Cutters ONLY?!
Question: well, i cut, but see i did for 8 months, then i stopped cuz my parents found out and said that if i do it again ill be sent to therapy or the hospital, but i cutted recently and its sorta noticable? and i dont want to go to therpy nor the hospital, im scared to go.
btw im 12.
1. what should i do?
2. what are some excuses to use if my parents do find out?
3. when will the scars go away if there pretty bad?
Answers: well, i cut, but see i did for 8 months, then i stopped cuz my parents found out and said that if i do it again ill be sent to therapy or the hospital, but i cutted recently and its sorta noticable? and i dont want to go to therpy nor the hospital, im scared to go.
btw im 12.
1. what should i do?
2. what are some excuses to use if my parents do find out?
3. when will the scars go away if there pretty bad?
Okay, I used to cut too, but I firmly vowed with myself that I would never do it again because I was so afraid that people would find out and I'd be taken into rehab or something (similar to you). Now I haven't done it in 3 months and I don't have any intentions to either.
But...
1) Ask yourself why you're doing it and realize that the scars will always be there (if it scars, which chances are it will). Your future friends and children (if you have any) will ask what they are. Imagine how awkward that'll be. There's no good reason to cut. If you need another way to release your feelings, then try a rubber band. You can snap it on your wrist, and it hurts, but it's not permanent. People also won't wonder why you have it there. You could also try holding an ice cube in your hand. Then try your absolute hardest to never do it again.
2) I'm not going to give you excuses because chances are that you do need help however much you don't want it. I realize that now (similar to you I started when I was 12, now I'm 14).
3) If they're pretty bad, then they won't ever go away unless you use some sort of treatment on them.
what the hell is wrong with u kids these days
theres something wrong with you.
you need psychological attention. dont use excuses, your parents know better than you, 12 year old.
just tell your parents you do it
im only gonna give u a site to read if u want... i am not going to lecture, as im sure u got that from ure parents.
first off, ask yourself why you cut,
second there is no excuse
third, the scars could stay for your life time
fourth, stop doing it, its crazy, and you sure would not get away with it if you were my kid
-_- wuts the point of cutting urself..its stupid
have you ever thought that cutting yourself is a sign that you have a problem and actually need a hospital and a psychitrist?!?!? . . .i'm being serious. if you keep this up, your gonna die. your rents are only looking out for you.
Your 12. Let me repeat that. YOURE 12! Come on, live your life. I garuntee that cutting will not make your life any better.
Hi there. I'm a former cutter and I think 12 is a really young age to be cutting. I'm not going to ask you why you are doing this, I'm sure you have your reasons. To answer your questions:
1. What should you do? First, put somehting like Polysporin (sorry I don't know how to spell that!) on the cut to reduce the risk of infection and keep the area clean.
2. If your parents find out, tell the the truth. If you are mature enough to cut, you are mature enough to handle the consequences. (see below after point 3)
3. You may have a scar for life. I do. However, you are young and the scar will probably fade with time.
I can tell you from experience, that soon smaller cuts become larger cuts and what you are doing is dangerous. You CAN actually hurt yourself VERY badly. It's not cool or fun but I suspect you are doing this for emotional reasons. I encourage you to stop now and seek more healthy outlets for your frustrations/anger/whatever you have going on. If you don't want to talk to your parents about it, you can contact Kids Help Phone or your school counsellor and they will talk with you. I don't think you need to be rushed off to a hospital or therapy. I think you just need to be shown a better way to deal with your issues. Try pouring your energy into something creative like writing poetry or drawing. I've been there, and the best advice I can give you is to stop cutting now (it can get addictive!). Best of luck to you. (hug)
your parents said they would take you to therapy for a reason.
dont you have to be atleast 13 for yahoo? hmm..
Firstly, ignore the stupid comments from people who think that taking the mickey is a helpful thing to do.
You have a problem that needs help. People who want to help you (therapists and the like) want you to get better. They will want to get you to a place (in your mind) where you don't need to hurt yourself any more. I know it's scary, but you have to be really brave & face up to the issues beneath the cutting. Maybe that's what really scares you about therapy & the hospital.
Tell your parents - they love you & want to protect you from harm. Cuts can become infected, and will always lead to some scarring.
It takes up to 12 months for a severe scar to lose its pink colour and fade. But of course, that depends on whether it heals normally. or whether bugs get in & slow the healing process.
Please, please, get help. You cannot face this alone, & injuring yourself will not help. I have scarring on my face, which was not caused by self-harm, & it upsets me think that you are giving yourself scars that you will see forever.
i agree w/vtecpakiness and cheap and cheerful
I am so, so sorry that you are feeling so bad that you need to cut right now. I have cut off and on over the years (I am in my mid 20s). During the periods when I was cutting I used it as a way to express the pain I felt in my mind and to help transfer it to physical pain (I have clinical depression and an anxiety disorder).
1. The hard thing about cutting is that it leaves a physical mark on your body. It is hard to see the pain you feel inside but it is easy to see the pain you have caused on the outside. I am sure that somewhere inside you don't really want to keep cutting for the rest of your life. It might make you feel better while you are doing it but in the long term it does nothing but cause scars.
3. Scars fade over time. You are still pretty young which means it is easier for you to heal and the scars should become less noticeable. However, it depends how deeply you cut, where you cut, and how many times you have cut the same areas. I am lucky; I have no really noticeable scars. This is not the case for several of my friends (many of whom started cutting at close to your age). Cuts on the arms and legs do not seem to heal well and you may have them for the rest of your life (although they will fade somewhat).
I responded to your question because I have had problems much like yours and they can get better. In the short term, you can cover your scars with long sleeves, but in the long term nothing is fixed. You wrote that you did not want to go to therapy or to a hospital because you were scarred. I realize you are afraid, but what I would really recommend is that you give therapy a try. I have been in therapy off and on since I was your age and it has really helped. Going to therapy doesn't mean that you're crazy or a bad person and while it may be scary at first, it is not scary after you start. Therapists want to help you so that you don't feel the need to cut anymore. And although it is unlikely that you will need to go into a hospital, I have heard that they can be very helpful and are not scary either (I have a friend who has been to one several times). If you don't feel comfortable talking to your parents about cutting, you can talk to a teacher or other adult in your life who you trust. I am sorry if the last time your parents found out they were upset. I am sure the didn't mean to make therapy out to be a threat; they were just scarred and wan you to be happy. Please, please, please consider telling someone you trust that you feel that you are having problems with cutting. Things can get better. Good luck.
Whats a cutter?
I advise you to be honest with your parents. Tell them you want to sit down and discuss why you cut yourself.
If they have an organization for drugs and alcohol they must have a group for cutting so talk to your parents about going there for therapy.
My next suggestion is serious, when you feel like cutting yourself try carving. If you get pleasure from cutting yourself hopefully you can get pleasure from carving. As someone suggested, start a diary or try and find a discussion group on the web who has stopped cutting. Make this the day you no longer hide your cutting and your parents understand why you do this.
Just think, if you learn to carve you can profit from that in the future. Asking for help does not mean you are a weak person, it means you understand you have a problem you want to conquer
I just stopped cutting myself and you need to stop. If you scar, the scars will be there FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE. You will look down at the scars and always remember the things that bothered you so much and made you cut in the first place. Your problems won't only be etched on your skin they will be etched on your brain and you WILL feel regret. Your parents won't find out because you are going to quit. You need a therapist. I went to one, and it isn't bad. You can tell them everything and it feels like a huge weight has been lifted off of your shoulders. You are TWELVE. Live your life like a twelve year old and be more like a kid and have fun instead of slitting yourself. You know better than that, especially at twelve.
I think the only way to deal with this problem is to cut yourself.