Death with morphine no food, no drink and no meds?????????!
Question: My mother is on an morphine and has been for 3 days...no food, no drink no meds....how long can she go on like this. We feel so guilty eating and drinking in front of her. I can't watch her suffer and die like this...
Answers: My mother is on an morphine and has been for 3 days...no food, no drink no meds....how long can she go on like this. We feel so guilty eating and drinking in front of her. I can't watch her suffer and die like this...
My Dad died 3 weeks ago, same thing. If he weighed 70lbs I'd be amazed. He stopped eating and drinking just like your Mom and has and they were giving him morphine in low doses just to take away any pain he might have and to make him comfortable. I don't live near my Dad so I hadn't seen him in a month. It was so hard to see him like that. We know our parents as strong people. Our safety nets. He was 77.
About 15 yrs ago, I lost my Mom. She died suddenly after a bout with the flu. She was 61 and healthy as a horse. She got the flu really bad and a few days into it ended up going to the hospital where she passed out in the waiting room. They gave her 3 bags of IV fluids and sent her home.The told her it was the flu and they couldn't do anything for her there and to go home and rest. She died in her sleep two hours later at home. Talk about being in shock!
I've lost a parent so fast it would make your head spin and I lost the other through a long illness. Although I hate the fact that Dad suffered with his illness, I had a chance to say what I needed to say to him and to tell him how much he meant to me, we chatted about some of the crazy times the family has had and wonderful moments. We talked about my retarded brother, assuring him I'd look after him. I had opportunities that I didn't have with my Mom that I'd give my life for one hour with her, that I got the chance to have with my Dad, and I got to get and give all of the hugs and kisses you could possibly fit into 4 days time.
During the last day of his life he was sort of half here and half not. In his sleep he'd reach up twds the heavens like there was something there he wanted to touch and I realized he was between two worlds and someday I would see him again, because someone was waiting for him, somewhere out there.
If you dn't have hospice involved, please think about calling them. They are free and there for the whole family. They can tell you moment by moment what's happening so you don't step out for a moment or take a cat nap and miss 'that moment'. Even if she's in the hospital or nursing home they'll come there.
Moms are hard. My heart breaks for you sweetheart. Your mom is ok and nature is taking place. Remember that she can hear you even after she passes. Talk to her. I know how you feel and you're not alone. If you need to talk I'm at sperdian@yahoo.com
I feel for you. If you do not get I.V. for nutrients she will not last long as anybody would not. I guess it is a termial illness so let Dr. make her as comfortable as possible. My grandmother was incohearent for 3 weeks with us putting mrphine and oxy liquid in side of mouth as she was not conscious. It is tough. I am almost in same position. I have no answers other then iv fluids and comfort. Keep her company as although she might not seem appreciative , she is. Good luck! and may god be with your family.
not eating nor drinking is more kind for dying people.
their death is not prolonged.
morphine will bring her into a 'dazy doze' and she will feel euforia (mellow sweet relaxed floaty feeling) and not notice any pain she has.
dehydration and starvation bring a body into a suspended stage, which is preparing her for death.
let her go. sit with her and say that it is ok for her to go and that you will meet her on the other side when the time is right.
it is the best best thing you can do for her and for yourself.
spend time smiling at her and washing her face and holding her hand and talking about happiness and tell her little stories about happy things in your life.
she will go when the time is right.
just eat and drink in a different room to hers.
be sensitive and be strong.
good luck.