc etc
Unless t here's blood and guts involved in which case women get panicky and men cope!
It varies from person to person, not gender to gender. There's a difference between being "miserable" and being a crybaby about it. Which are you?
The fact that your wife and her friends think that a "woman would just get on with it" is simply their erroneous sexism showing through. They're feminist in their attitudes, and should be put in their place. However, since you're here and asking this, I seriously doubt you have the testosterone in you to be the one to do it.
no, not a myth. women do have higher pain tolerance than men which is why nature made it so women would do the child-bearing thing and not men.
Women HAVE to cope better as we have to do the housework, shopping, and looking after kids as well as be expected to go out to work.
Sod feminism lets just go 50/50 on everything.
I've never heard that myth before but the reason why women have babies and not men is because they handle pain so much better than guys do.
Yep I'm afraid they seem to have a low pain threshold compared to women. Well, most men do but there are exceptions.
My dear daddy coped so much better than mother did or does when ill, but he died younger. Men should cry more, say when they are in pain more and enjoy their humanity more. Bless you and get well soon.
I think it's time to be fair to men and say not. Some obviously are but some women make a fuss as well. If I have a cold, I seem to get it badly and have runny eyes etc. I feel really miserable and don't want to see anyone. I just go into my cave until it is over. I don't moan because I don't have anyone to moan to but I probably would if I did. On the other hand I have seen my son go to work before he has really recovered from tonsillitus, which he gets very often. It's not a good idea to generalise.
I think the thing with men is that they give up and die when they have "man flu". I think married women rarely give in and go to bed when they are ill. Years ago, when my children were small, I dragged my poor body to school, to pick them up. I virtually collapsed on the way home. The doctor was called and I had pneumonia and pleurisy. Now that is poorly.
It's just a sweeping generalisation, the concept of "man flu" is a load of bullshit.