Im planning on not drinking. smoking. or drinking coffee - good idea?!
Question: Right so im a teenager with the peer pressure and all that.
and im 15.
some of my friends are into the drinking and parties and stuff like that.
some girls in my year smoke.
and drink coffee.
im trying to see if i can never or wait a long time to do any of it (besides smoking, never wanna smoke)
cause i get this thought that i will live a better life if i dont start drinking or go to these parties...but then i feel excluded cause my friends dont ask me to come because they know im not interested.
am i doing the right thing?
Answers: Right so im a teenager with the peer pressure and all that.
and im 15.
some of my friends are into the drinking and parties and stuff like that.
some girls in my year smoke.
and drink coffee.
im trying to see if i can never or wait a long time to do any of it (besides smoking, never wanna smoke)
cause i get this thought that i will live a better life if i dont start drinking or go to these parties...but then i feel excluded cause my friends dont ask me to come because they know im not interested.
am i doing the right thing?
YES!!! At least I think so. You're making choices with you're health and longterm well-being in mind. Its very important to do what you feel is right for you in life, whatever it is, and not cave to the opinions of others.
I know its hard when you feel excluded. Maybe you could arrange to do something else with you're friends that doesn't involve these activities, and/ or look into doing something extracurricular that would allow you to meet new people with similar values to you. You don't have to ditch you're old friends; just expand you're social network, so you don't feel as pressured to join in with activities you know are bad for you.
Also, if you have some friends who really pressure you to do things you don't feel good about, I would question whether they're worth remaining friends with; you need friends who support you're choices not undermine them.
Congratulations on being strong enough to stick to you're beliefs!!!
yes you are and You should be proud of yourself
you must have loving parents who taught you good values
and now you are becoming a young adult and it's nice to see
You an think for yourself and chose to be a leader instead of a follower. Good for you... a mom and grandma
I don't think I will worry about the future of civilization any more. Seems that it is in good hands.
Never Smoke! My advice once you start you will keep saying asking yourself whole life that why did you do it first time. No matter how much you peers force you but NEVER EVER smoke first time. there is no need to be first for everything remember it. As far as it about drinking you can do that once in a while on special stuff but never smoke. And coffee has also caffeine in it which will make you addicted to it. so never do that but drink in the winter times once in a while. Good Luck. DON"T SMOKE
yea your doing the right thing your better off with out all those substances, im 17 and i have friends and family who all drink, none smoke thankfully but i have no ambition to even touch alcohol, you dont need it to have a good time as for people who say it helps relax you, you can get the same thing from watching your favorite TV show or w/e.
You dont need alcohol to have a good time and the people who go out and get hammered everynight are damn fools, if you can stay away from alcohol and ciggarettes, but if you cant take them in moderation
Anyone who forces you to something to yourself that can harm you isn't a true friend. Tell your friends you want to make up your own mind.
(EDIT) @Toma D,
If you don't agree with my response then you agree that Ruining your body is the right ting to do. I doesn't matter about the person when hey become addicted because it RUINS them.
Have you not seen the effects of drugs? It doesn't matter WHO you are, it is just a matter of making the right choice.
By the way, Taking illicit drugs is illegal! Why bother?
Don't feel excluded for making the right choice :)
I don't agree with the guy above me.
Ok, you can look at this through a stereotypical 'Good-Samaritan' view, or the realistic teenager view.
Good Samaritan View = "Anyone who offers you substances that harm your body isn't a true friend". Obviously 'drugs are bad' (very vague answer), and you shouldn't do them. Stand strong and be yourself!
Now, the REAL view (I'm 17 years old) = If there's a party that everyone goes to, obviously, over 90% of the party-goers will be intoxicated.
Saying 'drugs are bad' 'drinking is bad'..is stupid. It ALL depends on the person.
Realistically, if you have no genetic problems with alcoholism or any other alcohol-related issues, having a few beers at a local party with friends WILL NOT HURT YOU.
Doing 10 shots of tequila will make you sick and you'll definitely have a lame night.
I really believe that having a drink at a party is no harm at all, really. It's easy to jump-the-gun, but coming from a teenager, let's be realistic.
Smoking on the other hand is different, it really IS easy to get addicted. It creeps up on you, and before you know it, you're hooked. I wouldn't say just start smoking cause everyone else is. Not a good idea.
Coffee isn't bad for you, neither is drinking alcohol, if you keep it in moderation. Having a coffee at lunch or something will not hurt you or affect you in the long term.
Having 5 cups a day every day might start to do some minor damage. It's all about moderation.
So, that's my view on the situation.
And if you really don't want to drink, go to a party, have fun, dance and hang out with friends. Drunk people are funny.
yes you are. a lot of teenagers make really bad decisions that they regret for a long time when under the influence. You don't want to get raped, have sex when you aren't ready, get an std, or get pregnant. You also don't want to wake up and have no idea what happened to you the night before. So scary!
You won't regret not waiting. It may seem like you are missing out on a lot, but it's worth it. There is plenty of time for that stuff when you are older, and in college.
Also, at 15, you are still growing and developing. You don't want to hurt your body, and these things really can.
So stay smart, and be strong. Ignore the pressure. And good for you!
U are doing the right thing and dont pay attention when it comes to friends not inviting you cause later in ur life ull be happy with ur decision and ull have friends that also made this decision and ull live a good life